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THE ETHICS OF KINK: MAKING MORAL SENSE OF SADOMASOCHISM

THE ETHICS OF KINK: MAKING MORAL SENSE OF SADOMASOCHISM

THE ETHICS OF KINK: MAKING MORAL SENSE OF SADOMASOCHISM

BDSM play has grown to be an interesting kink across the world. With the events portrayed in the film “Fifty Shades of Grey,” it is fun and interesting how tough love is demonstrated. Sadomasochism is part of BDSM. It is a combination of two words: Sadism and Masochism. Some people express their love through acts of sadomasochism and find it entertaining. Despite its awesome feeling, it is essential to be safe and know the extent to which the play should be administered.

What is Sadomasochism?

Sadomasochism comes from two words: Sadism and Masochism. Sadism is the act of deriving or gaining pleasure and sexual satisfaction through suffering, imposing pain and humiliation on other people. On the other hand, masochism is the act of obtaining sexual gratification through receiving pain, humiliation, and suffering. Therefore, sadomasochism is the psychological, sexual practice identified by sadism and masochism. The key players in sadomasochism are the dominant and submissive. 

Why Should One Practice Sadomasochism?

Since sadomasochism is a non-conventional sexual practice, it is wise ensure the play is safe and fun. If things get heated up, sadomasochism players should know when to draw the line. There can be the use of vulgar words, offensive, or humiliating scenarios; therefore, one needs to know their limits. The use of safewords can come in handy during BDSM and kink play. The choice of toys to be used should be explained before the play.

Gaining Pleasure

As per the definition given earlier on sadism and masochism, both partners can gain pleasure from each other. One gains pleasure from inflicting pain on others (sadist), while the other gains pleasure from receiving pain (masochist).

Sadism as A Scapegoat

Since a sadist enjoys inflicting pain, they can use this play as a displacement activity and withdraw anger to their partners (masochist).

Masochism as a Stress Reliever

Since masochists love receiving pain, they can use this form of helplessness to relieve them from stress. They can give the sadist the go-ahead to inflict pain on them.

Intensify Sexual Relations

Since pain and stress induce hormones, such as endorphins, sadomasochism is the ideal way to go. The hormones trigger a great positive feeling in the human body. This, in turn, promotes awesome sadomasochism play.

Promote Intimacy

Partners in this type of kink can get close to each other by engaging in affectionate and caring plays. This is possible if the plays are consensual and both partners have set boundaries.

Disadvantages

Shame and Guilt

Due to miscommunication or failed safe words, the submissive can incur different injuries. This may lead them to guilt and shame. They might be ashamed of the kinds of injuries they receive when asked how they got them and fail to explain. They can also be guilty of trying the practice.

No Permanent Relationships

Sadomasochists players rarely get themselves in permanent relationships. This is because it is hard for them to find partners who are fully into the type of kink they desire.

Past Abuse

Some of the people who participate in this type of play do so due to past experiences. They might have gone through tough scenarios. Therefore, they are used to receiving pain. Sadists find this play mind-blowing since they can inflict pain on others as a sign of revenge.

People who have gone through sexual abuse might think that relationships are all about pain and torture, therefore, looking for relationships that surround punishments. They limit themselves to this play as they are used to pain and humiliation. This is a wrong approach to sadomasochism because it makes it hard for people to get past their previous issues.

Sadists Ignoring Boundaries

It is always safe to observe the play. When submissives highlight their boundaries, they expect the dominants to adhere to them for safe play. During some plays, this is not followed, injuring the submissive partner. This sort of ignorance may lead to serious repercussions, such as being hospitalized or having marks on their bodies.

When To Draw the Line

It is very unethical to go against each other’s values. One can incorporate hurt and suffering associated with humiliation but still, respect each other. Before embarking on sadomasochism, it is essential to set out boundaries to care for each other’s needs. Coming up with safe words is the best approach to ensure safe play. The choice of safewords should be easily understandable. With safe words followed to the core, trust is born.

Aftercare

After the play, partners can go for aftercare. The dominant can display their soft and caring nature. This brings the partners closer with a stronger connection and bond. They can softly give each other attention through cuddling, talking, hugging, and embracing each other.

Conclusion

Sadomasochism is a non-conventional concept and a critical part of BDSM play. Most people who take part in this form of kink are not interested in long-lasting relationships. Finding someone that enjoys the same type of kink as you is challenging.  Sadomasochism promotes emotional and sexual intimacy because it is erotic and pleasurable and intensively thrilling and satisfying. Most females are masochists while males are sadists, though these roles can be switched. Although sadomasochism has its negativities, the advantages are outstanding. With set rules followed to term, sadomasochism is awesome.

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