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Have you been masturbating for a long time? Try a new move by masturbating before your sexual partner, then notice the benefits as discussed in this article.

Suppose you have been masturbating with sex toys solo in your room; that fine. However, have you ever imagined what it feels like to masturbate in front of your partner? Showing all your skills to them and making them drool for intimacy with you is what makes it feel pleasurable. Try it today and get several benefits you would never have experienced during solo masturbation. It is incredible to let your partner watch over you as you masturbate. You feel proud of letting your partner take a peek at you as you pleasure yourself. Moreover, your partner might lose hold of themselves after a short time, thus getting on toes for pleasure with you.

Why Should You Masturbate in Front of Your Partner?

It is about that time you bring your romantic session in front of your partner. Take your sex toys or any other sex accessories you have and present your most important session to your partner. However, it is also fine if you don't like it – meaning you love privacy. Before calling your partner over to watch your partner masturbate, let’s check out mutual masturbation.

Mutual Masturbation

Mutual masturbation is the term used to refer to the masturbation taken in front of your partner. Mostly, at that same time, your partner also masturbates. However, there is an option for one partner to masturbate while the other watches. Some people may be shy to experience this kind of activity since most have been having their masturbation session privately alone. In some scenarios, people are forced to believe that masturbation is not good, so having it done before your partner feels like committing a crime. It seems like a taboo rejected by society; hence most people restrain from it, and if they do, it's privately.

Here is a question; why should you masturbate in front of your partner? You might have come across this question several times in your life, and apparently, it has become suer and hot topic of discussion. Below are some of the reasons why having masturbation is of benefits:

• It adds something adventurous and new to your foreplay and after sex play, thus bringing more sensations like fingering and blowjobs.
• The practice lets you embrace role play ideas and explore your body by exposing it to your partner; thus, it looks like you are doing a show. Although you might think your partner doesn’t need to watch as you masturbate, the case is otherwise. Also, there is a myth and misconception that it's not interesting to see a man masturbate as it's not sensational. However, if your partner is clearly into you, she will be interested in what you do to pleasure yourself.
• It gives your partner a clue on what you enjoy the best. While touching yourself at some places, you will give your partner a sense of direction on what they should do when engaging in romantic sensation. Also, it will help you see the state of your partner’s body, for example, sexual endurance, so that when you have sex together, they come prepared.
• The practice makes both partners feel comfortable and relaxed. Self-stimulation in front of your partner will eliminate the sense that masturbation is taboo. That will remove a heavy burden from your shoulders; thus, from there on, you will see masturbation as a legal and normal sexual practice.
• It is a supertype of bondage play that will leave your partner yearning for pleasure. You can use cuffs and ankle cuffs and tie your partner so that their work will be only to watch as you masturbate. Even when their arousal reaches peak state, they won’t have a chance to explore you.

How To Introduce Mutual Masturbation to Your Partner

Sometimes you might want to explore mutual masturbation with your partner, but you lack the correct strategy to bring it up. One of the ways most people approach that is by sending their partner a dirty text or article. In the article, partners express themselves without leaving the details behind or feeling shy. Also, they might include hot nude pictures and some naughty phrases that will turn on your partner at first sight. That way, your partner will consider your proposal and jump into the deal.

However, if you love to do things originally and live, there are a few steps you can choose to confront them. For example, start by touching your partner and tell them, ''please show me how you love it to be done’’. After doing that, stay back and enjoy as they express themselves.  If you love talking dirty, you may decide to tell them how you felt when you last had your masturbation session - while demonstrating your moves.

Also, you can involve using sex toys – remote controlled – then hand the control to your partner to make a game. You may set out a limit for who attains orgasmic sensations the fattest. Or, you can compete on who can hold their cum for a long time. For men using a masturbation sleeve, each of you should have one to have pleasure simultaneously. You can gift your partner the toy to bring it up and then ask them to practice using it while you are there.

The Bottom Line

Now that you are through the way of mutual masturbation, by now you should have noticed all the benefits associated with mutual masturbation. If you try mutual masturbation for one, you will realize that you’ve missed more pleasure by masturbating alone in your room. However, that does not mean you should quit masturbation. It has its benefits; for example, it helps you be aware of your sexuality. It also helps you relieve stress when you are depressed, as you will not have mutual masturbation if you're in that condition.