MAKING YOUR FIRST PLAY PARTY EXPERIENCE A CONSENSUAL BLAST
Play parties could attract a lot of kinky sex behaviors. You wouldn’t know what to expect from such events. That’s why in your intent of making it a blast, you need to consider the following herein:
You are going to meet new people, different strangers that are there for consensual sex and kinky pleasure. You have to learn a lot before jumping into the attending bandwagon. And if you have decided to attend the party, it means you know what it entails and where it is being held. Below are the questions that will guide you through the process.
Who Do You Want to Play Party With?
Would you love to go to a party where you are familiar with people? Do you intend to know a few or most of the attendants? Play parties are private, such as birthday, which can be held at home or private clubs.
To ensure your security, the party organizers need to put measures to ensure that the invited guests get follow the rules and guidelines if any. Some parties are based on pay-to-attend. You therefore, expect to mingle with different people even those the organizers might not know. And because many people do come to play parties with different intentions, you can only be sure of your security and safety if you know the individuals you are attending the function with.
Communication
Do not assume that by walking into a play party, people will have an idea of what you want and give you freely without asking. By coming into the space play, you already know what you want is the key to getting fully satisfied with the results. Do not let others in the party do the communication for you. As part of the space play, you need to communicate what you need and desire. Furthermore, learn to listen and say NO to some of the ideas brought to the table, but you disagree with them. Try to do things with consent. When someone says “I cave,” take it as NO, and when another person delays in giving out a response, do not force them to say yes. And if you receive a hesitation answer of yes, appreciate and thank the respondent for their time.
Have an Idea of What Is Happening Within the Play Space
Everyone in the play space came in with the same general reason, but it does not mean that they are there to engage in the same play as you want. Most people are there to do what concerns them and whichever they want. Say NO to some unique participation that you are being told to participate in. Inquire from the event organizer of anything that might happen at the play party. When you feel lonely, break the ice and talk to someone you are interested in.
Overall Play Party Rules and Tips
Do not destruct any program going on at the play place. Ensure not to involve in a scene that you are aware might interrupt the program. Just chill and enjoy the play. If before nominating the folk on the scene some negotiation took place, and you were not part of the negotiation. Let the folk finish their part and catch up with them later to discuss the scene.
What to Do After Getting a Play Folk
Play parties most certainly involve plenty of wild kinky sex. Health safety should never be a gamble when going to such parties. To ensure you protect yourself and those you will engage with, get yourself tested for STIs. Get your partners to disclose their safety status beforehand. even so, ensure that you carry around your protective gear such as condoms alongside other equipment like lubes, masks, dental dams, and gloves.
Be Sober Throughout the Process
Ensure to remain sober at any time, and keep watching first before engaging in any of the acts. Keep any consumption drinks in check, and avoid intoxicating drugs that will make you drunk. It is acceptable to have a glass of wine to stimulate your nerves, that's not bad.
Cleanliness of the Sex Toys
Keeping set toys clean enhances their durability. It is key to ensure that these toys are well-maintained to improve their safety. Cleaning ensures the kill of germs and harmful bacteria that could affect the user. Additionally, cleanliness ensures the good condition of the toy for a while.
Aftercare Play Part
Most people would just walk away without care of their partner or even without a word. Bring your partner closer after the play and engage in conversation. You can ask them what they want after the party. You can play together, drink wine and water together, and later share your phone call digits if you don't mind. This helps to maintain a good relationship with your play party partner.
Meditate What You Have Been Doing in the Party
After arriving home safely, think about your experience, where you excelled, where you fell short, etc. Such self-introspecting moments offer you a unique opportunity to improve on your expectations, and deeds in your next party. And since you are dealing with human beings, it would be essential to keep in mind other people’s feelings and space at the play party. In the next party, it would be easy to get along because you already have a feel of the environment.
The Bottom Line
The first-time play party attendees might get confused and nervous with new experiences and strangers at the event. Different people in the party come in with different ideas, be sober and learn more about the play party. The above tips can help you go to a play part have an excellent experience. Respect other people's boundaries as you want them to respect yours.