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By Ksenia Sobchak

Historically, female masturbation has been a taboo subject, but we believe a little DIY is a girl’s new best friend.

Whether you’re single or in a couple, self-pleasure is common with a high percentage of women (even if we don’t talk about it). It’s not just a simple act of touching and fondling your own body. There are deeper emotional, psychological and physical undertones attached to this pleasurable act.

Female masturbation is perhaps the most pleasurable and “emotionally safe” sexual experience. Generally speaking, established scientific research shows that masturbating women are more likely to have better marriages, fulfilling sex lives and better health..

So why should we take regular me time?

Improve your mood – Masturbating helps to release endorphin’s which is a feel good chemical which helps to improve overall quality of life.

Confidence builder – Understanding and exploring your body helps build self-awareness and confidence. Knowing what’s normal for your body is important not only for health purposes, but also helps you understand what your turn on’s and off’s are. A little extra confidence and suddenly those outfits no longer seem daunting. Check out our self-confidence article!

Stress relief – Female masturbation is an amazing way to relieve stress and tension. As an alternative form of yoga or meditation, a little DIY gives you the opportunity for some private, quiet time without the intrusion and constant pressure demands that the modern life demands.

It helps you sleep – With reduced stress and an increase in endorphin’s, masturbation can naturally resolve insomnia by making you calm and relaxed.
It’s a great way to release sexual tension and maintain your libido – It can satisfy and maintain your sex drive during those unfortunate dry spells.
Masturbating can ease menstrual pain – If you are in the high percentage of women who suffer from the dreaded pain and suffering every month then maybe try a little “me time”. Masturbation is known to relieve cramps by simulating the blood flow which in theory helps the flow of menstrual blood. Even if it doesn’t relieve the cramps, there’s no down side!

Post menopause – It can instrumental in easing post menopause sexual problems. The female sexual organs can actually narrow during menopause, which can lead to painful intercourse. Masturbating with a water-based lubricant, can prevent vaginal narrowing, boost uterine blood flow, assist with moisture and tissue problems, and enhance your libido.

Overall health – Masturbation helps relieve urinary tract infections and prevent cervical infections. Health studies show that female masturbation can provide protection against cervical infections as masturbation opens the cervix and allows bacteria to be flushed out. Women who orgasm more often are also at a lesser risk of type-2 diabetes and coronary heart disease.
It can help your relationship – Many couples have different sex drives and female masturbation is one way of meeting your needs when they might otherwise not be met. Mutual masturbation is also useful as we can learn new techniques from our partners to help climax, or to break the predictable
routine that can sometimes be present in a relationship.

Female Masturbation Techniques

Sex Toys

Sex toys are a great place to start. Finding the right product to meet your needs can be a daunting process, but with a little research you will be sure to find the ultimate pleasure tool that meets your needs. Sex toys come in a range of types including massagers, penetration devices, anal or clitoral simulators for sole benefit or for use with a partner.

Top 5 Sex Toys for Beginners

Iconic Smoothie - Unintimidating and inexpensive vibrator
Charms Silk Petite Massager - Petite massager
Bendy Beads - Anal bead chain
Advanced Waterproof Jack Rabbit - Multifunction vibrator
Hula Beads - Remote control pleasure beads

The Clitoris

There are so many techniques for stimulating the clitoris so why not try a few techniques and experiment.

Gently pat your clitoris using either your second or middle finger (or why not both) changing the speed and pressure. As your tension builds use your fluids for more stimulation. It will be hard but ignore the temptation to rub until you can’t hold back any further. The longer you hold out the better you will be rewarded.

Alternatively for a quickie, whereby you use all four fingers (held together) to move over your clitoris. By varying the movement back and forth, up and down or in a circular motion and also varying the pressure and lubrication. You won’t be sorry!

Penetration

There is nothing like a bit of penetration, this can be done using your fingers or vibrator. Commonly, finger penetration is used to find the G-spot (located about 2-3 inches inside your vagina on the side of the wall closest to your stomach which is then massaged. A combination approach is truly mind blowing and will result in wobbly leg syndrome so why not try fingering and clitoral stimulation.

Anal Stimulation

The anus is an extremely sensitive area so care should be taken as not to sustain injury or cause hygiene issues. You can best explore this area by rubbing or tickling the anus (preferably in combination with the above) or daring to use penetration! Remember to always use lubrication, because unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubrication.