Here Is What To Do With Your Partner Tied Up
Transitioning from sex toys to bondage is one of the greatest ways to keep things fun and new in your sex life. The only challenge is how to get things started when both of you are ready for the bondage.
While some couples look for the best sex toys to spice things up, others experiment with bondage play to get new sensations. If you and your lover are among the latter couples, getting the right bondage tips can spice up the bedroom. The bondage mood can suddenly die if you tie up the submissive, ready for the bondage debut, and fail to make the right moves. Both of you will awkwardly remain to stare at each other. Therefore, before you hit the bedroom, plan how you want the whole play to be with your lover. Talk about what stimulates both of you and what doesn't. Also, create a safe word that will ensure you both finish the pleasure and pain play safely. If you do not know where to start, here are the things you can do with your partner after cuffing them up.
Try Stripteasing
Tying up your lover means you have immobilized them; thus, getting their attention is easy. You can take advantage of this to perform a striptease and watch the submissive get aroused in front of you. Whether submissive is male or female, a stimulating view of your naked body can turn them on wild. Despite tying your lover up, you should focus on getting their attention from the beginning to the end. Stripping for your lover can be extremely stimulating but overwhelming if you do not know how to do it confidently. A great way to learn stripping is to watch films with strip scenes and put what you see into practice. Practicing can be sexier if you add a mirror to see the moves and touches that may reward your lover. To arouse your lover more, choose sexy lingerie if you are female or sexy underwear if you are male. You can also add some slow music and dance to the rhythm.
Introduce A Feather Tickler To The Play
Feather ticklers are a great way of diving into the pain and sensation play world. These orgasms-giving bondage toys can also be a better alternative to rudely stimulating toys, including spankers. Run the feathers on your lover's erogenous zones, including the inner thigh and nipples, to stimulate them. These zones have numerous nerve endings that release waves of pleasure when stimulated. Introduce dirty talk while running feather ticklers on your submissive's sweet spots to make them cum and moan even without anal or vaginal penetrations. As things heat up, increase pressure for a powerful orgasmic end.
Restrict Your Lover's Sight
The restricting sight makes your lover use other senses to predict your next moves. For bondage play beginners, blindfolds can be a better tool for blocking eyesight. These toys can also be used in standard couple sex to introduce something new. You can also wear them to heighten fun and excitement when you stumble until you reach the submissive. After a stimulating experience with blindfolds, graduate to bondage hoods for more sight restriction fun. Restricting sight can also be beneficial if you lack confidence. Since your partner is blindfolded, you can be as wild as you want to.
Experiment With Wax Play
Wax play stimulates the nerve endings, leaving the submissive begging for penile or sex toy action. Chances are, this form of pain and sensation play will be successful with your tied lover because of minimal resistance. However, all candles may not deliver a stimulating wax play experience. For that reason, go for massage candles that have a lower melting point than regular candles. What's more, these candles produce scented oil when melting. This oil can be used for sensual body massage or as lube to moisten the submissive's vagina or anal play for pleasure-giving penetrations. Light the massage candle and pour the wax on your lovers' sensitive zones, including the nipples and clit, to stimulate thousands of nerve endings. Throw your magical fingers into the mix for further stimulation of these zones. The play can be more fun if you have orgasms-rewarding sex toys, including bullet vibrators, that provide pinpointed clit and nipple stimulation.
Introduce Orgasm Play
Introducing orgasm play into your BDSM moments takes everything from mild to wild. Although you can achieve this with your hands, adding sex toys can be a brilliant idea. The sex toys to choose for your orgasms play are wand vibrators and dildos. Wand massagers have bulbous heads that stimulate the entire vulva. Their vibrations range from mild to intense for varying stimulation. For dildos, there are options to choose from, ranging from classic dildos to realistic dildos and glass dildos to fantasy dildos. Agree with your lover on the sex toy that works best for both of you before deciding.
Whip The Ball Gag Out
As the play gets wilder, chances are the submissive will moan uncontrollably, drawing the neighbors' attention. To maintain the bondage fun, introduce the ball gag in the play to physically muffle their moans. Gags also make your lover more submissive, allowing you to torture them with intense pleasure and manageable pain. The market has various ball gags that can meet your needs, whether new to bondage play or a pro. Before investing in these bondage sex toys, shop around to determine the types that work for both of you.
The Bottom Line
BDSM play can be extremely boring if you do not know what to do after tying up your lover. If both of you agree to give bondage play a try, this blog can help you know the extra tips for the session and what to do for a stimulating first experience. It is essential to create a safe word that will help monitor the session, ensuring both of you are safe. Above all, enjoy your first bondage play.