First Time Pegging Advice

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Learn tips for successful first-time pegging to add a little spark to your rut stuck sex life from the pegging guide below.

Gone are the days when men used to dominate on the bed. In the 21^st century, couples are going out of the way to take reigns on the bed and create new pleasure ways that spice up fornication behind closed doors. Since gender doesn't really matter in the bedroom, why not try pegging?  This is a gender norm-breaking act that delivers unbelievably intense stimulations like other butt stuff, including rimming and anal fingering. If you have secretly wanted to attempt pegging, this article has a wealth of information on why all men should try pegging.

What Is Pegging?

The term "Pegging" came into the limelight in 2001, referring to a woman penetrating a man anally using a strap-on dildo.   Since Dan Savage's description, pegging has evolved over the years, giving men and women a chance to take charge of sex sessions.  For further understanding of the term, watch Broad City and Deadpool if you are a movie buff. Pegging benefits one taking penetrations and the one giving. For instance, the woman enjoys the dominance and power of being a pegger while the man gets intense anal stimulations and prostate milking that results in toe-curling orgasms. Nonetheless, the vagina-owner in charge of the act gets mind-boggling clitoral stimulations that make the whole play fun and exciting.  Assuming you are ready for pegging, here is all you need to know before diving into the pleasurable world of violating bedroom gender roles.

Communicate With   Your Lover Openly

Surprising our sexual partners with new styles and equipment only results in disappointments. You may get frustrated if you suddenly decided to show up with a strap-on dildo ready for booty play without their consent.  Like any sexual behavior, create time with your lover and talk about pegging. Everyone may not like surprises when it comes to matters involving butt sex.  The conversation will table your expectations and concerns about the act.  Nonetheless, an open conversation with your lover will help better understand each other's roles and boundaries in roleplay. Bringing out the pegging talk may not be difficult, particularly if you are this 'dynamic' couple in the bedroom. If you are unsure about your lover's response, go out of the way and speak hypothetically about the issue. For instance, you can tell your lover you read an article about pegging and use their response to determine if they are into it or not.

Respect Your Lover’s Decision If They Say “NO”

Opening up to your partner is no small fete. It even gets harder when it is to your sexual partner, therefore, when asking about pegging, always expect a "no" or "yes."  If your lover does not buy the idea of pegging, respect their decision and introduce the topic another time.  Do not try to force an uninterested partner into pegging. Give them more time especially if your partner has tried pegging before. If your lover's response isn't what you expected, go on and do what is acceptable for both of you. You should however consider bringing up the topic later to gauge your lover’s interest.

Go Shopping for The Pegging Tools Together

You got a pleasant response; now it's time to hit sex toy stores. Shopping for the dido, safe lubes, and harnesses together is the first step in laying a foundation for your pegging experience and staying connected to your lover.  Go for adjustable harnesses that enhance comfort with the right sense of control and stimulate the pegger’s clit in the best way while thrusting.  As a beginner, start with a small-sized dildo, then find your way up as the experience grows. While shopping, ensure you get toys made with the correct material. Silicone dildos are non-porous, hypoallergic, and easy to disinfect.  Porous dildos easily store dirt and bacteria that may cause infections. Nonetheless, they are difficult to sanitize and clean with warm soapy water after use.

Spice Up Pegging with Vibrations

Pegging should benefit both the giver and the receiver. Add a little spark to your sex life with pegging by being creative when shopping for strap-on dildos to enjoy all pleasures it has to provide.  In the adult sex toy shop, look for vibrating strap-on dildos that deliver a gentle buzz to the anal canal.

 Avoid Colon Cleansing

Fecal remains are likely to be seen on the sex toys when you eventually indulge in pegging. However, you can easily clean up the booty for your lover and keep things fresh with warm water and soap before hitting the bedroom.  This might help reduce the nervousness about what the pegger will find in your craving ass.  Avoid anal douching with enemas because it can fuel infections. Keep everything simple for a stimulating first pegging experience.

Lube Up the Anus for Intense Sensations

The anus does not self-lubricate like the vagina.  This calls for the need to throw external lubricants in the mix to make pegging pleasurable. The choice of lube to use for pegging depends on the dildo material. For instance, if you choose silicone dildos, forget silicone-based lube because the lube reacts with the material and can compromise the safety of the peg-ee and the durability of the sex toy. Also, understand the anus absorbs every material it makes contact with. With that in mind, you will be needed to reapply the lube frequently to reduce friction and increase pleasure.  As you go shopping for the strap-on dildo, ensure you also walk out of the sex shop with a large bottle of safe lube for a stimulating pegging experience.

Begin With Foreplay

Before pegging, both of you need to warm up the bedroom with intense foreplay for maximum arousal. Spice up pegging with the normal activities you do before vaginal sex, including kissing, oral, and hand jobs for next-level arousal and relaxation.

Fingers And Small Butt Plugs Can Start the Session In A Better Way

Going from zero to stimulation has never been better with pegging. Begin with one finger and graduate to five or small plugs to bring your partner into the mood of taking large dildos.

The Bottom Line

If you have secretly wanted to try pegging, this is the right guide to peg or be pegged like a pro.  Share with your friends the above tips and watch riveting films like Broad city and  Deadpool for a stimulating first pegging experience.