THE COWGIRL SEX POSITION

While some women prefer to stay passive, others love to exercise control and power during sex. The latter are huge fans of the cowgirl sex position. Like a person on a horse, cowgirl sex allows the receiving partner to mount themselves on top of the penis or strap-on dildo-having person and ride them to orgasms. Interested in trying the position next time you get into it with your partner? This blog has intel that can give you a head start, including how to get into it, introduce it in your bedroom, and get the most from it and its variations.

The cowgirl sex position is a classic that seems not to get old soon. The cowgirl's idea comes from a person on a horse performing a buck, focused on mutual pleasure and empowerment of the partner on top. They are mounted on the horse and riding. In the bedroom, the position mostly shows dominance and power. It shares a common theme with other sex positions, including missionary and doggy styles. The only difference is that a woman or vagina is the person taking charge of things in the sexual encounter involving a man and woman.

Cowgirl is a big deal across all gender identities. It explains why it has other names, including rider, cow person, cowboy, and girl on top. Whether used in an encounter between the man and woman or other gender identities, this mounted position allows the top partner or person to control the penetration depth, angle, pace, and depth. Generally, the position is incredibly satisfying when done with much love and determination. It means bringing the most sensitive zones in the female anatomy (clitoris and G spot) onboard while riding the bottom partner. The combination of the G spot and clitoral stimulation is not a joke. In most cases, it ends in high-pitched screams and toe-curling blended orgasms.

How to Get into the Cowgirl Position

The penetrating partner should lie flat on their back. The receiving partner should climb on top, spread their legs on either side of the penetrating partner, and make close contact. Once the bodies are aligned, the receiving partner should lower themselves onto the bottom's penis or strap on the dildo and initiate the upward and downward movement. It is always best to start slow to find the right rhythm. The receiving partner can think about riding the bottom partner briskly with the right rhythm at their disposal.

Myths Surrounding the Cowgirl Position

Myth 1: It is only Top Partner Active During the Play

The bottom partner doesn't have to be dormant, although the top partner controls the entire play. They lift the hips and thighs of the receiving partner to make things more intimate. While down, they can push their pelvis into the bottom partner to encourage clitoral stimulation. The dominant can thrust the receiving partner for explosive sex.

The Bottom Partner Benefits More

A cowgirl can also get the clitoris of the top partner stimulated when properly performed. The clitoris is mostly involved when the top partner slightly leans forward. Combined with deep thrusts and G spot stimulation, the top partner achieves mind-blowing orgasms, as Frith (2015) suggested.

How to Introduce Cowgirl Position into Your Bedroom

The most important thing is talking to your partner about your sexual fantasies. While some like taking control of things, others may feel intimidated to be on top during sex. According to Iasenza (2010), talking to your partner before having sex allows you to be on the same page, making your sex session more pleasurable.

Cowgirl Position variations

Try the following sex positions after mastering how to do the basic cowgirl.

Reverse Cowgirl

Komisaruk et al.(2009) stated that the penetrating partner lies flat on their back in the reverse cowgirl sex position. The receiving partner climbs on top of them, facing their feet. Once on top, they spread their knees on either side of the penetrating partner's legs. The top partner inserts the bottom's penis or dildo inside their vagina or anus and starts to move up and down with the weight evenly distributed. Reverse cowgirl also gives the top partner control of the penetration rhythm, speed, and depth. The only difference here is that it restricts eye contact. Also, the top partner leans backward for clitoral stimulation as they ride the bottom partner.

Horizontal Cowgirl

Start on the traditional cowgirl position. The top partner bends forward to bring their chest close to the penetrating partner's. This position also allows the top partner to control the movement. It also allows close eye contact and kissing, making the play more intimate. However, it tilts the erection or the toy downwards and reduces the bottom's pelvic with the top's clitoris, meaning it works more on the G spot.

Sitting Up Cowgirl

The penetrating partner sits upright, moving their legs straight or folding them. The receiving partner then sits upright on the bottom, spreading legs on either side of their lap. Since the receiving and penetrating partners are close, the former can rub their clitoris against the latter's pelvis. It also allows the penetrating partner to kiss the receiving partner's nipples and neck, bringing them to a powerful orgasm.

How to Get the Most from Cowgirl Position

Lube Things Up

Bringing a bottle of safe lube into the bedroom is a great idea, whether or not you have problems with natural lubrication. Taormino (2006) suggested that extra lubrication reduces friction and heightens sensations, allowing you to enjoy a vaginal and anal exploration.

Bring a Sex Toy Onboard

A clitoral stimulator or anal toy can make you enjoy every second on top of your partner. Doing it with a vibrator takes the play to a new level, although you can lean backward and show your clitoris some love with your fingers.

The Bottom Line

This blog focuses on the Cowgirl position when used in intercourse between the penis and vagina-having person. Of course, other gender identities can also use the position, explaining why it is referred to as a rider,  cowperson, girl on top, and cowboy. The position also has variations, including reverse cowgirl, horizontal cowgirl, and sitting cowgirl. These variations can be a great deal after mastering how to perform the regular cowgirl. It is best to understand cowgirl may not be for everyone. Feel free to try other positions if it does not give you exploding orgasms.

References

Iasenza, S. (2010). What Is Queer About Sex?: Expanding Sexual Frames In Theory And Practice. Family Process, 49(3), 291-308.

Frith, H. (2015). Orgasmic Labour: Training The Body For Orgasmic Success. In Orgasmic Bodies (Pp. 83-104). Palgrave Macmillan, London.

Komisaruk, B. R., Whipple, B., Nasserzadeh, S., & Beyer-Flores, C. (2009). The Orgasm Answer Guide. JHU Press.

Taormino, T. (2006). The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women. San Francisco: Cleis Press.