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October 19, 2017 3 min read

Beginner's Guide To Slave Collars

By Elena Ognivtseva

The Dominant-Submissive relationship is a strong connection that comes with clear cut responsibilities and expectations associated with the roles. Being a dominant requires that you always ensure that no harm comes to your submissive during play, no matter how intense it may get. The submissive is expected to follow the instructions and make sure that they are comfortable in relinquishing control to their master. Slave collars are usually used to seal the relationship and if you are interested in dipping your toe into the BDSM pool, there are some things that you need to have in mind regarding slave collars.


  • Slave collars are worn around the neck, a very sensitive body part. To avoid any serious damages from occurring, always ensure that you keep the whole experience safe.
  • Never tie the collar too tight. This may inhibit breathing and your submissive may end up losing consciousness. Always ensure that you can fit two fingers under the collar comfortably.
  • Never tug on a collar as this may cause injury or even whiplash. Pulling on a leash should be done gently without any rush.
  • Before starting the session, always ensure that you discuss a safe word to be used when things get too much. The safe word is the submissive’s only control and this is important for their safety.
  • If you notice any signs of distress, stop the session immediately. Never try to extend the session because the discomfort seems minor as this may only aggravate the situation.

Types of Collars

Collars in BDSM have meanings, with different collars symbolizing different things thereby sending very specific messages.

  • Training Collar

This collar is designed for novices and is intended to guide them into the journey as they make their way in the BDSM world. The plain collar has one or more rings that allow for attachment of leads that the dominant tugs on gently when the submissive does something incorrectly. The training collar gives the submissive a clear experience of what they are in for once they fully get integrated into the BDSM experience.

  • Collar of Consideration

Although some people prefer jumping right in, this collar is used as a proposal from a dominant to a submissive. The dominant offers this collar to the submissive as a proposal for the submissive for a long term commitment. Once accepted, the submissive is now not available to any other dominants in the community.

  • Collar of Ownership

Upon successful completion of the training sessions the dominant and the submissive may decide to take things further. In this case, the dominant hands the submissive a collar of ownership signifying that the control now rests completely with them and the submissive is solely his or hers for the entirety of the relationship. If the submissive chooses to leave at any point in time, the collar is returned to the dominant as it is rightfully his.

  • Collar of Protection

If a dominant takes up a submissive who was previously in an abusive relationship, the dominant may take the role of the protector. In this case, the submissive wears the protection collar as they recover and take the time to heal. Dominants can be very possessive and this protection is to ensure that no further harm comes to their beloved possession. The collar of protection is usually given by dominants who have a high standing in the community. They do this if they are asked for protection or they sometimes offer the protection.

Collar Styles

There are so many different styles when it comes to choosing a collar. With the different designs come different capabilities and functionalities. The common factor is that most have either a D ring or an O ring that is used to attach leads. The collars are either integrated with leases, nose hooks or nipple clamps. For beginners however, it is advised that you start with a simple collar which has a simple locking mechanism and a D ring or O ring. As you slowly advance in your game, take up the more complicated collars as you see fit, making sure to take the time to fully grasp the different functionalities of the collars. Always ensure that you are on the same page with your partner, making sure you only advance when you are both physically and psychologically ready.