BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX WITH YOUR EX, READ THIS
BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX WITH YOUR EX, READ THIS
A breakup might seem to be the best solution because there is no need to stay any longer in a situation that makes you feel bad and deprives you of inner peace. Most people tend to go back to their ex-partner after they have forgotten the heartache. Below is an explanation of what you need to know before having sex with your ex including interrupting the healing process.
Most people have found themselves in the situation of wanting to have sex with their ex. This is normal, and you should not condemn and hate yourself for it. How people treat their ex can be categorized into two groups; the first are those you can cross the streets not to meet up with them and are blocked everywhere so they can get no access to us. The second group is those exes you dream of and always wish to meet, and they are still on your contact list since they still brighten your day. Most people argue that these are people who know your weaknesses and strengths. They know your intimate curves; thus, you will not have shyness when making out with your new partner. You might have thought of slipping back into the familiar sheets with a familiar cuddle, warmth, and smell. Before getting back to your ex and making love, here are the things you should know.
Know Why You Want to do It
Be honest with yourself by knowing why you want to go back to your ex. Are there chances that you think having that steamy moment or night will unleash the spark that got lost in the previous relationship after the whole time you have been away doing? Are you looking for comfort or a place of belonging? Are you scared to drop clothes for a new person or don't want to look so vulnerable? With your home, even when they are steamed up, you know what to expect compared to the new person. You are not aware of how they behave and carry out themselves when horny. When you can answer this question, you are now fully aware of what has made you make the decision, and you will not have any regrets.
Psychotherapists argue that this can result from not knowing what the future holds for you. For this reason, you still get hooked on your ex. It is not bad to have a desire for that, but you should remember the relationship ended for a reason. Therefore, you should stop and think again about the idea, and if it is what you want to get to know, is it ever a good idea? You know the reason whether you choose to go back or not it is up to you. Be ready to bear the consequences of your action. However, they might not be that hurting or harmful or it turns out to be fun, but what if it turns out unexpected? You are the one to blame since you are aware of why you are no longer together.
Sex in the Exes Place is Simple and Harmless
It is not hard going to your ex’s residence. It is understood because you are just going back to the same house with so many memories you shared while still together. Can you bare all that everything you see reminds you of one thing to another because you are no longer together, and maybe there are no chances for you two remaining? All you are doing is enjoy yourselves while your hearts are closed and not to be triggered that feel anything for your ex? There are possibilities that your meeting will make the love that you had to be sparked, which is just like gambling. But what would be the reason for you to put your legs in the same spot of water that almost drowned you? According to Weimand et al. (2020), others might go back to their exes because they are stuck. Moreover, Palmer (2009) stated that others are scared of moving on and getting hurt by another new person. They opt to stay unattached and single, but this will not do you any good because coming back together will make you or your partner get stuck again for other months or years.
Interrupting the Healing Process
According to Charmaz (1991), recovery requires time. Scratching the itch might delay the healing process. It is not good to make such a move when you know that you have not healed. If you are disabled and unable to evolve, your interaction with the person will romp the healing. It is advisable to find it hard to move on if you feel stuck. It is good to cut off all the communication.
When you have sex with your ex, this shows that they still have a place in your life. This will hinder you from getting to explore with other partners who will satisfy you in all the areas. You are trying to get out of town every time and looking for potential partners on various dating sites, but when you are making out with your ex secretly, you will have no emotional connection to the new people you meet. If you were the one who declared the end of the relationship, welcoming them back to your bedroom will get them to have false hope. Maybe they are holding on thinking you are you still have a chance as a couple and it will not be good since you will make the get even more stuck and even cause confusion to you both.
Rules That You Need to Protect Your heart While Having Sex With Your Ex
Make the Intention of the Relationship Clear
This is because there will be some disconnections. This should not make you end up in tears and cause jealousy accusations. Therefore, be sure to set the boundaries of the kind of connections you have.
Have a Timeline
How long will you have sex with your ex till one of you gets into a relationship they want to commit to? Also, you should have this at the back of your mind that sex with your ex is not a long-lasting thing you should count on.
Do not get necked with the person who crippled your heart when you are staggering from the bar after having some shots.
Although you might get yourself in the hands of your ex at one point, be very cautious with every decision you make. Generally, it is evident from the discussion that it is not a good idea unless you are all ready for double heartbreak.
Charmaz, K. (1991). Good days, bad days: The self in chronic illness and time. Rutgers University Press.
Palmer, P. J. (2009). A hidden wholeness: The journey toward an undivided life. John Wiley & sons.Weimand, B. M., Birkeland, B., Ruud, T., & Høie, M. M. (2020). “It’s like being stuck on an unsafe and unpredictable rollercoaster”: Experiencing substance use problems in a partner. Nordic Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, 37(3), 227-242.