DOWN IN THE MOUTH: TIPS FOR ENJOYING ORAL SEX

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Have you been having oral sex but don't enjoy or get satisfied? Below are tips that will help you enjoy oral sex more than before.

Kumar et al. (2015) defined oral sex as the act of giving or receiving oral simulations in the genitals. The only satisfying thing than being on the receiving end of oral sex is knowing you did an incredible job performing it on your partner. Each sexual partner has a different taste, and when you understand exactly what your partner likes, it can be gratifying. Whether you are self-conscious, hesitant, or just looking for ways to spice up your sex life, below are tips for enjoying oral sex, including getting acquainted with your vulva, bringing in relaxation techniques, and directing your partner.

Get Acquainted with Your Vulva

You'd be shocked to find out the number of women who haven't taken time to look at their vulva and appreciate it. Becoming one with your vulva requires you to look at and appreciate it. You can look at it in front of the mirror or take nudes for your eyes only. The more you become comfortable with your own body, the more comfortable you will be while receiving and enjoying oral sex, which leads to enhanced pleasure.

Get Physically Comfortable in your Environment

Being comfortable is important. Ensure the position you are in supports you. You can have a pillow under your butt or have your partner support your hips. It is also advisable to check your thermostat before you go to bed. Temperature is a big factor in tuning in to your pleasure. Extremely hot or extremely cold environments can make your vulva uncomfortable and unable to receive well.

Bring in Relaxation Techniques

If you are too tensed, consider inhaling and exhaling to relax and have control of your body. You can bring in some breath-work practice to fortify your orgasm. Inhaling and exhaling can help elevate your sex play to new heights and lower your stress levels.

Direct Your Partner

Tell your partner what you want. You can be physically descriptive if you don't have the right words. Don't be afraid to guide your partner's head. You can gently pull them in when it feels good.

Experiment With Flavored Lube

While a healthy vulva tastes awesome, knowing that you taste like strawberry pie can help you relax and allow your partner to dive into you. All you need to do is look for pH-balanced lubes and ones that do not have glycerin to keep your vagina healthy. Ensure you go for flavors that won't irritate your bits. Lubrication is very important as explained by Angel (2022). 

Experiment with Face-Sitting

Get on top and ride your partner's face. Riding your partner's face will allow you to take control and guide the direction of your partner's tongue at the angle you need to get stimulated.

Put on Some Music

A good playlist might be a helpful distraction if you have sex. Noise insecurities can be avoided even though you're entitled to your moans.

Keep Yourself Feeling Fresh

Your vagina is a self-cleaning organ. This tip is more about self-confidence than cleanliness. For example, if you've been in the same clothes for four days in a row, refreshing yourself may help get you in the mood, and you may enjoy receiving oral sex more if you are concerned with hygiene, shower before receiving oral sex.

Be Present

Engage with your partner directly in an intimate way to boost your oral-sex routine. Make eye contact with your partner and watch him instead of closing your eyes.

Receive Oral from a Different Position

You can lie on your stomach with your butt up, lightly hovering over your partner's face, and see how things work out.

Treat Your Leg to Something Sensual

If you've got a favorite lotion, oil, or spray, you may use its aromatic appeal to slide into a more erotic state of mind. You can also use your partner's favorite lotion and apply some to your inner thighs.

Stimulate Other Erogenous Zones

Ask your partner to play with your nipples or stroke your anus lightly while performing oral sex, for a relaxed and sensational feeling.

Don't Stop

Some people feel sensitive after getting an orgasm. It's advisable to keep going after your partner has had an orgasm because there's usually room for another orgasm. If you move slowly and with less force after climaxing, it may be easier to have multiple orgasms. You can talk to your partner and see if it works for them.

Lick From Top to Bottom

If you're blowing your partner and your mouth requires a break from sucking, use your tongue to lick your partner's penis. Start from the head of his penis and lick down to his balls. Then start from the balls, lick up the shaft, and repeat it as many times as your partner can handle.

Twist Your Hands

You can use your hands as an extension of your mouth and rotate your partner's penis as you move up and down in a circle. Repetitive motion drives a lot of men crazy.

Don't Forget the Balls

It'd be best if you did not neglect your partner's balls. Try squeezing them gently with your hands and licking them as you move your mouth down.

Finger Your Partner

Use your hands while you stimulate your partner's clitoris with your tongue. Press up against the anterior wall of her vagina, aiming for the G-spot while you lick her clit.

Embrace Your Throat Mucus

According to Butler et al. (2009), saliva is your body's natural lubricant, but there is an untapped resource at the back of your throat that you can use. Saliva runs out fast, so it's better to use the mucus in the back of your throat. It's a better lubricant, and when you probe the area with a penis, the throat will produce more.

Conclusion

Watching porn can help research new oral techniques, but you can't copy-paste what you see in porn into your own sex life. According to Nikunen (2007), you can watch porn for new sex techniques and positions. This article has discussed the best tips for performing oral sex on vaginas and penises that work in real life. The tips discussed might be just the thing to push your significant other's buttons.

References

Angel, K. (2022). Tomorrow sex will be good again: Women and desire in the age of consent. Verso Books.

Kumar, T., Puri, G., Aravinda, K., Arora, N., Patil, D., & Gupta, R. (2015). Oral sex and oral Health: An enigma in itself. Indian journal of sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS, 36(2), 129.

Butler, L. M., Osmond, D. H., Jones, A. G., & Martin, J. N. (2009). Use of saliva as a lubricant in anal sexual practices among homosexual men. Journal of acquired immune deficiency syndromes (1999), 50(2), 162.Nikunen, K. (2007). Cosmo girls talk: Blurring boundaries of porn and sex. Pornification, sex and sexuality in media culture. Oxford: Berg, 73-87.