Being a supportive friend means being there for your loved ones, no matter their sexual orientation. If you have bisexual friends, you might be wondering how to show your support and create a safe and inclusive environment for them. This article is a guide for straight allies on how to be better friends to their bisexual friends, fostering understanding, empathy, and respect.

Educate Yourself

“The first step in being a better friend to your bisexual pals is educating yourself about bisexuality. Understand that bisexuality is a valid and diverse sexual orientation. Read books, articles, and personal stories to gain insights into the experiences of bisexual individuals,” says sexual and relationship therapist Tatyana Dyachenko.

Listen and Learn

Take the time to listen to your bisexual friends and learn from their experiences. “Be open to hearing about their challenges, joys, and the unique aspects of their sexual orientation. Your willingness to listen can make a world of difference,” says Dyachenko.

Avoid Stereotypes and Assumptions

Challenge stereotypes and assumptions about bisexuality. “Avoid asking invasive or insensitive questions, such as asking if they're "really" bisexual or assuming they are promiscuous. Treat their identity with respect,” explains Dyachenko.

Use Inclusive Language

According to Dyachenko, “Create an inclusive environment by using language that acknowledges and respects different sexual orientations.” “Avoid phrases or jokes that may be hurtful or dismissive of bisexuality,” she suggests.

Support Their Coming Out Process

If your friend chooses to come out as bisexual, support them throughout this process. Offer a listening ear, be a shoulder to lean on, and respect their timing and comfort level in sharing this aspect of their identity.

Stand Up Against Biphobia

As a straight ally, you can help combat biphobia when you encounter it. Challenge stereotypes, correct misconceptions, and support your bisexual friends in the face of discrimination or prejudice.

Celebrate Their Relationships

Celebrate your friend's relationships, whether they are with individuals of the same gender or different genders. Acknowledge the love and connection they share, just as you would for any other relationship.

Attend LGBTQ+ Events Together

Consider attending LGBTQ+ events, such as pride parades or LGBTQ+ support groups, with your bisexual friends. Showing solidarity and support at these events can strengthen your bond.

Be Mindful of Privacy

Respect your friend's privacy regarding their sexual orientation. Avoid sharing their coming-out story or discussing their personal life without their permission.

Offer a Safe Space

Create a safe space where your bisexual friends can be themselves without judgment. Encourage open conversations and assure them that you're there to support and understand.

Advocate for Inclusivity

Speak up for inclusivity and LGBTQ+ rights in your social circles, workplace, or community. Be an advocate for change and support policies and practices that promote equality.

Continue Learning and Growing

Becoming a better friend to your bisexual pals is an ongoing process. “Continue to educate yourself, be receptive to feedback, and grow in your understanding of bisexuality and the LGBTQ+ community,” says Dyachenko.

Fostering Inclusivity in Everyday Life

Inclusivity isn't limited to specific events or occasions; it's about creating a welcoming environment in our day-to-day lives. As a straight ally to bisexual individuals, you can actively foster inclusivity in various aspects of your daily life. Here are practical ways to make the world a better place for your bisexual friends:

Language Matters

Pay attention to the language you use in everyday conversations. “Avoid using derogatory terms or slurs and correct others when you hear such language. Emphasize the importance of respectful language to those around you,” says Psychologist and relationship adviser Barbara Santini.

Promote Pronoun Respect

“Respect and use correct gender pronouns for everyone, not just those in the LGBTQ+ community. Encourage others to do the same, creating an environment where individuals feel seen and respected,” explains Santini.

Challenge Gender Stereotypes

Challenge and break down traditional gender stereotypes and expectations. Support and acknowledge people's choices in how they express their gender identity.

Inclusive Social Gatherings

“When hosting or attending social gatherings, ensure they are inclusive spaces. Consider accessibility needs, dietary restrictions, and diverse interests to ensure everyone feels welcome,” says Santini.

Support Inclusive Brands

Choose to support businesses and brands that actively promote diversity and inclusivity. Your consumer choices can influence corporate behavior.

Volunteer for LGBTQ+ Causes

Get involved in local LGBTQ+ organizations and events as a volunteer or supporter. Your presence can make a significant impact on the community.

Be an Upstander

If you witness discrimination or harassment, step in as an upstander. Offer support to the victim and help address the situation if it's safe to do so.

Advocate for Inclusive Policies

Advocate for inclusive policies in your workplace, school, or community organizations. Encourage anti-discrimination measures and LGBTQ+ awareness training.

Support Representation

‘Promote media and entertainment that feature diverse and authentic portrayals of bisexual individuals and the LGBTQ+ community. Discuss these representations with others to encourage positive conversations,” says Santini.

Educate Your Circle

“Take the time to educate your friends, family, and colleagues about bisexuality and LGBTQ+ issues. Share articles, documentaries, or personal stories that promote understanding,” explains Santini.

Foster Inclusivity in Education

If you're involved in education, support and advocate for inclusive curricula that reflect diverse sexual orientations and gender identities.

Allyship Beyond Borders

Remember that inclusivity extends to global issues. Advocate for LGBTQ+ rights internationally, supporting organizations that work to combat discrimination and violence worldwide.

Support Small Acts of Kindness

Encourage and celebrate small acts of kindness, such as standing up for someone being mistreated or offering a friendly smile to a stranger. These actions create a more welcoming world.

Reflect on Your Biases

Regularly self-reflect on any biases or prejudices you may hold, and actively work to challenge and change them.

Celebrate Diversity

Celebrate diversity in all its forms, whether related to sexual orientation, gender identity, race, religion, or culture. Embrace the richness of a world filled with different perspectives and experiences.

Conclusion

Supporting your bisexual friends is an essential part of fostering inclusivity and acceptance. By educating yourself, listening, challenging stereotypes, and offering unwavering support, you can make a significant difference in the lives of your bisexual friends and help create a more accepting world for all sexual orientations.