Get Tied Down: An Illustrated Guide To The Top 5 Handcuffed Sex Position

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Fancy some bedroom adventure to knock out the monotonous sexual routine? Well, now is the time to attempt something new to revamp your romantic life. Bondage play is not a far-fetched concept to incorporate into an intimate relationship. Handcuffed sex positions, as in bondage sex play, are when you restrain your partner using bondage gear to elicit intense, intimate suspense. Experiencing intercourse in a handcuffed position can be an exhilarating adventure, but what are some of the top handcuffed sex positions to tie down your partner in?

What do you think about handcuffs during sex? Anyone could derive intense pleasures from handcuffed sex. The concept of having absolute control or lack of it thereof is a major turn-on in the bedroom. And as seen in the BDSM play, dominants thrive on their submissive partner's lack of control and vice versa. It is a form of a power play that most people find arousing. Dominants in bondage play are turned on by the idea of orchestrating the entire sex scene, having control, and calling the shots. That said, here are five top handcuffed sex positions to tie or get tied down in for the ultimate pleasure.

Standing Room Only

This position requires you to tie your partner's arms in a standing position where they will stay put for the experience. First, identify a spot, say, a towel rod or something, then using handcuffs, restrain your partner's hands while in a standing position. Having quality sex is not always a guarantee, but it gets better by the day as you push your boundaries.

In that position, you can assume control and get the scene ready for play. And while doing so, try to be forceful because that is acceptable for bondage sex play. So, with your partner’s hands both tied, you can get started with teasing. Note that you can as well throw in some blindfolds to make your surprises more intense. You have full access and can kiss your partner and play around with their nipples in this position. And it gets better with blindfolds because they wouldn’t be able to predict your next move.

Bend it for Bondage

This is a tied-up sex position and ideas for kinky bondage sex, the handiest and yet most pleasurable handcuffed sex position. I have never handcuffed your partner on a headboard or bedpost; maybe it is time you tried this adventure. It is quite straightforward because all you have to do is make your partner come to their knees and make their body lean forward in a doggy style. Once they achieve this position, let them raise their arms before handcuffing them to the bedpost.

This position is quite erotic in that your partner would be vulnerable to all sorts of pleasure you send their way. It may not be necessary, but you can also tie both their ankles to the bedpost. This way, their ankles, and wrists would be restrained to compromise their balance and mobility. As such, your partner will be entirely reliant on you. However, this position pits the cuffed partner at risk of discomfort and requires the dominant partner to be flexible and offer some stability. Either way, it is a top position that gives you full access and more control and power.

The Kinky Missionary position

In this position, make your partner lie on her back in bed and cuff her arms overhead. If your bed's design allows you to chain her legs, then you can probably throw that in. This way, the dominant partner will stay on top, with complete access, more control, and power. This position can be a favorite for anyone who is in a missionary position.

What makes it so erotic is that your cuffed partner has limited mobility, and the missionary style enables you to have full body contact with them. The partner on top can kiss their lips and play around with the nipples because having heads over the head expose their boobs. If you are looking for one of the best bondage handcuffed sex positions, you will be glad you tried the kinky missionary.

A little tied up right now

This position is similar to the "Bend it for bondage" as it requires handcuffing both the ankles and wrists. But as opposed to that, your cuffed partner should lie flat on their stomach. To achieve this position, get at least two pairs of wrist and ankles restrainers to cuff your partner's arms behind their back, and restrain their ankles too. Once you have cuffed both their wrists and ankles, use the intersection of the cuffs to connect both parts to create a position referred to as the Hogtie.

The hogtie position is one of the top handcuffed and erotic ones because the cuffed partner exposes several sweet zones. This creates an opportunity for the dominant to have full access, control, and power. However, engaging in penetrative sex while in this position is not entirely a good idea because it risks causing discomfort to the cuffed partner. But the mere fact that your sub has given up control makes it pleasurable and one of the best sex positions for using handcuffs in the bedroom.

Bottom to the top position

The top to the bottom position is unique as far as bondage play is concerned in that the dominant gets a feel of what it is like to be cuffed and vice versa. The ability to enjoy sex and be able to experience and interchange roles make it quite pleasurable. Have your sub partner's arms handcuffed but not attached to any bedpost or firm object for restraint to orchestrate this scene. This way, your partner's hands, although tied together, can move freely.

Next up, have your partner wrap their cuffed arms around your neck in a way that the cuffs restrict their arms from getting off. This position is particularly erotic for those who love interchanging roles from dominant to submissive and vice versa. Besides, it allows full body contact because the cuffed arms help the sub create pressure around the neck and pull the dominant closer, enabling a more passionate experience.