DON’T LIKE RIDING COWGIRL? TRY THIS

Content Verification

Written by:✓

Katie Lasson
Sex and Relationship Adviser

Medically Reviewed by:✓

Veronika Matutyte
Medical Doctor

Fact Checked by:✓

Barbara Santini
Psychologist and Sex and Relationships Advisor

Not everyone is a fan of riding cowgirl positions. However, some of the things you can try include; having sex on the couch or armchair, bouncing on the edge of the bed, and being on top.

According to Den Hartog (2021), the riding cowgirl sex position demands that you should always be on top. This means that you will have all the control over your partner. You can give yourself the kind of stimulation that you want. Moreover, you are the one to manage the pace and the depth of the penis thrusting inside you. It is a feeling that everyone wants to experience as it always sounds great and fun. However, some who have tried it have not felt all that great about it and saw it as an overhyped sexual position. They have struggled with the position and even decided not to do it again. However, there are different ways to have this position and have so much fun. It all depends on the angle and how you position yourself. Before giving up on it, you should try the following;

Have Sex on the Couch or Arm Chair

Try getting yourself out of bed and making your sex life more fun and exciting. Try out different things with your partners, like making out on the couch or the armchair. If the bed is what is keeping you from being in a comfortable position to ride your partner, then try and improvise ways in which you can have fun with your partner. You can try climbing on your partner while you are both seated on the couch, mount your thighs on either side of your partner's waist, and lower yourself to a position where their penis is against your pussy. 

You will feel them sliding in. in this position, you are guaranteed to have an amazing time while riding them. You can hold onto the back of the couch, comfortably move your thighs and ride your partner as hard as possible. Both of you can move as much as you want. You can ride on their cock while grabbing your or spanking your ass. It may get very intense, and you may even get an orgasm. The problem might have been the bed, as you are limited to moving since your partner has to lie down as you try riding them. The couch might then be the better option for you.

Most of the time, you will get that the bed was limiting you from having a lot of fun in the cowgirl position. While your partner was lying on the bed, they were so flat, and they could not move freely, and all they could do was hold onto your ass as you were riding on them. However, while being on the couch, they can place their ass on the edge of the couch and even try out different sexual angles when they get uncomfortable. Your partner can also lean back on the couch when they get tired and can hold on to your thighs, hips, or even the ass while spanking it and making you feel some pleasure. Dubberley (2021) stated that you can have fun on the couch.

Bouncing Off the Bed’s Edge

At times, you may get that you do not have the couch in your bedroom and you cant have some privacy while making out in the sitting room. This leaves you with the bedroom as the only place where you can have sex with your partner. Your partner lying on the bed while you ride on them might also seem difficult to pull off. The best position will be to make out on the edge of the bed. 

Make your partner lean on the edge of the bed with their back facing the mattress while the feet are on the ground's surface. You can hop on them, face away and try the reverse cowgirl position on them in this position. According to Elliott (2012), you can experience this sex position on the edge of the bed. Your partner will enjoy watching you bouncing on their penis, and you will also get to enjoy the whole moment. You will use a lot of energy and effort, but you will still get to have an experience that you will love. 

You will likely get tired in this position as it is not the same as the cowgirl since it is the reverse. However, the important thing is that you will not have to struggle as in the position when your partner is lying on the bed. Go forth and ride on your partner as hard as you want because when you get tired, it will be difficult to manage the thrusts, and you will lack the energy to continue with the pace. Zecca (2017) explained that you can get orgasms through this position if you perfect it.   

On the Floor  

If you feel you have strong knees, you can always try and make out with your partner on the floor. You do not even have to place your knees on the floor but on your feet at times. You just need to have a lot of energy by placing your feet on the floor and trying and ride your partner while they are lying on the bed. This comes in handy, especially if your bed moves or is squeaky. You will be able to have some fun without the sounds made by the bed.

Conclusion

If you are not enjoying the cowgirl sex position, you can always try the sexual position somewhere else and see if the bed is why you are not enjoying the whole position. Avoid the bed and try and find some areas where you can try it out and check if it works better for you. Look for the couch or try it out on the edge of the bed. It may work some magic that you never thought you could experience. Cowgirl's position is not overhyped; you just need to put yourself in a position where you understand your angles very well and be comfortable. Instead of having your partner always be on top, you can have all the control and make yourself have fun by riding them as you are the one in charge of the rhythm.   

References

Den Hartog, M. (2021). Women on top: Coital positions and gender hierarchies in Renaissance Italy. Renaissance Studies, 35(4), 638-657.

Dubberley, E. (2021). More sex play. Even more fun than before!. Parkstone International.

Elliott, J. (2012). last night's mouth.

Zecca, F. (2017). Feature and gonzo in mainstream pornography. The Routledge Companion to Media, Sex and Sexuality.