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TOP 12 SEX POSITIONS TO LAST LONGER

TOP 12 SEX POSITIONS TO LAST LONGER

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Katie Lasson
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Sex and Relationship Adviser
Veronika Matutyte
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Barbara Santini
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📋 Summary of Key Points

  • 🕒 Take Your Time: Lasting longer can mean slowing things down a bit. Enjoy the journey! 😉
  • 🧘‍♀️ Mind Over Matter: Relax, breathe, and focus on the sensations rather than the finish line.
  • 🍃 Explore & Play: Mix things up with different positions for a fresh experience and more control.
  • 💦 Lubricate Liberally: Keep things smooth and comfortable for both of you.
  • 💬 Communication is Key: Talk openly about preferences and boundaries to make the most of your experience.

💡 Key Advice and Tips from Our Experts

  • 🌱 Be Present: Focusing on the moment and letting go of expectations can work wonders.
  • 🎲 Change it Up: Trying new things and positions can add excitement and make it easier to control pace.
  • 🛌 Take a Break: A short pause or even switching positions can help reset the rhythm.
  • 🔥 Find Your Flow: Experiment and discover what keeps things exciting and prolonged for you both.

People love to last longer in bed because it is associated with fun sex. Incorporate different sex positions like cowgirl, spooning, coital alignment, and the lazy doggy style to enjoy sex and last longer.

Most sex advice you hear hints at how you can have better sex and make your partner have more fun during sex, but few topics cater to the person who would like to last longer while having sex. Some sex therapists suggest obeying gravity so that the blood struggles to get up. In contrast, others suggest that people should not focus too much on orgasms and instead consider sex as a moment where they can share intimacy without emphasizing a climax. Not going all the way into the vagina until you and keeping it like that until you are about to cum is another strategy. Below are some positions that men can try out if they do not want to ejaculate prematurely.

Cowgirl

According to Den Hartog (2021), the cowgirl sex position is a sex position also known as the woman on top,  or lady on top. This position gives the woman the control to control the pace, depth, and pressure of the sexual intercourse. The partner on top should pay attention to how the partner at the bottom reacts. The partner on top will control the movements so that the partner at the bottom does not ejaculate too soon. The woman on top is a great style because the position of the penis goes against gravity.

Spooning

According to Grader (2007), you lie on the side behind your partner, facing the same direction. It would be best if you enter your partner from behind. You control everything in this position, although not vigorously. It is a perfect style because the entry is shallow.

Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)

The CAT position allows the woman to get clitoral arousal and orgasm, and if that happens sooner, the man can ejaculate without worrying, and they will be satisfied. The CAT resembles the missionary style. The only difference between a CAT position and a missionary position is that in the CAT position, the woman raises her hips so that her clitoris gets into a position where the man's groin can rub it.

Perpendicular Sex Position

The man holds the woman perpendicularly, at a 90-degree angle. The man does not penetrate the woman but uses the top of his penis to stimulate her clitoris. This position will make a man last longer because the tip of the penis has fewer nerves and hence isn't very sensitive. Lie on top of your partner as in missionary, but do not penetrate her. Instead, rub the back of the penis against her vulva, clitoris, and perineum.

People do not think to experience this form of

"outercourse," but it can be fun for men who ejaculate too quickly. There's still a lot and warmth, but the sensations are focused on the less sensitive part of the penis and not the front of the penis and the head, where the most stimulation comes from. Women love it because they can grind their clitoris.

The yab-yum

A man sits on the bed or the floor with the woman straddling their hips while facing them, allowing them to penetrate her from the front. The yab-yum position is hard to maintain, and the man cannot thrust as much or as hard as he wants while holding the woman. The yam-bum is an intimate position, and it is great for pleasing your partner while watching her reactions.

Face to face, side to side

You lie on your sides and face each other. Your partner will lift the free leg and wrap it around your hip, giving your penis access to her vagina. Both partners control the depth of the thrusts, resulting in a sex position that is active and passive for the partners.

The lazy Dog Sex Position

Doggy is the worst style for a man who ejaculates early, but the lazy dog is different. It's like the doggy style, but the bottom partner lies lower or almost flat, reducing the depth of his thrust. It is an amazing position because a man enjoys the almost doggy style without ejaculating early.

Sit On The Throne

The man sits on a chair, and his partner sits on him while inserting the penis. The partner sitting on the chair has a passive role because the partner on top is in control. When you do not trust, you will not ejaculate early, and that's what makes this position perfect.

Grinding Missionary

According to Doniger (2007), the grinding missionary is where the woman raises her legs high and around her partner, and the partner penetrates her deep and relaxes there. The thrusting in this position is minimal, and a man can enjoy the sex without ejaculating prematurely.

The Cross Position

Picture the cross because that's what this position looks like. The man will be at the bottom, and the woman will lie across the man, and the woman will penetrate her while in that position. A man cannot thrust hard or deep while in this position.

Take a kneel

According to Talvacchia (1999), a man kneels, holding the woman's thighs apart as she lies on her back. Taking a kneeling position is good because the man cannot thrust hard or even deeply.

Edging

The woman lies on her back while at the edge of the bed or any surface where she can be at the edge. The man holds her thighs apart and penetrates her while she is in that position. The edging sex position is good because a man cannot thrust hard or deep enough to ejaculate quickly.

Conclusion

It is important to note that premature ejaculation affects men differently. The sex positions may work for the men who's premature ejaculation is mild. Those whose premature ejaculation is severe may need medical intervention, and the sex positions won't work. Premature ejaculation is experienced when the penis is too excited and can't hold the excitement any longer. The nerves cause it in the penis, and the exact cause is unknown. Anything that counters premature ejaculation aims at desensitizing the penis and making it less excited.

References

Den Hartog, M. (2021). Women On Top: Coital Positions And Gender Hierarchies In Renaissance Italy. Renaissance Studies, 35(4), 638-657.

Doniger, W. (2007). Reading The “Kamasutra”: The Strange & The Familiar. Daedalus, 136(2), 66-78.

Grader, R. (2007). The Cuddle Sutra: An Unabashed Celebration Of The Ultimate Intimacy. Sourcebooks, Inc.

Talvacchia, B. (1999). Taking Positions: On The Erotic In Renaissance Culture. Princeton University Press.

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