ENJOYING THE VIEW: EXPERIMENTING WITH VOYEURISM IN A RELATIONSHIP

Voyeurism, also known as scopophilia, is one of the non-contact sexual interests where a person achieves sexual arousal by observing other people as they undress, or engage in other sexual activities. The person who gets sexual pleasure from watching other people is known as the voyeur or Peeping Tom. Traditionally, voyeurism was considered a disorder. It is currently a healthy fetish that can be potentially satisfying. Voyeurism can be a consensual act where the parties involved are aware of what is happening and consent to the act. 

How To Practice Voyeurism Responsibly

Although most people may not admit it, voyeurism is a common practice. However, different states have different anti-voyeurism laws. Some prohibit individuals from indecent exposure. They also consider watching someone undress or engage in sexual activities without their consent illegal. Voyeurism can be potentially problematic and can turn into a disorder if done excessively. Therefore, it is important to understand how to practice voyeurism without getting into trouble. If you get sexual pleasure from observing other people's sexual activities, here are some tips on exploring voyeurism safely.

Watch Your Partner Masturbate

Watching your partner pleasure themselves can be sexually arousing. You can either sit in the room as you watch your partner masturbate or watch them secretly. If you are in the same room with them, you can encourage them to do certain things that are arousing to you. Watching your partner masturbate can also help you understand what turns your partner on by watching their body movement and reaction as they stimulate different parts. This is a safe way to practice voyeurism because the parties involved are in an intimate relationship.

Set  Up Mirrors

This is one way of watching your naked lover as they make love to you. If you love the alluring view of your partner making love to you, set up mirrors in different areas and angle them to get the best view. Having sex in front of a mirror can be highly pleasurable, especially if both parties are comfortable and confident with their bodies. This builds up the excitement during sexual encounters and can create visual images that the partners can think about even when apart.

Record Your Sex Session

If you are a voyeur, you can record a video of your partner while having sex with them or as they masturbate to watch it later. This can be a fun way to spice up sex, and it is a safe way to practice voyeurism. However, it is important to get your partner's consent before recording them. In some states and countries, recording someone without their knowledge is illegal. Also, it is important to keep the video private to avoid other people from accessing it. Only allow people you trust to take your videos.

Watch Your Partner Have Sex With Someone Else

This is the advanced form of voyeurism that involves including a third party, who can be a friend or a paid partner. For some people, seeing their partner getting pleasured by other people can be extremely arousing. It can also be interesting to know that other people find your partner attractive. Also, watching your partner with someone else can make you feel more attracted to him or her. However, it is important to ensure that your partner consents to having sex with other people. Also, take all safety precautions to avoid the spread of STIs.

Visit A Strip Club

Visit a strip club alone or with a partner. When with a partner, buy them a lap dance. It can be extremely arousing watching your partner get turned on by a dancer. When alone, you can pay to watch a dancer strip. This can feed your fantasies of watching someone as they undress and even masturbate. Some clubs also hold frequent sex parties, where people engage in sexual activities as others watch.

Watching Pornography

Downloading pornography is a form of voyeurism. This is because pornography involves watching people engage in different sexual activities like stripping, masturbation, foreplay, oral sex, or penetrative sex. Watching pornography can be satisfying for voyeurs. They can masturbate as they watch the videos for more stimulation.

Role Play

You can set up scenarios that are sexually arousing to you and watch your partner implement them. Your partner can dress up in different costumes to make the scene more arousing. The voyeur can then watch their partner undress and masturbate. They can also record the session and watch themselves later.

Signs That It's a Problem

 Voyeuristic disorder is a condition where a person becomes so consumed by their voyeuristic fantasies that they cannot function. It can become a pathological behavior. Some of the signs of voyeurism disorder are;

• A person becomes aggressive and potentially forces the victim into sex or harms them.
• The voyeur is unable to get satisfaction or orgasms.
• The voyeur becomes obsessed with voyeurism to the extent that they can't function without it.
• When the voyeur cannot control their urges
• If the urges and desires get in the way of social or professional life
• If voyeurism is performed secretly on unknowing and unconsenting people.
• If voyeurism causes anxiety or depression, it is another sign of this disorder.
• Feeling guilty after engaging in voyeurism.
• A person cannot get sexually aroused without watching other people.

Voyeuristic disorder can be treated with either medication, psychotherapy, or both, depending on the severity of the disorder. One can also learn to cope with the disorder by distracting themselves or joining different support groups. 

The Bottom Line

Voyeurism is a common practice that involves getting sexual arousal by watching people. It may involve watching people undress, shower, naked, or engage in sexual activities, such as oral sex, masturbation, and penetrative sex. However, voyeurism is different from exhibitionism. Exhibitionism involves a person displaying their genitals to other people. Voyeurism in itself is not a disorder, but it can cause voyeurism disorder when excessive. Therefore, if you are interested in trying out voyeurism, follow the tips in this blog. Voyeurism can take your relationship to the next level when practiced in moderation. It brings fun and new sensations to the play.