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Arguably, 69 is the best oral sex position. The position is about mutual pleasure. Simply put, the people involved in a sexual encounter please each other simultaneously. Want to try it next time you hit the bedroom with your partner? This blog may be a must-read. Below, you will discover how to get into it, make it the more pleasurable, and its variations.

Who said penetrative sex is the only activity that should take place in your bedroom? Honestly, people get sex wrong, explaining why there are increased cases of sexual dissatisfaction in various bedrooms across the world. Statics show around 80 percent of women does not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse. It means if you plan to get into it with a vulva-owner soon, think of other ways that can bring ways that can bring them to a powerful orgasm. Don't think too hard, though. Oral sex can make all the difference. While there are tons of oral sex positions, nothing comes close to the 69. Elsewhere, you will take turns to please each other. The story is different from the 69-sex position, which encourages mutual pleasure. You give and receive oral sex at the same time. Don't you think that is super-hot?

How to Get into the Classic 69 position

One partner lies flat on their back on a comfortable surface. The other partner climbs on top, spreading their knees on either side of the bottom’s head and facing the opposite direction to them. Murphy (2018) explained that if the vagina-having person assumes the top position, their vagina should be around the bottom's mouth. Facing the opposite direction to the bottom partner, the top partner can lower themselves onto the bottom’s balls and penis. As the top partner gives the bottom blow job while playing with their balls, they give back cunnilingus. That is how the basic 69 sex position works.

How To Make The 69 The Best Position

Bring Sex Toys and Position Enhancers on Board

Herbenick et al. (2017) explained that, although the position is for oral sex, your tongue doesn't have to do all the work. Bring vibrators, dildos, kegel balls, anal beads, butt plugs, or metal wands on board. For added comfort, you may also want sex pillows in the sex scene. Heljakka et al. (2021) sex pillows are sex beneath the bottom’s head, allowing them comfortably eat out the top partner.

Use Your Hands

With the bottom's hands doing less work in the 69 positions, they can use them to caress the top's hips, butts, and inner thighs. They can also finger them between the sucks. Sayin (2017) explained that the combination of clitoral and G spot stimulation is hot. Located a few inches into the vagina, on the frontal wall of the vagina, the G spot has a dense network of nerve endings. Touching the zone creates a wave of sexual pleasure that may make the top partner moan. If the bottom partner is a man or penis-having person, the top partner can spit on their hands or whip out the lube to give them a hot hand job. While this happens, they can also use their mouth to show the bottom’s balls some love.

Focus On Their Entire Genitals

While the clitoris is the big fish for female pleasure, other zones are also worth exploring in the 69-sex position. Lick out the minors, including the labia and mons pubis, to make the top partner more primed for orgasm. Do they like direct or indirect clitoral stimulation? There is only one way to find out. Start by licking the around their clitoris. If they enjoy your tongue game, proceed to the real prize. Watch out for their non-verbal cues while on the clitoris. If they are pulling away from you, they are not enjoying what you are doing. Since the 69 position is for mutual pleasure, your vulva owner can start with the perineum or balls before reaching out to the prize, your penis.

The 69 Sex Position Variations

Inverted 69

You can use the classic 69's procedure to get into the inverted 69. Only one thing changes; who to be on top and bottom. Instead of being the man or penis-having person's bottom partner, they become the top. While in this position, the man can give deep thrusts. Again, if you are a woman who hates deep throat, you may want to avoid this position.

Swinging 69

First, look for a sex swing to get the most from these 69 variations. Once ready, one partner lies on the sex swing, facing the ceiling and resting their heels on the straps. The other partner stands Infront of them and bends over. It allows both partners to access each other’s genitals. From there, they can start licking and sucking each other.

Sideways 69

As the name suggests, the sideways 69 is about lying on your sides rather than on top of each other. Once your bodies are aligned, you can start licking and sucking. The sideways 69 can be a great deal if you have joint problems.

The Standing 69

 Also known as the upright 69, the standing 69 is about the man standing and holding the other partner up-side-down. The standing 69 can be a good deal if the woman or the vagina-having person is petite.

Three some 69

Also known as the triangle, the threesome 69 involves three participants. All participants lie on their sides to form the triangle. From there, one participant eats out the next person. The participants do not receive oral sex from those they give.

Analingus 69

Analingus 69 works best of the two participants are men or are into anal or prostate stimulation. This 69-sex position variation is routinely used as a pregame for anal sex.

Conclusions

With the classic 69 sex position and its variations at your fingertips, you can give and receive hot oral sex. Think of play that leaves you and your partner with toe-curling orgasms. Although the risk of pregnancy is low during 69-ing, one thing to worry about; is sexually transmitted infections. 69-ing can transmit oral STIs to the genitals and genital STIs to the mouth. The latter mostly results in a sore throat. For this reason, it is important to talk about sexual health histories before getting into it.

References

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Herbenick, D., Bowling, J., Fu, T. C., Dodge, B., Guerra-Reyes, L., & Sanders, S. (2017). Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men. PloS one, 12(7), e0181198.

Murphy, K. M. (2018). Vile Affections: Medieval Literature in Reprobum Sensus Traditions. The University of Chicago.

Sayin, H. Ü. (2017). Female orgasmic consciousness: New horizons. SexuS Journal, 2(4), 117-145.