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How To Choose A Dildo That Fits Your Harness

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How To Choose A Dildo That Fits Your Harness

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova

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✨ Key Points at a Glance ✨

  • ✅ How to Choose the Right Fit – Size, shape, and material make all the difference.

  • 🎯 Harness Compatibility – Double-check your harness type and ring size.

  • 💪 Material Matters – Silicone reigns supreme for body-safe, long-lasting pleasure.

  • 🧼 Cleaning and Storage – A little TLC goes a long way for your toys.

💡 Key Advice & Tips from Our Experts

  • 👉 Opt for adjustable harnesses if you're unsure about sizing – comfort is key, darling!

  • 💦 Silicone-based lube pairs perfectly with non-silicone toys – always check compatibility.

  • 🔄 Test different attachment angles to discover what feels best for both partners.

  • 🧼 Clean toys after each use with a dedicated toy cleaner to keep your collection fresh and fabulous.

You might have purchased a new harness, and you are ready for the action. Maybe the harness came with a dildo, but you are looking for a proper one to expand your toy collection. Or, the dildo might be sold separately, and you to buy another dildo that will fit your harness. Regardless of your goal, this article will introduce some methods and considerations you should make to ensure the dildo you choose fits the harness. Following the instructions below will ensure that you get to know how to choose a dildo.

Measure Twice And Purchase Once

It is crucial to take the correct measurements of your harness and the dildo you intend to purchase. Measuring is one of the main ways to determine if the dildo fits your harness. Huge dildos can damage, bend or warp the body of the harness or strap. Also, small-sized strap-on dildos may slip out when penetrating. There is a high possibility that you will get injured if not your partner. Therefore, ensure that you buy a dildo that fits correctly into your harness. The crucial measurements taken on a dildo are the length, thickness, and circumference. Measurements of the bulges, simulated testicles, or knots should also be taken. Measuring the length will ensure that the dildo will penetrate you or your partner perfectly. The thickness or circumference determines whether the dildo will fit or slip in your harness.

For the dildo to fit the harness, two length types are considered; penetration length and actual length. That means that a portion of the dildo should remain behind the O-ring to help avoid slipping off the dildo during sexual intercourse. The complete length of the dildo is what is known as the actual length. The remaining length of the dildo after fitting the harness is known as penetration length. As for the thickness, the dimensions to be used depend on the size of your harness hole. Some will accommodate thick dildos, while others will fit thin dildos. The regular O-ring diameters range between 1.5 inches and 2.0 inches. In general, thin diameters are ideal for anal penetration because the anus lacks natural lubrication. However, it also depends on personal preference and lube oil used.

Concentrate On the Base of The Dildo

Apart from the girth and length, another property of a dildo that you should consider is the base area. That is the dildo part that will be inserted into the harness. Depending on its shape and structure, it should hold onto the harness during penetration. You must choose a dildo with a firm, comfortable and sturdy base. Dildos with thick and wide bases are recommended instead of those with uniform girth throughout. This is because dildos with a wider base will easily fit on the O-ring of the harness without the risk of slipping out. Those with a flared base are not recommended as they slip out of the harness.

Some dildos with a suction cup at the base area are incompatible with many harnesses. Instead of fitting in the harness, the suction cup attaches the dildo to the walls and other surfaces. The best way to determine whether a dildo will fit your harness is by trying them individually. After that, you can move your body in different positions and shapes to see if it will fall off or not.

Other factors to consider

There are many other factors that you can consider before buying a dildo. They include:

Texture

That is the roughness or softness of the dildo. The texture you choose depends on personal interest on whether you love rough or smooth dildos.

Material

Silicone is the most common material used for making dildos. Other materials include rubber, glass, and steel. Here too, it depends on personal preference.

The Bottom Line

As discussed above, many factors should be considered before purchasing a dildo. The price of the dildo will also determine what type of dildo will fit your harness. High-quality dildos are expensive compared to others of low quality. After a dildo is tried on, you should remove it the way you inserted it. That should be done carefully not to damage the harness or the dildo itself. From the above, the base, girth, and length are the main factors that will determine how to pick your perfect strap-on dildo and harness.


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