Many women have a problem locating their clitoris even though they have stayed for decades with it. It is quite cool that society uses the word penis but refers to the clitoris, labia, or vulva as down there the vagina. The clitoris is unseen when standing.

The clitoris is a female organ that corresponds to the head of a man’s penis. It is sensitive and has most nerve endings responsible for women’s orgasms. 

Female Clitoral Anatomy

According to O'CONNELL et al. (2005), the clitoris is a multiplanar structure with a broad attachment to the pubic arch and via extensive supporting tissue to the mons pubis and labia. The vulva touches the whole external genitalia, the clitoris being part of it. The clitoris consists of two parts: the clitoral hood, a covering of skin that tenderly retracts. It differs in size and the extent it covers every person. When you draw below it, there is the glans clitoris which the clitoral hood covers.

It also has crura [legs] and vestibular bulbs that widen through the labia. They have erectile tissue that swells with blood during sexual arousal. When it swells on either side of the vaginal canal, they increase lubrication while increasing sensual incitement and sensation. It takes the shape of a wishbone. 

How To Find The Clitoris

Simply put your finger down the pubic bone. You will feel a hollow exactly where the vaginal lips meet, and at the top of it is the clitoral shaft till the end, where there is the opening of your vagina. You have to spread your labia to identify it a few inches from the vagina. 

How To Stimulate Your Clitoris

Everyone has a different turn-on and sexual sweet spot. There is no specific way to stimulate the clitoris. Still, you have to experiment first as it is part of the sexual contentment.

Do Not Judge Yourself and Know That It’s Healthy to Masturbate

Society views masturbation as bad and dirty, and we should not be talking about it. However, Brancato (2021) noted that masturbation reduces stress and enhances the production of feel-good chemicals, such as oxytocin and dopamine.

Have A Good Attitude

You can set the mood in different ways. Get in a place where you are comfortable first. It may be in a shower or a bedroom with a well-set pillow. Touch your nipples slowly; imagine those porn videos in your head and what exactly they do. Touch his body parts, foreplay, or kiss him your partner. 

Indirect Stimulation

Touch the clitoris over the labia and not pull back the clitoral hood. The clitoris is sensitive. It is not a must you directly touch it for stimulation.

Use Lube

The clitoris can be irritated easily because of how sensitive it is. Try to use a lube with no fragrance and chemicals to make it smooth. Move your fingers slowly before speeding it up as you would love. This will increase sensations by reducing friction and make you feel more pleasure.

Use a Vibrator

Fingers for others will not work. Alternatively, you can use a toy on the clitoris with a different speed for more stimulation.

How Can You Stimulate Your Partner’s Clitoris?

Your partner will be happy to feel stimulated by the person they love. 

Get Suggestions

Do not be afraid to ask your partner about her desire. Ask your partner indirectly how you would love to be a part of their sensation and discover her pleasure.

Get touchy

Some sex positions like spooning and missionary allow some space that you can use to stimulate the clitoris while in the act. Stretch your hands in between your partner's legs and touch the clitoris. It is going to increase the stimulation.

Pull Over a Pillow 

Placing a pillow under your partner's pubic bone makes it pleasurable. It creates a better position for your partner to lick the clitoris.

Use Your Furniture To Be Creative 

You can decide to use your chair, for instance. Let your partner hedge the hips and support by grabbing your back. The clitoris would be better positioned to reach for awesome stimulations.

Reverse the Ride

This makes your partner balance you though you will have faced away. As you push, your partner can extend their hand between your legs and rub your clitoris.

Twist the Thighs High

Let your partner straddle one of your legs, not both. This will have twisted the angle of your partner's hips. Riding up and down will stimulate your clitoris.

Use Your Tongue

If your partner enjoys oral sex, it's advantageous to use your tongue quietly to circle the clitoris. The sensation increases.

Use a Toy

Vibrators provide a greater sensation than using a finger since some partners can't produce orgasm no matter the pressure. You can also change the vibrator.

Keep It Varied

Using the right speed blows it all. Start slowly, then go harder according to your feelings, and slow down again to stimulate your partner's clitoris.

Size of the Clitoris

The clitoral hood and the glans clitoris vary from one person to another. Androgens determine the enlargement of the clitoris while developing in the womb, during childhood and adulthood. As a woman ages, her clitoris enlarges more than when they were young.

Variation in Sensitivity

Just as size varies in women, so does sensitivity. The size of the clitoris does not determine a woman's sensitivity. You may find that a woman with a smaller clitoris has difficulties achieving orgasm, unlike a woman with a larger clitoris.

CONCLUSION

Have you learned any technique you feel is going to make a difference? Find your clitoris and get to experience an awesome pleasure. Do not have problems achieving orgasm because of having vaginal sex without complimenting the clitoral stimulation. Share with your partner about your clitoris for you to increase the pleasure.

References

O'CONNELL, H. E., Sanjeevan, K. V., & Hutson, J. M. (2005). Anatomy of the clitoris. The Journal of urology, 174(4), 1189-1195.

Brancato, S. (2021). " Feeling Myself": Masturbation In Women's Coming Of Age Novels. Georgetown University.