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by Katie Peachesa April 10, 2020 6 min read

Bedroom Bondage Sex Toys For Better Foreplay

By Ksenia Sobchak

BDSM covers a wide variety of acts and although it's often associated with the infliction of pain and humiliation, there is a lot more to the subject of kink than meets the eye. Fetish play can also be soft, sensual and romantic, focusing on sensory enhancement and changing the way you and your partner interact eroticly.

Experimenting with bedroom bondage is one of the most popular ways to spice up your sex life because it's simple, fun and effective. A wide array of specialist tools help you to create a tailored experience that caters to your own personal desires, letting you pick and mix just the things you'd like to try. If you fancy a little tie and tease in the bedroom, why not try incorporating bondage into your foreplay for a passionate night to remember?

Will Tying Up My Partner Lead to Better Sex?

Trying bondage during foreplay and sex can indeed lead to more exciting sexual experiences. In fact trying anything new in the bedroom will ensure things are always interesting and you don't fall into a sexual rut.

On an emotional level there's a greater emphasis on trust during bondage play. One partner is completely enslaved to the desires of the other, so there should naturally be an improved sense of communication both before and during play. Better communication and an amplified sense of trust can lead you to new levels of emotional intimacy, as well as opening you up to talking about other things that you'd like to try in the future.

How to Try Bondage with Your Partner

Take time to talk to your partner about the different things you'd like to try and incorporate one or more of those things into your bondage play. Don't try to fit everything into one session as you'll find there's too much to concentrate on and things will begin to feel a little orchestrated. Always leave room for spontaneity and anticipation to maximise the impact of every touch.

It's good to take turns trying out both dominant and submissive roles to find your natural flow. Some partners are naturally dominant, others submissive and there are plenty of people who switch, meaning they enjoy both roles.

Blindfolding Your Partner

The key to a good bondage dynamic is letting go of your inhibitions, but in practice that can be easier said than done. For those feeling a little shy about their first time, a blindfold is an essential part of your beginner's bondage kit. Slipping a blindfold over the submissive partner's eyes helps to relieve any nerves you or your partner might have about being watched, so you can better enjoy the experience. The sub will also benefit from enhanced physical sensation as every kiss, touch and caress is amplified by a heightened sense of anticipation.

Tying Up Your Partner - Different Types of Restraint

There is a baffling array of paraphernalia designed for restraint and it can be tricky to know where to start. Both the look and functionality of bondage gear is important, so take your time to familiarise yourself with how it works and don't just focus on the visuals.

Handcuffs lend themselves to an authoritarian feel and are common accessories for roleplay in the bedroom. Handcuffs are a popular choice for bondage beginners as they're simple to use and often have safety catches for a quick release. It's worth remembering that handcuffs can be uncomfortable if worn for too long and should never be done up too tightly. For the best handcuff experience, use them during standing and kneeling positions.

A pair of wrist cuffs make an excellent substitute for handcuffs as they're more comfortable to wear for long periods of time. Most sets have a removable connecting chain or clip to make it easier for you to change positions during foreplay and sex. You'll often find that wrist cuffs are complemented by a matching set of ankle cuffs, so you can place your partner in full-body restraint by connecting their wrists to their ankles.

Bondage scarves and ropes provide you with enough length to create your own restraints, so they can be used in a wide variety of ways. Rope bondage is trickier to master and will require you to do some reading but it's both beautiful and versatile, so it's worth the time and effort spent. Soft scarf restraints can be used by anyone able to tie their own shoelaces, making them the ideal introduction to tying your own restraints. Scarves also have a more sensual look and feel, lending themselves to those in search of a more romantic bondage experience.

If you fancy having more of a bondage playground at your disposal, try using a set of bed restraints. They slip under the mattress and fit to any bed size so you can instantly transform your sleep space into a kinky full-body rack. 4 cuffs protrude from the mattress edge, allowing you to tie down either the wrists, the ankles or both.

What is Sensory Play and How do You Incorporate it into Bondage Play?
Sensory play puts the tease in tie and tease. The idea is to slowly build up sensation by avoiding contact with intimate areas until your partner is so turned on they feel like they might explode. This achieved by using soft, sensual and teasing motions that would normally lead to intimate contact but shy away at the last minute.

