Ruined Orgasm- What Is It, How To Give And Why Guys Like Them

Many people wish to have orgasms during sexual intercourse, while some prevent their partners from reaching climax and getting off. Some people enjoy it when they ruin an orgasm. Therefore, before trying to ruin someone's or your loved orgasm, here is everything you need to know about ruined orgasm. 

A ruined orgasm is a type of play control in the BDSM community. The person in power or dominance arouses the submissive and then gets off, making them experience no sensation or low-quality orgasm. Sometimes, a ruined orgasm can happen accidentally. Maybe you have even experienced it, but we don't eroticize the experience. Usually, someone walks in when you are masturbating or gets distracted when you are almost finishing. It is also common when females are dominant over males. However, both genders can enjoy it, and anyone who finds it appealing should try it out.

What Does Ruined Orgasm Feel Like

You may wonder if a ruined orgasm feels good or hurts. It makes one experience physical feelings such as blue balls. It may also feel like a subtle orgasm that is not released. Ruined orgasms may sometimes feel uncomfortable or painful. Imagine orgasm contractions without pleasure.

Ruined orgasms can also be emotionally frustrating, unsatisfying, and disappointing. This is especially true when the simulation has reached a point where the ejaculation is extreme, and then your partner decides to humiliate and distract the orgasmic sensation. Furthermore, the experience is usually accompanied by the feeling of humiliation. This is known when the partner is groans, twitches, moans, or spasms. The feeling might be very embarrassing in case one has no control over their body.

Contrary, despite that feeling of ruined orgasm, people still find it pleasurable, especially when they are into it. Some men like it when their partner ruins the orgasm. They usually enjoy the aspect of denial and teasing or doing something they are forced to, like experiencing a great orgasm.

How to Have or Give a Ruined Orgasm

Ruining an orgasm is not even difficult as some people may think. Below are some steps that will guide you to give or have a ruined orgasm.

Ensure You Have the Consent.

Don't assume that your partner will be okay to have or receive specific sexual activity without their knowledge. During the BDSM, both partners must be protected with consent communication and boundaries. Both partners should agree on any play before proceeding.

SafeWord Agreement

Safe signals or words are essential for safety and communication; hence, choosing a unique safe action or phrase is vital before the play begins. This action or word is used to stop the sexual place at the given time without hesitation. BDSM play is associated with many risks, and if he is uncomfortable and wants to stop the play, he has the freedom of expression. It is also essential to discuss how to do this before the play. Your partner should also be accessible and willing to stop the teasing in case of any discomfort.

Do Your Research

If you are interested in trying a ruined orgasm, it is good to know the sub or dominant power before giving it a try. Learn how to do it from the most reliable sources, either on YouTube or from well-known industry professionals, to make sure you have a safe, pleasurable, and educated experience.  

Concentrates on Teasing

A ruined orgasm is usually associated with tremendous build-up and distracting the waited orgasm and the exciting moment. Begin by teasing your partner to create sexual tension, then pause and begin again.

Stop All Forms of Stimulation Before Climax.

Ruined orgasms usually occur when you top all the stimulation when your partner is almost reaching orgasm. Therefore, when your partner is virtually reaching orgasm, stop the stimulation or any movement. If your timing is good and he has reached the point of no return, the body will start to convulse, making him moan in discomfort rather than pleasure. In case that happens, know you are doing the right thing.

Why Do People Like Ruined Orgasm

A ruined orgasm is not pleasurable physically, yet so many still enjoy it due to various reasons. One reason is that it is predominantly in men. Also, it is prevalent in men and women to desire a ruined orgasm. Ruined orgasm implies that orgasm is not necessary anymore and it does not define sexual pleasure.

Additionally, ruined orgasm is associated with a lot of fun. Partners who enjoy this play should choose how, where, when, and get the pleasure they want. The power of the play lies within the short-term denial or withholding of physical sensation for an extreme, mental kinky charge. Many people who play this game enjoy giving much vanilla pleasure to feel the fierce mental exchange of power.

Contrary, a ruined orgasm makes males last longer during sex. If he ejaculates without releasing the pleasure of orgasm, it makes him remain sexually aroused hence engage in more sexual activities. So, whether you like twisted pleasure, pain, or power play, you should give the power play a try. You might find more satisfaction in it than ever.

The Bottom Line

Recently, people have enjoyed sexual pleasure in so many ways. A ruined orgasm is among the ways that one can enjoy power pleasure. Usually, the person in control or dominance arouses the submissive and then stops, making them experience no sensation or low-quality orgasm. Many wish to have a ruined orgasm since it is linked to various benefits, including increased pleasure and long-lasting performance in men.

While ruined orgasm is pleasurable, it is recommended to understand what it is and how to go about it before trying it. Don't try this with your partner without their consent because it may feel uncomfortable, emotionally frustrating, unsatisfying, and disappointing. You should also agree on safe words and actions for comfortable and fulfilling play.