SPANKING TIPS FOR BEGINNERS

Spanking is a type of foreplay that is always fun and exciting. It can, at times, happen at the end of sex. Why not reward someone by giving them a gentle spank? Some spanking tips for beginners include introducing the spanking topic to your partner, checking on their body language, and playing it safe.

According to De Neef et al. (2019), spanking is a form of pain play in BDSM. Spanking has always been seen as a form of punishment administered for doing something wrong. It is a dreadful experience, and the whole idea has always been hated. However, people now anticipate the experience from their partners as it is now viewed as a form of reward. What a turn of events! Spanking involves striking your partner's butt or thighs sexually, especially during sex. It does not have to be in a violent manner or by inflicting pain on the receiver. Some of the spanking tips for beginners are; 

Introducing the Spanking Topic to Your Partner

There are different types of people. Some enjoy spanking but are afraid to talk to their partner about it since they fear the partner's perception. Then there is a group that has never tried spanking but would like to experience it. However, they have no idea how they will introduce the topic to their partner. It is always healthy to sit down with your partner and talk about your sexual desires and needs. Get to understand what they love and tell them what you want to be done to you so that you feel satisfied. Get to see their reaction to the whole subject. Get to know if one would like to be spanked. If the person hates the whole idea, do not push it. They may have reasons for declining the experience.

Check On the Body Language

Since you are new to spanking, it will be important to check on every little detail that occurs. You can check how they respond when you strike their butt or thighs. If you know your partner well, you will be able to identify if they are faking the expressions or fully into it. A person may flinch as you spank them. If this happens, it is important to ask if you can stop the whole spanking or if they are comfortable. You can also reduce the whole spanking or stop it fully once you notice that their skin is sensitive and is responding harshly to the strokes.

Make Your Intentions Clear    

Before embarking on spanking, you need to clarify what you want to do and how you want to do it. It would be best if you also talked about what you want to achieve as the end goal for the spanking process. Someone might be expecting a simple spank as just a game, and you, on the other hand, have the idea of having genital penetration without their consent. It should not come as a surprise if you have already talked about it. If the spanking is from your partner, it can be fun and exciting, but it can be irritating and disgusting if it is just from a simple friend.

Play Safe

Try not to make spanking a regular thing. It will get boring as days go by. It should also not be violent. You are trying to make them be in the mood not to inflict pain on them. You can develop a safe word or a non-verbal cue that will show you are not in the mood to continue with the whole spanking if it gets uncomfortable for you. This is why it is always important to check on them once in a while. You might think they are enjoying it, but the whole process might be uncomfortable for them in the real sense.

Health Risk

It is always advisable to know the medical condition of the person you are having sexual relations with. Some may have underlying health issues that they have never disclosed to you, and in doing something different, it may turn into a medical emergency. Some people have sensitive skin, and in the event of spanking, their skin may react to the strokes. Some may feel persistent pain that lasts for days. This may even cause inflammation. Your partner may get a seizure while enjoying the moment and making them convulse. Ensure you know or inquire about the medical history of your significant other before spanking. This is to avoid any case that a simple conversation could have avoided.

After Care 

After the spanking, make sure your partner feels loved and not discouraged. Do not just turn around and try to get some sleep just because you have already finished what you aimed to achieve. Clutch onto the bottoms after spanking your partner. Don't make them feel rejected. Cuddle and embrace them. Caress their body gently using your hands. An exciting and fun spanking session will always irritate just because they were not cared for or felt like objects to you. Spanking is always exciting, especially when done by someone loving and caring. 

Conclusion

Most people treasure spanking. You have to make sure you are doing it the right way. It will either be fun or funny. Either way, there is some fun involved. For a beginner, it will be exciting since you are trying something new. Practice makes perfect. Get into practicing it even if you don’t aim for perfection. Do not be a boring partner who has no idea of pleasing their significant other. Try spicing up your sexual life by learning how to spank your partner. Make them long for the foreplay each time you are about to have sex. 

References

De Neef, N., Coppens, V., Huys, W., & Morrens, M. (2019). Bondage-discipline, dominance-submission and sadomasochism (BDSM) from an integrative biopsychosocial perspective: A systematic review. Sexual Medicine, 7(2), 129-144.