BONDAGE GEAR & EQUIPMENT: ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW
There's pleasure in exploring something new, and sexual exploration is necessary if you want to keep the spark alive between the sheets. A few sets of toys like restraints, floggers, paddles, and gags will jump-start you on the journey of self-discovery and allow you to start enjoying new forms of pleasure.
However, as with any BDSM activity and toy range, you must emphasize playing safely, and raising awareness about the risk factors is crucial. This article covers all you need to know about bondage gear and equipment and the safety precautions you must adhere to when trying out this method of pleasure.
Bondage Equipment You Need To Try
Restraints
Restrains are important in the BDSM world because they can be sophisticated. It is recommended that you learn about them if you use restraints for the first time. According to Drew & Atter (2008), the Neoprene cuffs with Velcro fasteners are a good pick because they are gentle on the wrists and are easy to slip out of. These cuffs also have pads that cushion the ankles. Keep the shackles slack, so you can slide out without undoing the clasp if you are nervous. Steer clear from ropes if you are a newbie since it necessitates a thorough understanding of knot safety. Metal cuffs are not advisable; they are too uncomfortable.
Kirstin-Red with Rouge Garments Red Suede Flogger with a Leather Handle © Peaches and Screams UK. This image is the property of Peaches and Screams UK and may be used with proper attribution to PeachesAndScreams.co.uk.
Floggers
Floggers are made up of several fabric strips, usually suede or leather, though there are other options. Simply touching your partner's skin with this toy can light sensations. Be gentle when using this toy, but it depends on your partner's pain tolerance. According to Lions (2015), the Lelo Sensual Whips from LELO is a good option because it gives you an adventurous approach to bedroom intimacy. Thanks to its soft and gentle leather tassels and polished handle, it is also a stunning addition to any bondage equipment. Try using the toy on yourself first to get the feel of it; when you use it on your partner, communicate the severity level.
Paddles
When you are accustomed to using paddles, start with your own body to determine the intensity you can handle. When using it on your partner, start with moderate smacks ten gradually increase the intensity. Target the meatier regions of the body, such as the butt cheeks and thighs. Avoid smacking the bony regions like the knees, elbows, and genitals with nipple clamps. Consider rubbing the skin with your palm immediately after smacking to relieve the sting of a hard smack. The Strict Leather Fur Puddle is great for naughty play, with one side of the paddle covered in fur for a sensual feel, as Easton & Hardy (2011) noted.
Candles
Candles are great for sensation play but ensure you purchase those specifically made for skin since they would not burn the skin because the wax will melt at a low temperature. According to Taormino (2012), consider using the melted wax on your hand before moving to more sensitive areas like the chest. If you do not want the melted wax flowing to your beddings, you can use a sheet or a shower curtain underneath you. The Jimmyjane scented massage oil candle is great because when the warm oil drips on your skin, it engages all the scents for a perfect sensational play.
Nipple Clamps
Nipple clamps grip your nipples and are ideal for those who enjoy their pleasure with a dash of agony. Clamps like the Adjustable Tapered Nipple Clamps are ideal for beginners. To reduce the sensation, start with the lowest pressure setting and position the clamp on the bottom of the nipple. Bear in mind that the pain is felt when removing the clamps, so be cautious about how long you put them on. Your body may become accustomed to the sensation, believing that you can wear them for extended periods. When using clamps for the first time, leave the clamps for a few minutes, then gradually increase your hold time.
Gags
Gags are a great technique to make your sexual experience more intense without causing discomfort. The Tantus beginner gag is ideal for novices because it features an adjustable strap and is not too large to hinder you from breathing. If you wish to incorporate gags into your bedroom play, try it on first to guarantee that it won't make you gag. Once the gag is in place, try to calm down and breathe. Bear in mind that the longer you keep the gag on, the more your jaw will tire, so start with at least a few minutes and gradually increase. Consider telling your partner to stop using candle wax on you if you feel uncomfortable.
Safety Tips To Consider During Bondage Play
Pick Someone Trustworthy
Bondage is not something you should try with the lady or gent you met at the club. Even light bonding has considerable dangers. Ensure your spouse is someone you can rely on to look after you when you are most susceptible and open about their limitations. While meeting a new acquaintance on a bondage website is fun, it can be risky. Avoid assuming they know everything; phonies abound worldwide and can be dangerous. Make sure you research the different bondage play levels to understand better what it entails.
Use a Safe Word
Suppose things go out of hand, whether intentionally or unintentionally, you must have a safe word to signal your partner that they should stop the action. A safeword could be a non-sexual word like "water" or "apples". Use a caring word to prompt the other person to slow the action without stopping. It permits the bound individual to ask for a drink of water or a minor adjustment to their position, but if you are using a gag, invent a safeword instead of a safe signal.
The Bottom Line
The games of submission and dominance can be thrilling thinking about it. However, it is more enjoyable to incorporate various BDSM toys and equipment. Consider them as tools to help you get the most out of your BDSM experience. Nothing beats a flogger in the bedroom to get things going. However, if you are new to BDSM play, deciding on which equipment to try can be tedious because there are a ton of bondage toys on the market. Therefore, it is important to think about what you want to achieve from the session, something that the tools provided in this article will assist you with.
References
Drew, S., & Atter, E. A. (2008). Can't Play: Simply Sizzling Ideas To Get The Ball Rolling For Children With Dyspraxia. Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
Easton, D., & Hardy, J. W. (2011). Radical Ecstasy: S/M Journeys In Transcendence. SCB Distributors.
Linos, V. P. (2015). Fifty Shades Of Fucked Up: On The Use And Abuse Of A Sexual Subculture To Sell Books.
Taormino, T. (2012). Fifty Shades Of Kink: An Introduction To BDSM. Cleis Press.