We’ve seen in the movies, we’ve heard it from friends – and in really bad cases, we’ve heard it ourselves too. “But honey, she means nothing to me – I love you”.
Men cheat. And, when they cheat, they cheat for sex… not for emotional attachment or a desire to start a new family with someone they love. Oh no. They cheat because the secretary made advances he couldn’t resist, and because he spent so many long nights alone with her at the office. What is a man to do? He’s only human, after all.
Women, on the other hand, are guilty of cheating because of formed emotional attachments. She fell in love with him or she found someone else. She is leaving him because her heart was stolen away by dinners at sunset and a man who understands her.
But all of this is changing. Women, it seems, cheat for sex too. And the majority of their scandalous love affairs are taking place at work.
According to the Daily Mail, figures are on the rise which shows that more and more women are cheating. 15% of women cheat on their husbands, thanks to financial independence and other areas of equality. They spend more time away from home, they spend more time with other men at work, and they have their own mobile phones and other channels of communication. They cheat with colleagues, co-workers and bosses for purely sexual reasons – and more than 3% of children born in wedlock are sired by “a little casual something” on the side.
It’s not just the Plain Janes who are looking for something on the side in the arms of co-workers. The most recent celebrity scandal has a hot-blooded woman at its centre: Twilight star Kristen Stewart recently got too hot and heavy in car with a British Film Director she worked with – a man 19 years her senior. Her heart-throb boyfriend Robert Pattinson found out after she made a public apology to him. “It was a momentary indiscretion” she said.
"This momentary indiscretion has jeopardised the most important thing in my life, the person I love and respect the most, Rob. I love him, I love him, I'm so sorry."
A source close to Kirsten reported, "She wasn't having an affair with Rupert. It was just a fleeting moment that shouldn't have happened. She never meant to hurt anyone. She's a good person who just made a bad choice."
So, if it’s such a bad choice, why do women cheat for sex?
On the one hand, it could be the challenge or the adrenaline rush: it’s simply satisfying to bag your boss or to hide in the photocopy room when you know you’re not supposed to. On the other hand, women might just be more like men than originally thought. A high-powered female executive who spends little time at home with her husband or partner might find her colleague attractive, and a “fleeting moment” is inevitable in a high-stress, high-adrenaline environment. “But honey, he means nothing to me – I love you”.
Sex and emotions used to be intertwined, but in today’s fast-paced society, it’s not only men who compartmentalise the two.
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