THE PERFECT LOVE BITE: HOW TO GIVE A HICKEY!
There are many ways you can kiss someone to show your affection. Giving a hickey is one of the fun ways of kissing your partner. Read this article to learn more about giving your partner a perfect love bite.
A hickey is a term used to describe a bruise made by breaking someone’s blood vessels either using the mouth or any tool meant for the same. According to Moore (1990), a hickey, also known as the love bite, is used to show affection towards someone. When giving your partner a hickey, the area will be reddish due to blood accumulation, but the skin has yet to break. However, after a few hours after using the steps for giving a hickey, it will develop independently. Although giving a hickey might sound simple, some steps need to be carefully followed for it to develop.
Steps To Give a Hickey
The following are the steps used to give a hickey:
Focus On the Neck
The neck is the traditional place for giving a hickey. However, you can give a hickey at any body part, depending on your preference. People prefer giving hickeys where the skin is soft, and you won't have to use more strength. Moreover, you can combine giving a hickey with nipple play.
Suck Them Gently
Start kissing the area gently after choosing a perfect area for giving a hickey. Form an O shape with your mouth and suck in some skin from your chosen surface. Suck for about 30 to 60 seconds. According to Blue (2014), little stimulation will bring a hickey.
Suck Harder
The hickey will start forming at this stage if you suck well. You can stay on this stage for about a minute. For a big and effective hickey, suck hard for a long time.
Use Your Teeth but Gently
To make the experience more exciting and thrilling, vary the sucking and biting on the skin. Nibbling and sucking will induce a different sensation, making your partner moan with pleasure. Giving a hickey is an S and M play (sadist and masochists). Inflicting some pain through gentle bites will work perfectly. Even if you are not an S and M lover, you can do this.
Avoid Giving a Hickey at Any Uncomfortable Places
Although S and M can make giving a hickey more thrilling, you must be careful not to make the experience painful that your partner cannot bear. Avoid some areas that will not be of pleasure, such as around the veins and Adam’s apple.
Vary the Types
After knowing how to give a hickey, you can make it look big and dark for more effects. Repeat the same procedure on the same spot several times for a darker and bigger hickey.
Disadvantages of Giving a Hickey
Although giving a hickey is associated with a lot of fun, it has several challenges. Hickeys can last for as long as two weeks.
Hickeys Can Be Embarrassing
Having an exposed hickey is like advertising that you recently had some type of sexual adventure. However, there are some moments when you will not worry about announcing that you have had sex last night or recently. This only happens if you are proud of the person you had sex with. Therefore, you will flaunt and show off that they gave you a hickey. All your friends will want an explanation for what happened during that session. Sometimes, you will want to keep things private and avoid disapproval eyes from the community.
Covering the Hickey Can Be Annoying
You can tie a scarf or viola around the neck if that is where the hickey mark is. You can also apply makeup to cover up the scar, as indicated by Blaas et al. (2016). However, regardless of whether you love scarves, you will eventually feel annoyed walking around every time with a scarf or a cover-up on your neck.
Hickeys Can Leave a Scar on Your Skin
Although most people are not scared of hickeys, they may leave a tiny scar after it heals. It happens mostly to people with tender and fair skin.
Hickey Is Immature
This type of sexual adventure is considered immature by many people. Kids in high school mostly practice it. Therefore, if you are a bit older, the adventure may seem immature to you.
The Bottom Line
Giving a hickey is a pleasurable activity that you can consider adding to your kissing repertoire. Giving hickey does not have some drawbacks. However, that doesn't mean you should give hickeys frequently because it may be a different case for your partner. Getting a hickey from your partner feels great. It is an awesome way to show passion, although not everyone likes it. Do not give hickeys before asking.
References
Moore, J. (1990). Lovebite.
Blue, V. (2014). Kissing: A Field Guide. Cleis Press.
Blaas, V., Manhart, J., & Büttner, A. (2016). Make-up and love bites: two reports about exceptional cases of self-inflicted “injuries”. Forensic science, medicine, and pathology, 12(4), 502-505.