How to Role Play: A BDSM Guide for Beginners

How to Role Play: A BDSM Guide for Beginners

By Tatyana Dyachenko

Roleplay involves two or more people acting out different sexual fantasies. They may use different play scenario’s.A scenario could be something very basic or an elaborate and well planned.

A basic scenario- a girl dresses up as a naughty school girl, while the guy takes on an authority figure as a teacher.Many of the most common sexual roleplays involve people either being a dominate role or a submissive role.The dominate player takes control over the submissive person, this can get dangerous so a safe word should be used. It’s important to discuss all the boundaries that you want to set, before taking part in roleplay.

Sexual roleplay can help to keep a relationship exciting and be a helpful tool when exploring your sexual desires. Roleplaying helps you take on the personality of someone else and will lead to you trying new sexual techniques. It takes time to come up with different scenario’s to act out, but the best fantasy can take a bit of planning.

Leave any inhibitions you may have, create an exciting fantasy and let your imagination run wild. In simple roleplay you don’t have to get dressed up, you can just change your personality. More complex role playing involves costumes and props (sex toys, variety of household items).Use ideas from movies, magazines, books. Act out your favourite movie sex scene, pretend you are having sex with the hot guy/girl at the coffee shop.

You may choose to write down a small script to act out or you can be spontaneous about it. A fantasy may be a positive or negative experience, or even both. Acting out fantasies can and should be about core relationship elements like communication, intimacy and acceptance, and can both indicate and create strength in a relationship.

Some fantasies you may act out could be; Doctor and nurse, model and photographer, striper/ client, master/ slave, cop/prisoner, handyman, house wife, French maid, age play , medical play, gender reversal, fetish( like pony play) .Some people like to role-play in front of strangers or with other couples. Role-playing is not inclusive to bdsm, but it is a large part of the scene.