Pegging - How, Who and Why?
Pegging - How, Who and Why?
The term 'Pegging' was coined in 2001 by Dan Savage, an American journalist and social commentator. It means for 'a woman to anally penetrate a man with a strap-on dildo.' Though the practice was thought to be common before 2001, no particular term for it was in the common parlance, so Savage held a vote on his blog to choose the most popular name and 'pegging' was born.
How?
Strap-on dildos are commonly available. Penetrating anyone with a strap-on should be approached carefully. Take a look at my anal sex tips guide (URL insertion when published) and follow all of the same tips. Basically, use lots of lube, use a condom, go slowly and carefully, use lots of foreplay to make sure the anus is relaxed, and then only go as far as you are both comfortable with. If you are communicating clearly and constantly throughout the time you are having sex you will know how your partner is feeling and therefore how to act. Using a condom will prevent cross-contamination from the dildo and help to easily dispose of any mess created.
Who?
Following the release of the popular instructional film, 'Bend Over Boyfriend' in 1998, the art of 'pegging' exploded into the mainstream. Many people, whether straight, gay or bisexual, enjoy giving and/or receiving anal sex via a female using a strap-on. A common anxiety is for people to assume that a man's enjoyment of anal play is an indication of his sexuality - it is NOT! A man may have a great fondness for being fucked in the arse but be completely straight. It is also common for some men to be a little reticent about receiving anal from a female due to concerns around status and vulnerability. Playing with these themes can be great fun, and as any BDSM expert will tell you, giving does not necessarily indicate domination and receiving does not necessarily indicate submission. All of these things are open to interpretation and available for experimentation and play.
Why?
As we have touched on, enjoyment of psychological factors may be a factor in couples' experimentation with 'pegging'. Perhaps the man would like to experience sex from the receiver's point of view, and vice versa. Physically, men can get great pleasure from having the anus stimulated, especially if they are sensitive to the potential advantages of the prostate or 'male G-spot'. The woman's physical pleasure will depend on the type of strap-on that she is using. Some toys will have vibrating sections or other stimulators for her, or small vibrators can be placed under the harness. As with all anal play, take care, go slowly, communicate and use lots of LUBE! A quote that I have just stumbled upon on one man's blog regarding his girlfriend's popping of his anal cherry reads as follows:
'Friends find it interesting that I, a straight male, agreed to take it up the ass ... My immigrant grandfather thought that clearing the dinner table was a womanly act.'
I think that says it all really - we live in age of open-mindedness, so why not take advantage of that if it creates enjoyment and expands understanding?