Why should an individual fake orgasms? Is faking an orgasm on women a good thing? Why should one not fake orgasms/ this article explains the science of faking orgasms? 

Did you know that the average couple only has sex about 60% of the time when they want to? It may not seem like it, but that's quite a lot of sex. Still, if you're one of those couples who want to be having sex more often, or even if you want to learn how to fake an orgasm, you might be surprised at the science behind orgasms and faking them. Most individuals who fake orgasms are women, and there are some reasons individuals fake orgasms. This article explains some of the aspects that are entailed in faking orgasm. 

What is faking an orgasm?

Sex is the most amazing thing on earth, it can sometimes be complicated, and many people, maybe once or more in their life, have just wished to get it over with. Hevesi et al. (2021) stated that faking an orgasm refers to the pretense of having an orgasm without really experiencing it; this might be due to many reasons. Faking might be hard for those who never have had or have a problem experiencing a real orgasm, as some might not know what to do. But how common is faking?

How common is faking orgasm?

Believe it or not, both men and women fake orgasms. However, because men ejaculate when they have an orgasm, it's harder for them to fake than girls. Ford et al. (2022) explained that this is probably why girls more commonly practice faking orgasms than boys. However, if the man wears a condom, it is easier to fake and dispose of the condom without the partner ever noticing the empty condom. It is reported that more than 67-80% of women fake orgasms regularly or have faked them at least once in their life. Faking orgasms is moderately common among people and is different depending on those faking it. It can vary from a mild to an intense fake orgasm. According to the above study, only 10% of women are consistently able to achieve orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. But, other studies explain that there's no normal number of orgasms or ways to get there for everyone. So what drives women to fake an orgasm even more than men?

Why do women fake orgasms?

Faking an orgasm is not as easy as it seems. Hajare (2019) explained that it requires a lot of courage as this could jeopardize your relationship with your partner and destroy the trust you have built together. But why still fake it, although it has a great risk? Many partners fake an orgasm to end the sex, and this is mostly due to them not enjoying the intercourse or just knowing that they will not climax. Of course, you don’t have the whole day to lie in bed while your partner hopelessly tries to give you the best sex; many of those who fake orgasm see it fit to end the agony of their partner trying to satisfy them and choose to fake it instead. It might be because it easier to fake it than wait for it to happen; most women care about their partner's feelings and understand that it will be heartbreaking when their partners find out they can’t satisfy them. 

Orgasms are a complex topic, and it might be hard for anyone to understand why people fake them. Many of those that explain why they do give reasons that vary from fear of intimacy to sexual functioning. If any of the partners have a problem reaching the point of orgasm might look for an alternative option to deal with the issue. Hajare (2019) stated that such individuals should focus on intimacy rather than setting up their sexual relationship based on orgasming and setting it as a milestone. It might lead to disappointment when they don’t reach orgasm. Most women fake an orgasm because they think it's easier, faster, or less stressful than letting him know that he isn't doing what he needs to do in bed. It's like going through labor pains without having a baby at the end.

In most cases, you can get away with faking an orgasm if you feel close to your partner, but there are some situations where it may not work out. It can happen if your partner is extremely passionate about sex and wants you to enjoy yourself during intercourse. You can try convincing them by saying you have already climaxed, but if they see right through your lie, then it's better that you tell them how you feel about their performance. Try giving constructive criticism so that both of you will be able to improve on future sexual encounters.

How to fake an orgasm

Faking an orgasm isn't as simple as it seems; it requires a lot of focus and precision to make it more believable. If your partner is passionate and cares about satisfying you sexually, it might be even harder to convince them you have already climaxed. Although faking is what you want to go for, there are a few tips that you can follow to make it possible. 

The most important thing to remember is to make it more believable. Gupta (2018) explained that if you go from a mild moan to a certain burst of screams, your partner might have difficulty believing you. You have to remember to keep it gradually and move slowly up the scale for the final big act. You can start with simple and gentle moans while increasing the volume and intensity as time goes by. Here and there, you can offer a few compliments while making eye contact, and this will help you connect with your partner as if reading what is going through their minds. When time is nearly there, increase the intensity of your moans, and you can help your partner notice you by telling them you are near to having an orgasm. The grand performance will need you to bring in all your energy, grip your partner tightly with your legs and scream while taking short breaths. What distinguishes a great actor is keeping the act going for your partner to believe you more. You can wrap it up by congratulating your partner and telling them how much you enjoyed it.

Conclusion

It would be best if you remembered how devastating your partner could be when they find out you have been faking it. So if it is possible, you can talk to them openly about your sexual experience and discuss how you can improve your experience. 

References 

Ford, J. V., Carter, A., & Wong, H. T. (2022). Orgasm and Faking Orgasm: Heterosexual Interactions in China. The Journal of Sex Research, 1-14. 

Gupta, S. (2018). No female agency in the female orgasm. Thanks, pop culture.

Hajare, R. (2019). Non-Medical Basis Characterization Of Orgasm Associated With Approach Sex Can Last Up To 20 Seconds To 15 Minutes, Eligible Women Individuals’ Poor Transportation Facility Of Private Pharmacy Institutions In Pune, India. Surgical Case Reports and Images, 2(2).

Hevesi, K., Horvath, Z., Sal, D., Miklos, E., & Rowland, D. L. (2021). Faking Orgasm: Relationship to Orgasmic Problems and Relationship Type in Heterosexual Women. Sexual Medicine, 9(5), 100419.