SUBMISSIVE DISCIPLINE – 45 BDSM PUNISHMENT IDEAS

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In BDSM, punishment mainly serves to rectify unwanted behavior. While t may look easy, some partners get overwhelmed in getting the correct punishment. Essentially, you should understand how BDSM punishments work to avoid spoiling the fun.  Some may be quite distressing, but be sure to keep your partner screaming in ecstasy and maintaining their addiction only to you. This is possible, only ensure you do the correct thing to spice up the moment. The article contains punishment ideas that will work for your BDSM and take the affair to another level. Let’s continue scrolling to get more from this guide.

The best punishment ideas to discipline your sub

Discomfort or pain

1. Forced cold shower
2. Use soap to mouth wash
3. Put on an uncomfortable mouth gag
4. Kneel on raw rice for a few minutes before cleaning it
5. Put weight on nipples, testicles, and penis
6. Use a magic wand for forcing an orgasm
7. Wear clothespins in a sensitive area
8. Do a house chore with physical restriction or binding
9. Insert a cold glass dildo, but avoid using ice as it can cause damage
10. Put pennies on each finger and hold them against the wall in a position of choice
11. Give them a Brazillian wax schedule
12. Offer them a sensory deprivation sort of punishment as they do another one
13. No matter the activity asked to do, they must count al and appreciate you for it, and inquire about the next

Denial or restrictive

1. Orgasm edging
2. Early bedtime
3. Chastity belts
4. Deny the rights to public speaking for themselves for a certain period
5. Take away the right to visit you or deny them the attention they deserve
6. Deny them what they love most for some days, such as the cell phone
7. Don’t give them orgasms for some days, weeks, or months
8. If you have several slaves, let one prepare for your sex session with the others. Their work is only to watch what’s going on
9. If collars aren't their thing, force them to wear them around the house

Mental or boring

1. Write lines
2. Isolation
3. Think of what they’ve done in some corner
4. Lecture them on how bad they were
5. Force them to eat a super healthy meal and tasteless, such as boiled, mushy cauliflower

Humiliation

1. Naked exercise
2. Masturbating in the presence of guests
3. Behave like a piece of furniture, such as a chair or stool
4. Announce whenever they’re on heat and explain why
5. Tell of how and why you feel they disappointed you
6. Ask them to stay in a pant with cum for a full day
7. Determine their body’s infraction and write it in permanent ink
8. Dress men in female attire for the entire day
9. Write dirty texts n their skin, such as ‘cum dumpster, dirty slut, and cock whore.’
10. Record them when reaching the climax and make it their message alert and ringing tone
11. Ask them to eat from a pet bowl or dish
12. Force your sub to call another honored dominant for punishment suggestion
13. Find out their least favorite song and play. It can also be a radio station they dislike

Productive

1. Force them to run an errand in public with ben wa balls throughout the activity
2. Ask them to serve you food and stay in nude waiting for you
3. Essay writing
4. Insert a butt plug in the ass hole and do their daily duties
5. Force them to run an errand while wearing a long coat without any other outfit inside

Factors to consider when administering punishment

The punishment should be proportionate to the crime

In BDSM, crime isn't real as such. It could simply be a broken rule, bad attitude, or infraction. Just ensure that whatever punishment chosen is more or less equal to the wrong. Try to preserve harsher punishments for repeated infractions or worse behavior. Do the same like in parenting by giving a less painful discipline to pass your message. Be careful not to use anger in punishing your sub, which is similar to parenting, which can cause poor decision-making. Get used to taking a breather before deciding on the punishment type. Nothing here should be extremely intense or possibly hurting, let it be within their limits of pain.

Understand their limits

Punishments in BDSM must be practical and not impossible. There's no need to assign something that won't reach completion, because your goal isn't failure in the game. For instance, don't expect a person with arthritis to hang somewhere for long. It may also be a working punishment for a normal person, but it's risky as they might fall and injure themselves. It's you to gauge and see what can be done. Be keen to notice distress and make adjustments or stop whenever need be. Punishing should again not be a difficult limit for your sub. You might end up violating trust in your relationship by forcing something hard. Please don’t hurt the person you should show concern and care.

Avoid surprise punishment

Importantly, you should now realize that punishment in BDSM is thought out and purposeful. Do not give any surprises. Do you know why? The sub might not possibly tell their wrongdoing. Be lenient enough to give a chance for self-explanation. Through that, they may likely presume the kind of discipline you'd give and prepare psychologically. Furthermore, if they don't understand their mistake, you can tell them, giving them the opportunity of going over anticipations. Even through the discipline, they can tell how fir the punishment is. On the other hand, surprising can be tormenting and harmful. In the process, your trust can be compromised. And don't forget that once a punishment is completed, there's no going back. For instance, give a certain punishment for this mistake and, after completion, move on.

The bottom line

After a scene, it’s good to keep your submissive physically, mentally, and emotionally cared for. Doing this is a major way of handling BDSM games. In case you offer a physical punishment, be sure to give aftercare to your sub.