Erotic massage is a popular way to enjoy tie and tease. Tie up your partner and use a warmed massage oil or a massage candle for lubrication and glide your hands over your partner's body. Use slow strokes and lingering traces with your finger tips to awaken the nerve endings, grazing them provocatively across the neck, waist, hip bones and inner thighs. Incorporate a little foot massage to really heighten response, our feet are incredibly erogenous and are often overlooked during tie and tease.

You don't have to get oiled up to sensitize the skin. Using a soft and fluffy feather tickler across the sensitive parts of your partner's neck and torso will invoke a similar response. Keep things feeling new and exciting by interchanging the feather's touch with your fingers and lips, offering a greater variety of sensations.

Spanking Paddles and Flogger Whips

It's not just ticklish touches that can drive us into erotic frenzy. Spanking paddles and floggers can be use to awaken the nerve endings, leaving skin feeling more sensitized to the touch. The trick is to be light with your strokes and don't focus on inflicting pain. These tools might look menacing and they certainly can be, but their effects are often better utilised with thoughtful strokes broken up with erotic caresses and squeezes.

Keep spanking and whipping to the fleshy parts of the bottom and thighs. When using a paddle, aim to lightly tap the sweet spot at the base of the buttocks and tops of the thighs, this will provide some light genital stimulation. Floggers should be teased across the skin so the tails gently tickle the bottom and thighs before lightly swinging it to impact across the same sexy areas.

Sex Toys

Bringing sex toys into your bondage play will help ensure you have an explosive climax. Vibrating love eggs, jiggle balls and butt plugs are popular toys for subs as they heighten the erotic pleasure they feel from your teasing motions and escalate their sexual anticipation even further. The dominant partner can also enjoy intensified pleasure by wearing a vibrating sex toy during bondage scenes, offering them hands-free stimulation to bring them up to speed with the sub's excitement.

Once you're nearing the end of your teasing session, using sex toys can help make the resulting orgasm even more powerful. Use a vibrating sex toy like a cock ring or a bullet to tease the genitals, avoiding the most sensitive areas below his glans and around her clitoris and vagina. Once you've reached this advanced state of arousal, you can choose to keep it as foreplay to remember or move onto having sex to remember. Be warned, the sex isn't likely to last too long for either of you.

Recommended Bondage Sex Toys

Strict Leather Bondage Sensory Deprivation Hood

Strict Leather Bondage Sensory Deprivation Hood

To ensure your slave is totally compliant to your desires and obedient to your pleasures we have this stunning Strict Leather Sensory Deprivation Hood, and the best way to get them to obey is to deprive them of all senses. The fabulous Strict Leather Sensory Deprivation Hood is a complete black leather head hood that fits completely over the head and fixes into place via traps and buckles with padlocks and D-rings to the collar. Once the three straps are pulled across the mouth, eyes and ears your slave will be deprived of sight, voice and sound leaving them under your complete control. This hood has, padded leather ear pockets, padded leather reinforcement for eyes and mouth and 34 inch mouth hole. Leather laced rear back for snug fit and 3 extra leather locking straps. The straps can be used with or without padlocks.n nMediumLarge 22-28 inches in circumference and necks between 18-23 inches.

Fastening: Buckle
Washing: Wipe down
Colour: Black
Flexibility: Slight
For Who: Both
Material: Leather
Brand: Various Toy Brands

Katie Peachesa
Katie Peachesa

Katie Peachesa is a sex and lingerie blogger based out of the urban chic Wapping in the heart of East London, United Kingdom. In her spare time, Katie enjoys photography, yoga and fitness, a bit of boxing, traveling, keeping up with the latest fashion trends and mudlarking and exploring pastoral settings. You are likely to find Katie in an artisan cafe in Brick Lane on a Saturday afternoon furiously typing her next article on her laptop whilst she is sipping on her flat white and drawing inspiration from the hustle and bustle in the heart of creative London. Katie runs the "Fashion Life Mag" and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Allure, Grazia, Tatler, Evening Standard and other popular media outlets.


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