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by Jekaterina Gussarova August 05, 2022 3 min read



Having sex is all about discovering and exploring your desires. You may not know what you want or what you are into, especially as a first-timer. When trying out sex for the first time, you may have various concerns. You may also wonder how you will handle the anxiety and the safety measures during the process. Here is everything you need to know about first-time sex to clear the confusion in your head.

What Happens To The Body During Sex?

Your body won't show any noticeable signs after having sex. During the play, you may breathe hard and sweat heavily. These changes usually result from the physical nature of sex. The vulva swells because of increased blood flow. After making love, everything will be normal again, just like how it does after an exercise. 

Most women have a thin membrane in the vagina, hymen, that might stretch and tear during first-time sex, exercise, or any strenuous activity. It may stretch during the first sexual encounter and lead to bleeding if it tears. However, the hymen may tear before having sex. If your worry is blood stains, use a dark-colored cloth or towel.

Will it Hurt?

Focusing on if it will hurt is the major anxiety surrounding first-time sex. You will not feel pain if you are relaxed, comfortable, and focused on the body. You will only experience slight discomfort because of the new experience. If you feel pain, it may result from friction, which can be prevented by using lubricants. Lubes make sex comfortable and enjoyable. You can also engage in sufficient foreplay to stimulate the vagina to produce more lubricants before sex. 

Will I Experience an Orgasm?

For most people, first-time sex feels uncomfortable and weird. Also, you may be nervous. Therefore, it is difficult to reach orgasm. However, this is normal, and sex without orgasm may be enjoyable and best for a deeper connection between lovers. 

Can I Get Pregnant Having Sex for the First time?

If you are mature enough, you may get pregnant during your first sexual encounter. If this is not the goal, use the different birth control methods available.

How To Reduce the Anxiety of First-time Sex

First-time sex is usually accompanied by anxiety. Below are some of the things you can do to cope with anxiety. 

Right Partner

When having sex with someone you trust, you feel safe, and you will be less anxious. This will make the session more enjoyable.

Go for a Comfortable Location

Find a comfortable or cozy place to have your first-time sex. An uncomfortable and unfamiliar place may make it difficult to focus and enjoy. 


Foreplay may help reduce anxious feelings. Foreplay involves touching and kissing, which helps you feel comfortable with your body and your partner.

Take It Slow

You may feel more anxious when you rush sex to reach the next level. Allow yourself to concentrate on what is happening and let everything happen naturally. When you take enough time to enjoy the process, your sexual experience will be relaxed and enjoyable. 

Try Again Later

It is very common for first-time sex not to be perfect. However, that does not mean that sexual experience will always be bad. Give it a second chance when you are comfortable. 

Safety Tips for First-time sex

Unprotected sex may lead to unwanted pregnancy and transmission of STIs and AIDS. Below are discussed measures that you should take.  

Avoiding STIs 

Unsafe sex leads to the spread of STIs, which include;

  • Genital herpes
  • Chlamydia
  • Gonorrhea
  • Hepatitis B and C
  • Syphilis

Some diseases may be treated using antibiotics, while others are incurable. Use a condom to prevent the risk of getting such infections.  Also, reduce the risk of unplanned pregnancy by using birth control pills. This alters the hormones to prevent the egg from being released. However, only condoms can prevent getting STIs and unwanted pregnancy.

The Bottom Line

First-time sex usually feels weird for many people. However, one can take measures to ensure they are comfortable and relaxed throughout the process and able to deal with the anxiety. In addition to that, you should know the safety tips to prevent the risk of unplanned pregnancy and the contraction of STIs.

Jekaterina Gussarova
Jekaterina Gussarova

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