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by Katie Peachesa April 08, 2020 3 min read

Bondage and BDSM Checklist

By Ekaterina Mironova

Ever fancied entering the world of bondage, domination and BDSM but were afraid to because - well - where do you start? It is important for a dominant partner too know what their submissive enjoys, doesn't enjoy, will do and will not do. But as everyone knows the world of BDSM, is so varied and potentially complex how do you pass on this information, likes and dislikes?

Some will say just tell each other, but let's face it that can be a bit embarrassing, especially if it is a new mistress, or your relationship is fairly young.

Well we have created a list which, although not exhaustive, will give both partners the chance to express what they desire the most. Use the list as much or as little as you require, you do not need to enter something in every box. Remember the whole idea of BDSM is for both parties to enjoy themselves, so be honest and keep it Safe, Sane and Consensual.

How to use the list

The list is divided into three general areas of bondage activities - fetish activities, medical activities and sexual activities. Within each area the activities are listed with three boxes to be completed.
  • Done it? Yes or no, no explanation needed here.
  • Arousal (0-5). 0 - a turn off, 1 - no opinion (neither a turn off or a turn on), 2 - mild turn on, 3 - a turn on, 4 - major arousal, 5 - incredibly aroused.
  • Consent (0-5). 0 - will never do it under any circumstances (also known as a hard limit), 1 - unwilling but will do it under stern orders if the dominant partner really wants it, 2 - unwilling but will do it under orders, 3 - willing but gets no major enjoyment from it, 4 - wants to do it, 5 - really wants to do it.
Fetish Activities
Activity Done it Arousal Consent Activity Done it Arousal Consent
Abrasion Hair pulling
Acrophilia Hand cuffs
Acrotomophilia Harnessing: leather
Agalmatophilia Harnessing: rope
Altocalciphilia Headphone/earplugs
Ankle restraints Hot oils (on genitals)
Arm sleeves Hot waxing - genitals
Asphyxiation Hot waxing - nipples
Barosmia Intricate rope bondage
Bastinado Labial clip
Beating full body heavy Leather restraints
Beating full body medium Manacles/shackles/irons
Beating, full body light Mental Bondage
Biting Mummification
Blindfold Nipple clamps
Body bags Nipple clamps w/chain
Body worship - legs Nipple clothespins
Body worship - sexual Nipple weights
Bondage outdoor setting Nylon Rope
Bondage private setting Padlocks
Bondage public setting Pinching
Bondage semi-public Plastic wrap
Boot worship Punching
Boxing/closeting Restraint duration: 0-1 hr
Breast bondage Restraint duration: 1-3 hrs
Caging Restraint duration: 3+ hrs
Chains Restraint duration: multiple days
Chest Bondage Restraint duration: overnight or full day
Cotton Rope Restraints in public (under clothes)
Cross dressing Scratching
Crucifixion Sensory deprivation
Crucifixion Silk scarves
Cupping, suction Sleepsacks
Cutting, blood sports Slings/swings
Dacryphilia Spandex
Dendrophilia Spanking belt/strap
Dirty sex, mud/dirt/oil Spanking crop
Dirty words Spanking flogger
Duct tape Spanking hand
Elastrator Spanking on all fours
Erotic dancing Spanking over knees / bent over
Face sitting - clothed Spanking paddle/hairbrush
Face sitting - naked Stocks/pillory
Face slapping Straightjackets
Fantasy abandonment Suspension: horizontal
Fantasy gang rape Suspension: inverted
Fantasy rape Suspension: off floor
Feathers & fur Suspension: partially touching floor
Faeces: eating Suspension: upright
Faeces: playing with Thumbcuffs
Faeces: scat Use of ceiling/wall hooks
Fireplay Velcro restraints
Fisting anal Video taped scenes
Fisting vaginal Voyeurism (watching others)
Food play Whipping: breasts
Full Body Bondage Whipping: bullwhip
Hoods - full head Whipping: genitals
Gags Whipping: knotted whip
Gang rape fantasy Whipping: leather cat
Gates of hell Whipping: limited part of body
Genital Bondage Whipping: single lash
Genital torture Whipping: switch
Genital weights Whipping: tawse
Golden showers Wrestling


Sexual Activities
Activity Done it Arousal Consent Activity Done it Arousal Consent
Butt plugs Sex - handjob
Dildo - anal Sex - oral giving
Dildo - oral Sex - oral receiving
Dildo - vaginal Sex - thighs
Double penetration (dildo) Sex - vaginal
Double penetration (multiple partners) Sexual deprivation (long term)
Female ejaculation Sexual deprivation (short term)
Pearl necklaces Swapping (one other couple)
Sex - anal Swallow own juices
Sex - armpits Threesome
Sex - ass cheeks Triple penetration (dildo)
Sex - breasts Triple penetration (multiple partners)
Sex - fingers Vibrators - anal
Sex - group Vibrators - vaginal


Medical Activities
Activity Done it Arousal Consent Activity Done it Arousal Consent
Catheterization Nasogastric tube
Douching Nasophilia
Enemas Needles
Injections Speculums - anal
Medical exams, physical Speculums - vaginal
Medical scene: other Urethal sounds
Katie Peachesa
Katie Peachesa

Katie Peachesa is a sex and lingerie blogger based out of the urban chic Wapping in the heart of East London, United Kingdom. In her spare time, Katie enjoys photography, yoga and fitness, a bit of boxing, traveling, keeping up with the latest fashion trends and mudlarking and exploring pastoral settings. You are likely to find Katie in an artisan cafe in Brick Lane on a Saturday afternoon furiously typing her next article on her laptop whilst she is sipping on her flat white and drawing inspiration from the hustle and bustle in the heart of creative London. Katie runs the "Fashion Life Mag" and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Allure, Grazia, Tatler, Evening Standard and other popular media outlets.


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