HOW TO HAVE PAIN-FREE ANAL SEX – 12 TIPS & TECHNIQUES FOR BEGINNERS

Anal sex can be deeply satisfying or just horribly messy and exceedingly painful. For the former you need to learn the following techniques from inception to becoming a pro case.

Your body constantly needs preparation beforehand whenever you want to try something new. This is also true for anal sex. Firstly, anal sex is penetrative coitus practiced in the anal opening of the body. You can say that it is the kind of sex in the tail end of the alimentary canal. This therefore means that both male and females can engage in anal sex. Before looking at the techniques, lets first see the pros and cons of anal sex.

Pros and cons of anal sex

Pros

• It is an excellent alternative in penetrative sex. For instance, in cases where you have an infection like an STD or UTI, you will need another hole to penetrate. Also, say your partner is on her periods, the anal opening becomes the next best bet.
• No chance of conception when practicing anal sex.
• The taboo that is associated with anal sex makes it a good kinky activity to try. It can be real fun getting to break societal rules and expectations.
• Some people get to experience some intense orgasms from anal penetration. It presents a unique option for women who do not get to enjoy vaginal sex. It is also beneficial for men who want to find out how it feels to be penetrated.

Cons

• Anal sex requires extensive planning. Firstly, you need to watch your die on the run to the act. Secondly, you need to clean up deep and thirdly, you need to practice your muscles to prevent extreme painful penetrations.
• Forceful sex partners can cause a painful experience due to damage your anal sphincter muscles. Do not attempt this with people who are here to satisfy their fetishes and obsessions.

Anal sex tips

Know all about anal sex

Before engaging in the act, at least do some due diligence on the topic. In the worst-case scenario, learn about the disadvantages and the advantages of anal sex before signing up for it.

It was revealed that most women do not look forward to having anal sex. In fact, most asserted that the main reason they do it is to make their partners happy. If you are not interested in the act, just simply don’t do it. Your ability to enjoy anal penetration is when you are ready, and aroused. You cannot be aroused if the mood isn’t right and you haven’t created the correct mental preparedness for the same.

Communication

Other than your non-verbal cues and behavior, your man does not know what works for you during anal sex or what doesn’t. it is your responsibility to direct and lead the conversation on his subject. Which mans you will be leading the way telling your partner what and how to do it.

Remember also that this is not a domination act. That means your partner should be able to take instructions when told to pull out, go slow or stop movement completely.

Use lubrication

Since the anus cannot produce its own natural lubrication, you will need to use commercial options. There are four types of lubes as highlighted below;

• Silicone-based lubrication. Its arguably the best for anal sex since it is body safe, doesn’t dry quickly, it is silky, and can be used with latex condoms.
• Water-based. Mostly contain water. This lube is mostly compatible with latex and has no side effect. Except, it dries up quickly. Which means it needs reapplication every after short periods.
• Oil-based. It lasts longer than water, and is perfect for anal sex. It however doesn’t combine well with latex condoms.
• Saliva. It is quite common, especially for quickies, but it is not sustainable.

Other side effects from lubes may come from the added chemicals. Some lubes come with spermicides which are meant to kill sperms. It is highly expected that these lubes could cause cell damage in your body.

Pain management

It doesn’t really matter about your pro levels in anal sex, if you rush your penetration, you are likely to injure yourself. The anal sphincter muscle is one slow tissue. The rate of relaxation ad contraction is quite slowed.

Which mean you need to wait until you are fully relaxed before plunging a penis into your anus. You can enhance this by first using your finger to prepare the muscles. Your partner can then take over to finger you slowly and they prepare for penetration.

Do not use numbing products to manage pain that may result during anal sex. For the obvious reasons, you will be able to control and prevent possible muscle tears when not under anesthetic products.

Start by being in control

To be able to control your man’s movement and penetrations, you need to have your man start on his back. It is much easier to control how deep and hard their thrusts are on this position.

The best anal sex position for a woman beginner is the cowgirl position. However, any position where you are on top and in control is good enough. Let him penetrate from behind only after you are comfortable.

Consider the following additional techniques

• Use alcohol before penetration if you are anxious. Don’t take excess amount.
• Anal training is key to enjoying anal sex.
• Try double penetration for double stimulation.
• Sex toys such a butt plugs, anal beads, and vibrators can be exciting additions to your anal sex process.
• Try clitoral stimulation simultaneously using your hands or wands.
• Observe safety precautions such as the use of condoms and cleaning after the act.
• Do not switch from anal and vaginal penetrations at the same time. You risk transferring bacterial from one hole to another which may result in infections.
• Discuss after your first experience to either correct or explore more options

The bottom line

Anal sex guide is comprehensive and could not have possibly fit everything here, but following the above summary can go a long way to getting you to where you want to be. The most crucial points to note are anal training, and safety guidelines.