WHAT ATTRACTS WOMEN? THE MYTHS, THE HARD TRUTHS, AND THE FACTS
Women only want men who have money, and a man must be handsome for women to find him attractive are some myths said about women.
Women always seem like a mystery to men. A man may do everything he thinks a woman would find attractive and still fail. A man wonders what women want. Some men work hard and marry the women they think they could attract and keep with their money yet still cheat on. A man becomes frustrated when he thinks he has figured out what a woman finds attractive and fails to win her. A man considers the woman ungrateful. Below are some hard truths and the facts against the myths most men have about women;
A Man Must Be Handsome For Women To Find Him Attractive
Attractiveness is relative. No matter how handsome a man is, some women still don't find him attractive. There's a woman for every kind of man, whether handsome or not.
Women Only Love Men Who Have Money.
According to Smock et al. (2005), some women go out wanting men that have money only while others want men who can provide for the family. Women loving money is the greatest misconception. The male gender is also obsessed with money. Some men do not want friends with no money. Men who are most afraid about people wanting their money accuse every woman of being obsessed with money even if a woman means she wants a man who will provide for the family. A man with the notion that women want money will not understand a genuine woman. Society sets the standards for gender roles. The women are supposed to nurture while the men provide and protect the family. There's nothing wrong with a woman's expectations of what a man should do; when a man approaches a woman when a man buys dinner and pays the bill. A woman finds that attractive not because she wants the man's money but because she is impressed that the man understands his role as the provider.
Women Love Men with Big Penises.
Big penises are overrated, and it's unlikely that a woman would be attracted to a man because his penis is big. It must hurt a man’s ego when he still gets cheated on with a big penis. Most women do not care about the dick size, "size matters" is a phrase spoken in jest, but when every woman goes back to their men, they want them as they are. Most men most probably want a man who is great at foreplay. It's all about bedroom skills. It's never about the size of the penis but what you can do with it. What you do with your fingers also counts.
Women Love Rude Men
Some women have attracted bad boys, but most women would be happy with a gentleman. There's a woman who'd fantasize about being with a rude person. The last men do not finish last. That's why all the good men are married.
What can men do to be attractive?
The simple answer should be that men should be themselves. They do not have to do anything to keep a woman, that a woman should love them as they are. According to Kiesler & Baral (1970), a woman will find you attractive when you are on your best behavior. Here are some ways in which men can be more attractive;
Dress well
The easiest way to stand out is by dressing well. Wear nice clothes, and be clean and stylish if you can. Being well-groomed hints that you take care of yourself and people who can take care of themselves take care of others. Add on some nice perfume or cologne so that people can feel your scent and be forced to look at you as Balz (1996) suggested.
Be friendly
Greet people. Be willing to interact with new people. Find a girl seated alone somewhere and say 'hi.' Women like friendly men. Some men have built around them and are not into making new friends. Do not be a snob. Take every chance to make friends. Women like popular men. When a friendly man walks into a room, and everyone calls them for a chat, women find that very attractive.
Be confident
Push everything that makes you feel, think low of yourself aside, and be confident. Do not fear anyone. There's nothing to fear except dangerous animals. Walk tall even if you are short. Ooze confidence. people should hear you when you talk. You must shake off the shyness if you want women to find you attractive because women like confident men. When a woman wants a man, she wants a man who can protect the family. You can't protect a family when you lack confidence.
Make money
Women also work to make money, but no matter how much money a woman makes, a man still has to show her that he's the provider. Men who want women but do not want to pay bills are never attractive. Your self-esteem grows when you make your money, no matter how little it is. Make money for yourself, and a man will notice you not because you have money but because you are confident.
Be principled
Principled men are always attractive to women. Chances are you'll attract someone like you if you use drugs, sleep with other men's wives, or are a thief and a liar. The only time when opposites attract is when we are talking about magnets and finding people with such characteristics isn’t easy. The women you want will find you unattractive.
Drop stereotypical mentality
You'll need to stop looking at women as a group and understand that all stereotypes are false. You cannot place a whole gender under one umbrella. Women are not the same. Focus on women at individual levels.
Conclusion
There are no characteristics for what women as a gender find attractive in men. Every woman has her preference on what makes a man attractive. Men should not go out of their way to know what women find attractive. A man may find a woman he wants but does not find attractive he tries to improve something about himself. A man should instead focus on what the woman he wants finds attractive. It gives him fewer qualities to work on to better himself for that one woman.
References
Balz, R. (1996). The Healing Power Of Essential Oils: Fragrance Secrets For Everyday Use. Lotus Press.
Kiesler, S. B., & Baral, R. L. (1970). The Search For A Romantic Partner: The Effects Of Self-Esteem And Physical Attractiveness On Romantic Behavior. Personality And Social Behavior, 155-165.
Smock, P. J., Manning, W. D., & Porter, M. (2005). “Everything's There Except Money”: How Money Shapes Decisions To Marry Among Cohabitors. Journal Of Marriage And Family, 67(3), 680-696.
