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July 27, 2022 5 min read


An orgasm is the epitome of any sexual activity. Everyone wants to achieve it or make the other person get there. Unfortunately for some women, reaching orgasms is harder, or they have no idea how to reach there. What can help you experience that ultimate pleasure? Here are tips on how.

Having an orgasm is one of the things people expect when in sexual activity. This is different for men and women. Orgasms in men are accompanied by ejaculation. However, reaching orgasms is harder for some women. During sexual activity, women can get an orgasm, multiple orgasms, or none at all. Studies have shown that only a small percentage of women orgasm compared to men. What can you do to help you reach an orgasm? In this article, we will look into what the female orgasm is and the types of orgasms there are. It also points out why it is hard for some women to orgasm and tips to get there.

What Is an Orgasm

An orgasm is the intense release of accumulated sexual tension and sensation. It is also known as the big 'O', coming or climaxing. Orgasming is accompanied by voluntary and involuntary contraction of the muscles, especially the pelvic floor. A female can feel her pulse quicken, breathing becomes heavy, and a flush appears on her body. The genital and pelvic muscles contract and you feel your body tense. Some women ejaculate when they orgasm, while others squirt. However, some find it hard to get to that point during sex. However, penetration is not the only way a woman can orgasm.

Types of Female Orgasms

Various types of female orgasms are achieved in different ways other than penetration. These are outlined as follows:

Clitoral Orgasm

Clitoral orgasm is the most common and easier way for a female to orgasm. The clitoris is the most sensitive erogenous zone in a woman. It responds to direct and indirect stimulation. It becomes sensitive and erect as the female is aroused. Hajare (2019) stated that the clitoris has over 8000 nerve endings, more than the male penis. You can practice by touching yourself and finding out what works for you. Herbenickl et al. (2018) suggested that you could stimulate the clitoris by rubbing it with the fingers or tongue in a circular motion. Try a clitoral stimulator to achieve more orgasms.

Vaginal Orgasm

During penetration, women can experience vaginal orgasms. Stimulation of the G-spot can lead to a vaginal orgasm. According to Sayin & Kocatürk (2012), the G-spot is located 2.4 to 4 cm on the front wall of the vagina. Kegel exercises have proved to help achieve vaginal orgasms. Using sex toys can also help you achieve the big 'O'. Apart from the G spot, studies have shown other vaginal areas that can stimulate an orgasm. The A-spot is situated towards the front, deep part of the vagina, near the cervix, and below the bladder. The O-spot is between the back part of the vagina called the posterior fornix and the rectum.

Erogenous Orgasms

Non-genital stimulation can get women to orgasm. Erogenous zones that can make a woman reach an orgasm include the lips, ears, nipples, knees, and neck. Stimulating these parts can lead to a full-body orgasm. These differ for every female.

Blended Orgasms

This is an orgasm achieved through both vaginal and clitoral stimulation. A blended orgasm is more intense than a single orgasm through the clitoris or vagina. Start massaging the clit and wait until one is completely aroused before penetration.

Multiple Orgasms

Males have a refractory period between orgasms. For ladies, this is not the case. Sayin (2012) noted that a person with a vagina could have a sequence of orgasms with increased intensity and pleasure. This can be clitoral or vaginal and proper stimulation.

Anal Orgasm

Regarding men, anal stimulates the prostate; for those with vaginas, this stimulates the G-spot, A-spot, and the internal part of the clitoris. The anus does not naturally lubricate like the vagina. Ensure to use lube before anal penetration.

The Orgasm Gap

Mahar et al. (2020) showed that fewer women experience orgasms with male partners. This gap is reportedly bigger in casual sex than sex in relationships. This can be due to the lack of foreplay in most casual sex and the focus on male satisfaction. The review pointed out that both genders need to be more educated on the female anatomy and the change in normal sex techniques. The imploration of sex toys and oral and clitoral stimulation are strategies to help women experience orgasms. Sex education is required for both women and men. Enhancement of communication between partners during sex will ensure that each gets the best out of it.

Tips on How to Reach There

Build an Emotional Connection

Focus more on an emotional connection with your partner: sex starts with the mind. Build up an emotional connection with your partner. Focus on that while you have foreplay and during the act itself before getting into it.

Knowing One's Body

Masturbation training and transfer to partners via communication can help bridge the orgasm gap. Knowing one's body and experimenting with oneself: try touching yourself and get to know what gets you to orgasm. Know what speed you like and how your body reacts when you get aroused or during an orgasm. Women should know that it is perfectly okay to explore their bodies and then transfer this information to their partner or demonstrate.

Communicate With Your Partner

Direct your partner and talk to them about what you need: the other person is not a mind reader to know what you enjoy and how you feel. Communication is important to make them know how to pleasure you.

Try Sex Toys

Using sex toys such as vibrators can aid in giving female orgasms. Sex toys are a way of having fun and experimenting with numerous out-of-this-world orgasms. There is plenty of variety to choose from.


Sex means pleasuring yourself with or without an orgasm. Sex can be fun, but adding the big "O" can take you to another level. Orgasms are enjoyable and can help you sleep better, increase body confidence, and get your brain to work out. The bond between you are your partner will increase with every orgasm. There is no one way to have an orgasm for people with vaginas. Try the clitoral stimulation, play with your erogenous zones, practice the combo orgasm and explore anal orgasms. Getting it is not easy for everyone, but with practice and patience, you can use the tips outlined to reach the big 'O'.


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