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GETTING A WOMAN OFF WITH A SEX TOY DOESN’T COUNT…DUH!

Getting A Woman Off With A Sex Toy Doesn’T Count…Duh!

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova
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Getting A Woman Off With A Sex Toy Doesn’T Count…Duh!

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova

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Summary of Key Points

Ready for the nitty-gritty of the article? Here's a little bite-sized goodness:

  • 🔑 Understand the Science: The magic lies in knowing what gets her going! 🌟
  • 🛠️ Choosing the Right Toy: Not all toys are made equal. Choose wisely, and the fun is guaranteed! 😏
  • 💡 Communication is Key: Don’t just dive in—let her guide the way! 👏
  • 🎯 Focus on Her Pleasure: The more she enjoys, the better the results. #HappyHer

*Bonus Tip: Play it slow and steady. The thrill is in the journey!* 🚀


Key Advice and Tips from Our Experts

  • 💬 “Don’t Overthink It” - Sometimes, less is more! Just focus on feeling, not performance. 🙌
  • 🎯 “Slow It Down” - Sensations build up better with patience—let the magic unfold. ✨
  • 💪 “Experiment with Different Settings” - Variety is the spice of life! Try different speeds and vibrations. 🔄
  • 🕵️‍♂️ “Communication is Sexy” - Don't be shy—let her know what she enjoys. Words can make it hotter! 😈

*P.S. If in doubt, just ask! Getting it right together makes all the difference!* 💥

Getting off is described as the experience of intense sexual pleasure. There are many ways to make a woman experience insane levels of pleasure, from using sex toys to performing oral sex on her. Herein, we delve into the dos on how to make your woman orgasm from everything else but sex toys.

Masturbation is vital for any sexual discovery voyage, with or without the use of sex toys. No rule states that sex has to be between two people because solo sex is possible and most people prefer the heights to which they can take their sexual pleasures. Many men are for the idea that sex toys give the best orgasms, not knowing that orgasms are more than sex toys. If you want your woman to climax from everything but sex toys, read below.

Get Her Off By Turning Her Mind On

Often when women know that they can climax from sex toys without lifting a finger, they do not bother about being in the moment. They forget to tune their minds into the moment; the most important aspect of any sex session. it is vital to note that psychological and physical stimulation is paramount for any successful sex and masturbation session. Moir & Jessel (1997) noted that the biggest sexual organ is the brain; zero mental stimulation equals zero sensations. Therefore, before engaging your partner in any sexual act, make sure that you stimulate her mind before anything else. Stimulating her mind includes acts such as; dimming the light, soft massages on her tense muscles, romantic texts during the day, etc.

Pay Mind To When She Most Enjoys Solo Sessions

Orgasms can remain an unreachable fantasy especially if your body and mind are not in tune. Some women find it hard to orgasm after a long day at work due to the fatigue that comes with long days at the office. Initiating sex at such a time may not be futile and if they agree to it, things may go downhill real fast. Other women prefer to engage in sexual acts immediately after they get home from the gym. To each his own. Therefore, make sure that you are aware of your partner’s sexual routines; her high and low days. It would also help if you keep a journal with you, it would help if you jot down anything that you feel might help you to best discern her moods.

Put Your Fingers To Work

McPhillips et al. (2001) noted that societal norms have made people think that sex begins and ends with penetration. This school of thought has led to some men diving straight into penile penetration without foreplay; the most important part of any sexual activity. Allowing your fingers to explore your partner’s genitals is a sure way to make sure that they reach climax effortlessly. Make a peace sign with your middle and pointer finger and then place them on your partner’s clitoral hood. Work in circular motions and try to locate their most sensitive spot. Note that stimulating the clitoris may take a couple of hits and misses, especially if you choose to go the manual way. Experiment with different rhythms and once you settle on the most pleasurable one, keep at it until your partner climaxes.

Reduce The Velocity

If your partner is dependent on stimulation from a sex toy, you can try to reduce the levels of vibrations they get from their sex toys. Rather than trashing the whole toy, you can monitor the levels of sensations your partner is subjecting to her clitoris. If your partner is used to electric vibrators, you can try a battery-powered vibe because they give less intense vibrations. After a while of using the battery-powered vibrator, you may notice improved sensitivity on your partner's genitals.

Couple Your Hands With A Toy

The hands and toy combo is a cult favorite because it allows you to experience a ton of sensations. Begin with a low vibration sensation and then let your fingers accompany whatever sensation it is that you are giving. If you place the toy on your partner's clitoris, make sure that your hands explore the other parts of the vagina for added stimulation. Some women orgasm from nipple stimulation; therefore, your hands may come in handy. Also, when you are going down on your partner, you can insert two fingers into their vagina and watch them sink into an exquisite pool of orgasms.

Shift Your Focus From Orgasms

Constable (2009) suggested that intimacy is the focal point of any successful sex activity. Therefore, let your focus be on the sensations you are giving your partner instead of on if they will orgasm because, with the right sensations, orgasms will be a stone’s throw away. It is during intimacy that you can increase your sexual skills because you are bonding sexually with your partner. The flow of desire between you and your partner is important for the session to bear fruit. It is during intimacy that you get to learn about your partner’s erogenous zones.

Avoid Too Many Positions In Bed

Gray (2013) suggested that trying out different sex positions in bed allows you to know what works for your partner and what does not. It is a fun experience but trying out too many positions will make it hard for you to orgasm. The number one rule of satisfaction is steady stimulation from a position that targets your pleasure points. Find a rhythm and stick to it, failure to which you may end the session without an orgasm. If you get distracted, do not be afraid to start from square one. Get yourself and your partner on that orgasm wave and ride it till the end.

The Bottom Line

Sexual pleasure thrives on several factors that culminate to give you the experience of your life. One of these factors includes vibrators which have risen to be a cult favorite in recent years due to their sensual benefits. Most men are for the idea that getting off from a sex toy is the ultimate sexual experience. However, orgasms from sex toys should not be the order of the day especially if you have a man.

References

Constable, N. (2009). The commodification of intimacy: Marriage, sex, and reproductive labor. Annual review of anthropology, 38(1), 49-64.

Gray, P. B. (2013). Evolution and human sexual behavior. Harvard University Press.

McPhillips, K., Braun, V., & Gavey, N. (2001, March). Defining (hetero) sex: How imperative is the “coital imperative”?. In Women's Studies International Forum (Vol. 24, No. 2, pp. 229-240). Pergamon.

Moir, A., & Jessel, D. (1997). Brain sex. Random House (UK).


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