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DRY HUMPING – A GUIDE FOR INTENSE ORGASMS WITHOUT SEX

Dry Humping – A Guide For Intense Orgasms Without Sex

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Katie Lasson
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Katie Lasson
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Veronika Matutyte
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Veronika Matutyte
Medical Doctor
Barbara Santini
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Barbara Santini
Psychologist and Sex and Relationships Advisor

Key Points Summary

  • 💡 Dry humping is the art of friction without penetration – intensity without intimacy. 😏
  • 💥 Aim for fun, not frustration – find the rhythm that works for you both! 🕺💃
  • 🎯 Proper positioning is key to maximum pleasure – get comfy, get close! ❤️
  • 🔥 Explore different areas and let your passion guide you – let the body do the talking! 💋

Key Advice & Tips from Our Experts

  • 💖 Don’t rush the experience – slow and steady builds the best intensity! 🕒
  • 💬 Communication is 🔑 – check in with your partner to make sure it feels right!
  • 💧 Hydration is a must – keep things slippery for that smooth vibe. 🥤
  • 🧘‍♀️ Relaxation is the secret sauce – the more chilled you are, the more blissful the ride. 😌

Sex and sexual stimulations are broad areas that may require your time to understand.  Do you know people, especially women or vagina-having persons, can reach orgasm without penetrating them? Keep reading below to discover more about dry humping.

Dry humping is the best way of reaching orgasms without getting involved with your partner. Although it lacks penetration, dry humping allows you to find the desired speed and pressure that matches your body's needs. Sure, penetrating sex is amazing. However, chances are, you might be missing a lot in your sex life if you always spread your legs easily. Ignoring penetrative sex and giving dry humping a shot can add a little spark to your sex life. People who have tried this form of outercourse say it is hotter like intercourse.

What Exactly is Dry Humping?

Also known as dry sex, outercourse, or tribadism, dry humping is the practice of women or vagina having persons rubbing their vagina against their partner’s erection, leg, or knee.  It may also involve rubbing the vagina against inanimate objects, including pillows and sofa ends. For some people, dry humping is used to prepare for penetrative sex because it increases sensitivity down there. However, others get off in this practice; hence, requiring no penetrative action. Due to patriarchal views on sex and pleasure, dry humping has become one of the most ignored sexual practices. If you want to try dry humping, you should know it is about the clitoris, the top hot spot in women’s genitals anatomy.  Rubbing the clit against objects in a repetitive motion puts pressure in the clit, intensifying sensations that make one experience strong clitoral orgasms. Now that you know some facts about dry bumping, here is how to go about it.

Wear Thin Clothes

Rubbing your clitoris against objects with your clothes on can leave you with clitoral orgasms. However, it can be a different story if you wear heavy clothes, including thick denim. If you know your sexual routine will include dry humping next time you visit your sweetheart, wear thin clothes. With a thin cloth down there, the barrier to the clitoris reduces; hence, a few movements can make you get off. Similarly, you can perform dry humping with your pants off or strip down to your underwear if the play is spontaneous. If you want it without your pants, pay attention to your partner’s zipper if they are not taking off anything to avoid ruining the dry humping or the entire love-making session.

Do Not Ignore Foreplay

Like penetrative sex, outercourse needs a little preparation for better orgasms. Before grinding on each other, take alone time in the bathroom to play with your clit. You can use clit vibes to get this done, increasing sensitivity around your pleasure hole. Conversely, you can hit the bathroom with your partner to let them do this for you. A little foreplay brings you close to orgasm, making it easy to get off during dry humping.

Position Yourself

After a little foreplay, get a position that allows you to take control of the grinding speed and angle. If the passive partner has the penis or strap-on-dildo, getting on top will make you get the best in dry humping.  While on top of them, tilt your pelvis forward and find the orgasms-giving rhythm against the erect penis or strap-on dildo. Alternatively, straddle your partner on the couch for intense pressure around your entire vulva. If there is no penis or strap-on-dildo in the play, rub your clitoris against your partner’s pubic mount. Getting the right position for your dry humping is a trial and error. For this reason, couples should lie side by side and take turns to rub one partner’s pubic mound against the other partner’s vulva.

Get Creative

Dry humping presents endless opportunities you can take advantage of to spice up your love-making session. This form of outercourse does not restrict you to each other’s genitals alone. You can go out of the way and explore more dry humping pleasure with your partner’s thigh, hand, nose, knee, or chin. If you have a vibrator, attach it to the passive partner’s leg and grind against it.

Add sex Toys to The Play

Adding sex toys to dry humping can reward you with earth-shattering orgasms. Introducing sex toys in your play may mean wearing vibrating panties that make things right when you grind against your partner's penis, strap-on-dildo, or hard surfaces. If your partner has a penis or strap-on-dildo, they can have a vibrating love ring to spice up your dry humping experience.  Other vibrators can be attached to the passive partner’s leg or between their boobs to make dry humping fun and exciting.

Pay Attention to the Clitoris

Dry humping is all about the clitoris. If your clitoris is tucked behind the labia, use your pants to get the best in dry humping. Penetrative sex or oral sex opens vaginal lips, hence accessing the clitoris for stimulation. This is a different story for dry humping, requiring you to get a little creative for things to work out. If your clitoris is hidden behind your labia, adjust your panties so that they sit between your vaginal lips. While grinding against your partner, the panties will spread the labia apart, increasing contact with your elusive clitoris. If you always feel overwhelmed with direct clitoris stimulations, play with your clitoral hood to reach orgasm without sacrificing your comfort.

Hands Can Spice Up the Play

As you pleasure your clit, ask your partner to use their hands to stimulate other pleasure zones, including the breasts, particularly the nipples. If you are playing alone, use your hands to touch other zones that get you off.

Take Care If You Are Doing in Naked

Dry humping with clothes protects you from sexually transmitted infections and unwanted infections. If you do it with your panties alone or get completely naked, body fluids can leave you with unexpected babies or STIs.

Try Something Else if Dry Humping Fails

If dry humping fails, try figuring something else that makes you feel good. Taking things too seriously may lower your chances of exploring things that feel good for you in the bedroom.

The Bottom Line

Although it is one of the most underrated sexual acts, dry humping can add flavor to your sex life. If you want to give it a shot, the above tips can be useful.

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