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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU WALK IN ON YOUR PARTNER MASTURBATING

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU WALK IN ON YOUR PARTNER MASTURBATING

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova
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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU WALK IN ON YOUR PARTNER MASTURBATING

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova

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Katie Lasson
Written by:

Sex and Relationship Adviser
Veronika Matutyte
Medically Reviewed by:

Medical Doctor
Barbara Santini
Fact Checked by:

Psychologist and Sex and Relationships Advisor

🌟 Key Points Summary 🌟

    • 👀 **Respect Privacy**: Always honour your partner's personal space—privacy is paramount! 🚪

    • 😳 **Stay Calm**: A surprising sight can be shocking; take a deep breath before reacting! 🌬️

    • 🗨️ **Talk It Out**: Open a dialogue afterwards to ensure feelings are addressed—communication is key! 💬

    • 🕵️ **Get Curious**: If you’re both comfortable, explore each other’s fantasies and desires together! 🔍

  • ❤️ **Mutual Understanding**: Reassure each other that it’s perfectly normal—let the awkwardness fade away! 💖

🧠 Expert Advice & Tips 🧠

    • 🚪 **Knock Before You Enter**: A little courtesy goes a long way; always give a heads up before barging in! 📢

    • 😅 **Lighten the Mood**: If the moment feels right, a little laughter can help ease any tension! 😂

    • 🎭 **Practice Empathy**: Understand that everyone has their moments—don’t take it personally! 🌈

  • 📅 **Plan for the Future**: Discuss boundaries and preferences to ensure both partners feel comfortable moving forward! 🔮

It is a natural thing to walk in on your partner masturbating. Some things you should do when you walk in on your partner include; lending a hand, ignoring it, and laughing it off.

Masturbating is not something that one should be ashamed of. Most people love to pleasure themselves for no apparent reason but to stimulate themselves. Whether in a relationship or not, it is always bound to happen. You may be horny, but your partner is sleepy or not in the mood for sex. It will make them find a place to be alone and try to pleasure themselves by masturbating. When people are in the mood to pleasure themselves, they prefer being in a secluded area, ready to bust the nut. Well, at times, you may catch your partner in the act. Some of the things that you should do when you walk in on your partner masturbating include;

Lending Them a Hand

McNabney et al. (2020) explained that when you catch them masturbating and pleasuring themselves, the best thing you can do is to lend them a hand and assist them. Ask your partner if they would prefer some help in making them masturbate. If they agree to it, they can lay themselves so that you can satisfy them. You can decide to use your tongue, fingers, or even your mouth. They are guaranteed to be happy, and instead of getting ashamed that they have been caught jerking, they will feel great that you do not shame them.

Shut It Down

Dewitte et al. (2020) explained that it is normal to find your partner masturbating in every cohabitating relationship. It might look shameful finding them in the act, or they may be ashamed of the opinions that you will have about them. However, please try not to shut it off when taking care of their sexual urges. Allow them to enjoy the feelings that they have stimulated. However, when you feel that the place where they please themselves is not private, find some way in which you can approach the matter and advise them against the idea in that place. Make them move the jerking off to a more private area.

Ignore Them 

The fact that they were alone in the room and pleasing themselves meant they wanted some alone time and didn't want to be disturbed. Once you find them in the act, the best thing would be to ignore them and let them go on with their activity. Do not shame them if you know you cannot fulfill their needs. Let them enjoy their moment and try and find something else to keep themselves busy. The only thing that you have to worry about is the wet sheets; if they do not take care of cleaning them, you should make it a big issue.  

Laugh It Off

Laughing it off does not mean that you are shaming them for the act that they are doing. It is not a bad thing to pleasure yourself. They will be caught off-guard and may even be embarrassed that they have been seen. To break the tension that may be present, the best thing would be to laugh it off or bring in some jokes so that you may ease up the tension. However, do not dwell on the matter. Be sure not to make the whole activity a joke. You should ease the tension and make them loosen up so they do not feel bad that you have found them doing the act.

Join the Act

Devlin (2021) explained that what better way to make your partner feel great about masturbating than to join in the act and pleasure yourself? Both of you can have mutual masturbation. Instead of judging them, you can join in the act and help each other masturbate. You can fulfill their desires and help them jerk off by asking them if you can help them. The same thing can be done to you as well. However, if they had closed themselves inside a room and you walked in on them, that would mean that they wanted to have their privacy. Before joining them, ask if you can do it with them.

Apologize To Your Partner

Venetis (2018) explained that you would often find that when you plan to masturbate, you tend to find a private area and get it off from there. However, in some cases, their privacy might be invaded without them knowing what you are doing. Whenever you walk in on your partner masturbating, it is better if you apologize and leave them to do their thing. They are likely to feel awkward, and they may even be ashamed. It should not be the case as masturbation is a part of a healthy relationship and life. It should never be a problem if they are not cheating and doing it to make themselves feel great.

Make Out with Your Partner

At times, you will get that the main reason that your partner is masturbating is that they are horny and want to get the feelings off their body. The best thing in this position will be to ask them if they are in the mood to make out with you. You may be surprised that they feared asking you for sex and that they will be down to make out with you and you will have an amazing time together.

Conclusion

Most of the time, people use masturbation to satisfy their sexual urges and desires so that they may feel pleasure. It is normal whether in a relationship or single. There is no reason one would make it a big deal, especially if they are doing it in a private room away from distractions or people. They should not be ashamed because it is not a sin, and you are not cheating on your partner. It is high time that people get rid of the vices surrounding masturbation and learn to see it as normal.

References

Dewitte, M., Otten, C., & Walker, L. (2020). Making love in the time of corona—considering relationships in lockdown. Nature Reviews Urology17(10), 547-553.

Devlin, S. M. (2021). Emotional Motivations for Erotic Activity (Doctoral dissertation, San Francisco State University).

McNabney, S. M., Hevesi, K., & Rowland, D. L. (2020). Effects of pornography use and demographic parameters on sexual response during masturbation and partnered sex in women. International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health17(9), 3130.

Venetis, E. (2018). "Eat, Sleep, Hydrate, Masturbate!" Sexuality Education, Digital Media, and Creator Identity Implications.


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