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Tatyana Dyachenko
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Katie Lasson
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Ever wished you had more control over anal sex? Say hello to the Soft Landing sex position—a game-changer that puts the receiver in the driver’s seat. With the right mix of control, comfort, and deep pleasure, this sex position lets you set the rhythm and enjoy every moment at your own pace.

Unlike sex positions where the giver dictates the action, this one flips the script. The man lies back on a fitness ball, feet grounded, while the woman sits between his legs, taking full control. It’s sensual, intimate, and exciting, making it perfect for couples looking to spice things up.

If you’re ready to explore a position that enhances connection and pleasure, you’re in the right place. By the end of this article, you’ll know exactly how to master it. Let’s begin!

What is the Soft Landing Position?

The Soft Landing sex position is a unique woman-dominated anal sex position that combines stability, control, and deep pleasure. Unlike traditional positions where the giver sets the pace, this one lets the receiver dictate the rhythm, penetration depth, and movement. It’s perfect for those who enjoy a slow build-up or an intense ride, depending on their preference.

Here’s how to get into position:

• The man lies on his back on a fitness ball, keeping his feet firmly planted on the floor. This gives him balance and prevents unwanted movement.
• The woman sits on his penis, positioning herself between his legs with her back facing him.
• She presses her legs together and leans slightly forward, keeping her hands above his knees for stability and control.

What makes this sex position so special? Control. Depth. Rhythm. The woman takes charge, adjusting the motion at her own pace—whether it’s deep, slow thrusts or intense bouncing. The fitness ball adds a slight bounce, making the experience dynamic and stimulating. This position is all about pleasure without strain, ensuring maximum enjoyment for both partners.

Why Try the Soft Landing Position?

The Soft Landing sex position isn’t just about trying something new—it’s about comfort, control, and deeper connection. Whether you’re new to anal play or experienced, this position offers adjustability, ease, and intense sensations. So, why should you give it a go?

First, it puts the receiver in control. "Control over depth and movement reduces discomfort and increases confidence in anal sex," says Katie Lasson, a sex and relationship advisor from Peaches and Screams. "When a woman can set the pace, she’s more likely to relax, enjoy the experience, and avoid discomfort caused by unexpected thrusts." Since she dictates the rhythm, she can ease into penetration and adjust to what feels best for her.

Second, it allows for deep yet adjustable penetration. Leaning slightly forward creates a shallower angle, while tilting backwards allows for deeper thrusts. This means you can switch up sensations effortlessly.

Third, it boosts intimacy. Facing away may seem less connected, but this position allows for gentle touches, dirty talk, and shared pleasure. Plus, the fitness ball adds a subtle bounce, making movement smoother and more exciting.

Tips to Make the Most of It

The Soft Landing sex position is already amazing, but with a few tweaks, it can become even more pleasurable. Whether it’s about stability, stimulation, or communication, these tips will ensure a smooth and exciting experience.

First, pick the right fitness ball size. If it’s too big, the man might wobble; too small, and it won’t support his weight properly. A medium-sized ball that keeps him stable is ideal. "Stability is key in positions requiring balance. If the man is struggling to hold himself steady, it can take away from the pleasure and lead to discomfort," says Tatyana Dyachenko, a sexual and relationship therapist. "A properly sized ball allows for controlled movement and ensures both partners stay comfortable throughout."

Second, communication is essential. Before getting started, agree on pace, depth, and movement. This ensures both partners stay comfortable and reduces the chance of misalignment.

Next, lubrication is non-negotiable. Water-based lube is best, as it reduces friction and makes penetration smoother. A well-lubricated experience is a pleasurable one!

To take things up a notch, introduce sex toys. A vibrating cock ring can enhance the man's erection and pleasure, while a bullet vibrator or wand massager can heighten external stimulation for the woman. Nipple vibrators? A subtle but effective way to amplify sensations.

Lastly, ensure the woman leans slightly forward. This keeps her balanced and in control, making the experience more enjoyable and effortless.

Safety Considerations

Pleasure is important, but safety should always come first. The Soft Landing position is exciting and rewarding, but it also requires physical awareness, protection, and proper aftercare to ensure an enjoyable experience for both partners.

First, be mindful of physical strain. Since the man supports himself on a fitness ball, he needs a strong core to maintain balance. If his core muscles aren’t engaged, he might struggle to stay steady, which could lead to discomfort or injury. "A stable core prevents unnecessary strain and ensures both partners can enjoy the experience without interruptions," says Tatyana Dyachenko. "If fatigue sets in, it’s best to pause, readjust, or switch positions to avoid muscle soreness."

Second, joint support matters. The man’s wrists and knees shouldn’t be overextended, and the woman should avoid leaning too far forward to prevent losing balance. Small adjustments help keep both partners comfortable.

Protection is non-negotiable. Even in a monogamous relationship, using a condom during anal sex is essential to prevent infections and bacteria transfer. "Anal tissue is more delicate and prone to microtears, making protection crucial," explains Dr. Veronika Matutyte, a healthcare professional. "A condom reduces the risk of infections and makes cleanup easier." Dr. Rimas Geiga, a medical doctor, adds, "Unprotected anal sex increases the risk of bacterial infections and STIs, even in committed relationships. A condom provides a protective barrier that significantly reduces these risks."

Slow, steady motion is key. Fast, uncontrolled movements can cause discomfort or pain, especially if the receiver hasn’t fully relaxed. Taking deep breaths and moving at a controlled pace will make the experience more pleasurable and safe.

Finally, aftercare matters. Cleaning up, hydrating, and checking in emotionally with your partner helps strengthen intimacy. "Aftercare isn't just about physical hygiene—it reinforces emotional connection and makes partners feel valued," says Barbara Santini.

Final Thoughts on Soft Landing Sex Position

Nervous about trying something new? Totally normal. It’s easy to stick to what’s familiar, but the best experiences come from stepping outside the comfort zone. The Soft Landing sex position isn’t just about sex—it’s about control, comfort, and deeper connection. A chance to own the moment, explore new sensations, and strengthen intimacy.

No rush, no pressure—just pure, electrifying pleasure. Take it slow, communicate, and let the rhythm take over. The best adventures start with a single step—or in this case, a soft landing.