20+ TIPS ON HOW TO HAVE ANAL SEX WITHOUT THE OUCH!

Anal sexual act fits both male and female genders. Herein are some tips you can use to enjoy anal sex, including; familiarizing yourself with the anatomy, using lubricants, and avoiding anal and vaginal sex simultaneously.

The best thing about sex is that sex has many ways. While oral sex or foreplay is the most loved, anal sex is also a part of it, although it involves mixed emotions. Anal sex is a good play option because it's pleasurable for all gender. Anal sex is sexual activity that involves the anus. It doesn't always mean penetration by penis alone, but people also can use sex toys, fingers, or even tongue.

Tips on How to Have Anal Sex

Familiarise Yourself With The Anatomy

Learn about the anus muscles to learn how to relax and stretch your muscles. There are two muscles, the external and internal sphincters. The external one eases access and is easy to clench shut or relax. Internal is located an and a half farther in. you can be in control and create postures during anal sex when you practice.

Experiment

You can try what it feels like to have something in your anus. The experience will give you knowledge while in the bedroom later. Begin by massaging the exterior of the anus, helping with contracting your external sphincter, as Taormino (2006) suggested. You can practice this while in the bathroom using your fingertips.

Lubricate

Unlike the vagina, which is self-lubricated, the anus needs you to use a lubricant to help smooth the area. The two most important things to look for when selecting a lube for anal sex are viscosity and composition. According to Hillman et al. (2019), thicker lubes are best for anal sex because the walls of the anus are thinner than vaginal walls and require a lube that can keep them nice and slippery to reduce the chances of (ouch!) cuts and tears inside the rectum.

Eat Light

Avoid fatty foods when prepping to have anal sex. Ensure you eat light foods. Fatty foods can make stools softer and increase the likelihood of some poop being left behind after a bathroom visit.

Relax Your Whole Body

Foreplay and anal massage are ways to start a night of anal. You can start by massaging your partner's lower back, caressing your inner thighs, and slowly working your way up to massage the entrance of the anus. Being mentally and physically relaxed to avoid straining your muscles.

Make Anal Sex Romantic

It's important to be fully relaxed and aroused before anal. Thinking of fantasy, reading or listening to an erotic story,  or touching yourself can make you feel excited and comfortable exploring. Its also okay to embrace the romantic side of this sexual act, whether alone or with another person. You can light candles, play music, or engage in other sensual activities that make you feel comfier and turned on.

Prepare Your Space

Anal has the possibility of getting messy. Like anything sex-related, when you're swapping bodily fluids, unwrapping condoms, and using lube, there's the potential to stain or make a mess. Ensure the surface you and your partner engage on is comfortable and easy to clean to have peace of mind. You can focus on creating a memorable experience for yourself.

Try Non – Penetrative Anal Fist

You can give lighter anal play a try before embarking on the full monty of penetrative anal sex. There are many ways to pleasure the butt. Döring & Poeschl (2020) advised that you could stimulate the outside of the booty hole with anal toys or butt plugs or your fingers to get a lower-pressure idea of sensations of anal stimulation. This can help you physically and mentally work up to penetration before gradually experimenting with insertion. Have some light anal play in a camp for a better experience. No rules except to use lube and have consent.

Stop if It Hurts

Stop when you feel much pain or become uncomfortable to avoid tearing up your muscle tissues by forcing this activity.

Avoid Anal to Vagina Sex At Simultaneously

Any bacteria found in your stool can increase your risk of acquiring infections like UTIs, bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, and more. Wash the penis, finger, or toy introduced in the anus before introducing it into the vaginal canal to avoid contracting infections from fecal.

Communicate

Ensure you communicate with your partner throughout the anal session. Tell them if they're going too fast or too slow, if you feel like you're literally about to poop, or if you're experiencing pain/discomfort. Also, tell your partner if it feels good to help them concentrate on that area. Show your partner what feels good if you practice it for the first time. Your partner may also feel nervous if you do. Create positive feedback and teamwork.

Use Protection

Using a condom helps prevent bacteria from spreading from the bowels to the vagina, as Marfatia et al. (2015) stated. You can also use wet wipes on the nightstand. Never use the same condom going from vaginal to anal and back because you don't want to spread leftover fecal matter or bacteria to the vagina.

Positions

Don't stick with one sex position if it's not doing the job. You can try different positions and angles like doggy style and cowgirl until you feel comfortable.

Be shallow

You won't be thrown for a loop by the feeling of something in your butt, even if what you're butt hole is less sizable than fingers, a plug, or a dildo. Go slow and shallow while penetrating the anus for the first time. Ensure to use a smaller butt plug to insert to avoid tears.

Conclusion

Anal sex is sensitive to most couples. Creating a dialogue to identify what works best for you is good. Use smaller sex toys when penetrating the anus. Train the sphincter muscles before anal sex. Use thicker lubes to enhance sliding. Have anal sex for different sexual pleasures.

References

Döring, N., & Poeschl, S. (2020). Experiences With Diverse Sex Toys Among German Heterosexual Adults: Findings From A National Online Survey. The Journal Of Sex Research, 57(7), 885-896.

Hillman, R. J., Berry-Lawhorn, J. M., Ong, J. J., Cuming, T., Nathan, M., Goldstone, S., ... & Jay, N. (2019). International Anal Neoplasia Society Guidelines For The Practice Of Digital Anal Rectal Examination. Journal Of Lower Genital Tract Disease, 23(2), 138-146.

Marfatia, Y. S., Pandya, I., & Mehta, K. (2015). Condoms: Past, Present, And Future. Indian Journal Of Sexually Transmitted Diseases And AIDS, 36(2), 133.

Taormino, T. (2006). The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women. San Francisco: Cleis Press.