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Facesitting is a positional technique that includes having face contact with your partner's genitals for face grinding or oral sex. Today, kinks and fetishes go for most people on the adventure of sexual pleasure and arousal. Facesitting is considerably straightforward as it involves face-genital grinding (face-vulva or face-anus) for sexual pleasure. But what are the best positions and techniques to accomplish this fetish? Well, here is how to face-sit for ultimate pleasure.

Facesitting sounds like a walk in the park when it comes to matters of oral sex, but here is an opportunity to learn how in case you haven't figured it out. For starters, facesitting, especially if you are a BBW, means you are likely to impose all your weight on your partner, which can be uncomfortable. So, are you ready to delve into the realms of facesitting? Herein, we shall cover the best tips for facesitting regardless of your body weight and how to get the most out of the experience.

Best Facesitting positions and techniques

Face-sitting is a handy technique you can use to get more intimate or diversify your pleasant experience with your partner. Face-sitting has no exception, too, as all sexes and sexual persuasions can enjoy it. Besides, its versatility means you can sit or be sat on. The key with facesitting is to give your sex partner complete access to your genitals, including the hot spots such as the clitoris and vulva.

Most people who try facesitting find orgasmic stimulation quite easy because there is a focused approach to pleasure. That said, here are some excellent facesitting positions to help you derive ultimate pleasure.

The angled squat over your partner’s face-anus

This position is best done on a flat surface, say, like a bed. It requires you to squat and support your body weight with the leg muscles. That way, your partner's head will have more headroom to access your vulva and the clit. Most people find this immensely pleasurable, except for the leg strain. Besides, the position gives your partner more control, and they ease the anus without having trouble moving the head around.

The traditional facesitting position

Best done on the bed, too, this position involves the top partner squatting over their partner's face, with their head sandwiched in their legs. And while this position is low-impact and allows for little headroom, the top partner can see the eyes as the action goes down.

Besides, it is more comfortable because the top partner can hold on to the wall or the bed’s headboard for more balance. And because everyone is in a resting position, you can last longer in this position for the ultimate pleasure.

Chest-sit and lean backward

In this position, all you have to do is sit on your partner's chest and arch backward to expose your genitals to them. The risk of imposing your body weight on their chest is high too, but to minimize the impact, arch your arms in a backward position and slightly elevate yourself. Most people enjoy this position because your partner has more control and can hold your butt and swing in a back-and-forth movement.

The back-on-the wall position

A considerable number of people enjoy this position. And this is where one partner sits down and raises their legs with their back on the wall or the headboard. This exposes the genitals, and the partner can crawl upon them and have control.

This facesitting position offers more control for both partners. And it is versatile too because your partner has full access to your genitals with hands and can either engage in fingering or introduce sex toys if needed for the ultimate stimulation.

How to maximize your facesitting experience: Guide

For starters, facesitting for the ultimate pleasure has three main aspects: comfort, control, and positioning. Most people would fancy facesitting, but there is a catch – some are plus-sized BBWs and fear squishing their partners. But to accomplish this, the trick is to elevate yourself to avoid imposing your body weight on your partner's face. Nonetheless, this guide about facesitting will get you started to derive extreme stimulation:

Step 1 – kneel over his chest while ensuring your weight is largely supported by your legs.

Step 2 – ensure your things are spread enough on either side of his head to give him more headroom.

Step 3 – lower your genitals closer to their mouth or face, and swing if necessary.

Step 4 – as the action goes down, get more support and balance by holding on to the wall or headboard. This is because you may get distracted and impose weight back on his chest.

The Queening chair

Ever seen a queening chair? This is an amazing little invention engineered with her facesitting pleasure interests at heart. This little chair is foldable and is height-adjustable. The queening chair features armrests to offer balance, has two soft and little spaces to support your knees, and can hold a maximum weight of 300 pounds.

Besides facesitting, the queening chair has been used extensively in bondage play together with wrist, handcuffs, sex toys, blindfolds, and other restraints. Face-sitting is another form of a power play that could be used for bondage play.

In BDSM play, dominants and submissive take up roles and activities that mimic that power dynamic. And it is not uncommon to see facesitting in BDSM play because it mimics a power play between dominants and submissives. Even for the partner on top, imposing physical restraint on the head between your legs is a form of the power play central to bondage play. Others believe facesitting is a form of erotic humiliation. Either way, enthusiasts of facesitting love it because it allows the partner at the bottom to smell, taste, and feel their partner's genitals. And this is characterized as a major turn-on, especially for men. That is because the submissive partner gives up control over their genitals, and this in itself is enough turn-on for the ultimate pleasure.