How to Use Erotic Massage Candles
Also known as bondage candles, the erotic massage candles are created to specifically cater to those looking to an alternative foreplay sessions. Normally associated with BDSM, massage candles are more than just tools for delivering pain. The soft texture allows the wax to be spread evenly over the body, giving a smooth and silky feel.
Choosing A Massage Candle
Normal candles have a high melting point, making the wax too hot for pleasurable purposes. Using a normal candle may cause scalding and burn marks that may be serious enough to require medical attention. Candle play is usually indulged in by people with the intention of causing pain or for pure pleasure. For BDSM practices, the candle may be incorporated for both pain and pleasure purposes depending on the dominant’s discretion.
Bondage candles have a lower melting point, ensuring that the wax is perfect for dripping onto sensitive skin. Different people have different sensitivity and the wax may feel okay to one person and be painfully unbearable to another person. While starting off, pour a little wax onto the back of your hand to test the temperature of the candle. If it is too hot for you, it will most likely be too hot for your partner too. If the wax is just right, start by dripping it on the shoulder or back of your partner for them to gauge the heat and give you a go ahead. However, although they have a lower melting point, some people still find them too hot, so always make sure that you discuss a safe word in advance before starting the session.
If you are thinking about commencing the journey into these unchartered waters, here are some basics you need to know about erotic candles massage;
Candle Wax Play
Bondage candles are sensual, have great aromas and some even taste amazing. To get you going, you may choose dripping or body painting using the wax. Dripping is the most common method of candle play and when indulging, always remember to pour a reasonable distance away from the skin. Bondage candle wax may not be scalding hot, but the additional distance helps the wax to cool a little bit more, reaching the skin with a pleasurable tinge, awakening the senses. Body painting is more sensual and you may choose to use your hands or a brush for this. After melting the wax, just dip your hand or the brush into the wax and spread over the desired area. With every application or drop, the skin gets more and more sensitive, slowly lowering the pain threshold. As you progress, make sure you have communication signals to show when to continue or when to stop. With the traffic light system, red would signify stop, yellow or amber would mean that it is getting painful so proceed carefully and green would be taken to mean everything is A-OK.
Candle wax can be a bit difficult to pry out of the skin and other materials and carpets. Always ensure that you pour carefully to avoid the wax dripping onto hair. If possible, ensure the area is shaved to make it easy to remove the wax without causing pain. Your fabrics and carpet also need protection, so always line a plastic sheet and have your partner lie on the sheet before the session starts. This will ensure that your cleanup is easy and no fabrics and accessories are damaged by the wax.
Massage Candle Safety
- Always discuss the safe word before starting the session to ensure that the play is stopped immediately the pain is too much.
- Never pour wax onto the face as the splatter of hot wax may enter the eyes and cause blindness.
- Limit your wax play to the external body area, as the wax may cause intense damages when poured into body openings.
A hot candle massage may be a great way to distress and also get the mood going, so always ensure that you take it slow, indulging your senses for the best time. As you give the massage, remember that it is not a must that you get one in return, so always indulge wholeheartedly and you will find yourself greatly enjoying the session.