4 MORE REASONS TO KISS AND CUDDLE
Has the kissing and cuddling culture dwindled in your relationship? Well, it might be time to get things back on track because recent research studies have shown that cuddling and kissing have some health benefits wired to them. Read below as we outline the various benefits linked to this type of intimate act.
There are a ton of reasons why people love affective touch; kissing and hugging. Affective touch breeds feelings of comfort and reassurance (Herbenick et al., 2019), things that people in and outside of relationships value. Often, kissing or hugging someone communicates a need of being close to the person. Some cultures use touch to show feelings of tenderness and in primates, touch is used to establish a connection and social status. It is vital to note that physical touch can sometimes be viewed as a privacy breach or an act of violation, especially between strangers.
Understanding Kissing And Cuddling
Affective touch produces feelings of closeness and when viewed from a relationship lens, it is the best route to keep experiencing magical moments with your lover. Kissing, be it a smooch, a peck, or a French kiss, has a string of benefits attached to it. No one quite ever forgets their first kiss, no matter how young or old they were because kissing is an intimate act of affection that most people love to experience daily. A lot of things happen to your body when you are in the middle of a kiss and often, especially if you are kissing someone for the first time, it can help you gauge if you like the person.
Be it with your big teddy bear, a pillow, or your partner, cuddling is the best activity to engage in if you want to blow away some stress as well as a pathway to intimacy for folks in relationships. However, there is much to what meets the eye. Cuddling is the language of love; no wonder people who engage in it feel as though they have exchanged souls with the other person. Some people are suckers for cuddling sessions because of the intimacy that comes with it while some people reserve cuddling for the bedroom just before they engage in any sexual activity. Whatever the reason or the time you choose to cuddle, you are assured of a good time filled with a ton of health benefits. Any form of affective touch, be it kissing, hugging, snuggling, or massage fall under the same bracket and they all have the same benefits.
Benefits Of Kissing And Cuddling
Boosts Intimacy In A Relationship
Kissing is the ultimate display of affection among people in relationships (Busby et al., 2020). It is almost like the glue that holds together a relationship because a decline in kissing moments may signal that something is amiss in the relationship. Of course, intercourse is great, but nothing matches up to the amount of intimacy that kissing brings to the table. Kissing connects the mind and soul, unlike sex which only connects one genital to the other. During kissing, a lot happens between the people involved. First is the eye contact and the closeness of the bodies because no one can kiss their partner while they are meters apart. Also, the art of kissing boosts chemistry between people in a relationship. When you kiss someone for the first time and they pull back, look at you, cup your cheeks with their hands and then draw in for another kiss, rest assured that they are into you and they want something more than just a kiss.
Fosters Feelings Of Trust
Lichtenstein (2005) noted that trust is among the primary pillars of any stable marriage or relationship. Without trust, two people cannot stay together for long. Trusting your partner lets them know that you count on them for anything. Also, showing our partners that you trust them increases their willingness to partake in emotionally risky activities with you. With that, indulging in kissing or cuddling sessions with your partner is the best way to go if you want to improve trust levels in your relationship. Often, marriage counselors advise on the importance of using kisses and cuddles in your favor. When your partner is going through any stressful situation, you can pull them in for a kiss or a cuddle session to put their emotions to rest.
Helps To Bond You And Your Partner
People in relationships and those who have been in relationships know that emotional bonding is paramount for any relationship to last. A good bond with your partner will make them feel secure thus boosting a healthy relationship. Also, a good bond will make you and your partner foster closeness; your partner will be your to-go-to person in case anything happens. For this reason, you and your partner must kiss and cuddle more often. Recent studies have shown that cuddling, kissing and any other form of affection are responsible for the release of oxytocin, a hormone in the body responsible for bonding. Therefore, oxytocin is the glue that holds a relationship together.
Stress Reliever
Stress and stressful situations are detrimental to the progress of any relationship. A stressed partner will weigh down on you because instead of paying mind to the direction of the relationship, they are busy trying to make do with their anxious thoughts. It is important to lead a stress-free life despite everyday challenges. Singh et al. (2022) noted that kissing and cuddling are the perfect stress relievers because they lead to the release of oxytocin, a hormone in the body responsible for our happy moods. As long as oxytocin is present in your system, you will experience minimal to no levels of stress.
The Bottom Line
Kissing and cuddling are the ultimate forms of intimacy, especially for folks in relationships. People kiss and cuddle for different reasons and despite your reason, you are sure that this simple act will foster feelings of trust, bonding, and happiness. Aside from that, affective touch has also been shown to boost immune health, and lower blood pressure and weight loss. Cuddling is as important as kissing because both are the ultimate road to mind-blowing levels of intimacy in any relationship as outlined above. Can one live without kissing and cuddling? Absolutely. However, the language of love is touch and at one point in your life, you will crave to be touched or kissed.
References
Busby, D. M., Hanna-Walker, V., & Leavitt, C. E. (2020). A kiss is not just a kiss: Kissing frequency, sexual quality, attachment, and sexual and relationship satisfaction. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 1-17.
Herbenick, D., Fu, T. C., Owens, C., Bartelt, E., Dodge, B., Reece, M., & Fortenberry, J. D. (2019). Kissing, cuddling, and massage at most recent sexual event: Findings from a US nationally representative probability sample. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 45(2), 159-172.
Lichtenstein, A. (2005). Of marriage: Relationship and relations. Tradition: A Journal of Orthodox Jewish Thought, 39(2), 7-35.
Singh, D. K., Mishra, J. P., & Singh, R. K. (2022). A Study of Human Happiness, Health, Hormones, Brain and Body Related to Green-Psycho-Chemistry.