MUTUAL MASTURBATION: ANOTHER TOOL FOR YOUR SEX TOY TOOLBOX

Masturbation is a taboo subject, especially among the older generation who are for the idea that sex is all about penetration. Some folks may find it difficult to try other masturbation methods like mutual masturbation. Read below as you delve into mutual masturbation, an additional tool to your bedroom activities.

Mutual masturbation is a sexual activity that involves partnered sexual stimulation of the genitals. The session may be spearheaded by using sex toys or viewing erotic content. Most sex therapists excite mutual masturbation because it breeds intimacy in a relationship. Initiating the topic of mutual masturbation n to your partner is not a walk in the park because often, masturbation is viewed as a one-person job. However, once you get past the shyness and the intimidating feelings of trying to masturbate with your partner mutually, this underrated sexual activity can be one of your to-go-to.

Mutual Masturbation

Masturbation is a sexual activity requiring vulnerability with oneself and their partner if you are up for a mutual masturbation session. When viewed from a different point of view, it can be an intimidating experience nobody should be coerced into trying. Think of mutual masturbation as a door to intimacy, the greatest safe space in any relationship, or your normal masturbation session but with an audience and variations. Whatever you choose to use is up to you, sex toys or your fingers, as long as they get the job done. Mutual masturbation is hyped because you get to experience arousal with or without being touched. It can also be a great tool for long-distance partners looking to keep their sex lives alive despite the distance.

Benefits of Mutual Masturbation

It Allows You To Experience Sex Without Penetration

A good sex session does not have to revolve around intercourse. Shelton (2010) stated that people experience out-of-this-world sensations with zero penetration through masturbation and stimulating other erogenous zones in the body like the nipples. Outercourse is a great place to start if the thought of penile or sex toy penetration feels uncomfortable. You can find your way through the muddy journey towards sexual exploration with a good outercourse session. Also, partners hesitant to try sex can start with mutual masturbation as they work towards penetration.

Boosts Mood

Masturbation is a sure way to reach climax, especially if you are an amateur in self-pleasure. Jain et al. (2019) stated that your body produces endorphins, chemicals the nervous system produces to help your body deal with stress and pain during orgasm. Endorphins are also feel-good hormones because your body and mind sink into a relaxed mood when they are released. Therefore, if you want to experience an influx of good moods, find time to engage in mutual masturbation with your partner.

There Is No Risk Of STIs

STDs can be quite expensive to treat, especially viral STIs, because some require you to be on lifelong drug consumption. Therefore, mutual masturbation is the way to go, especially if you are unsure of your partner's sexual health. Zero penetration equals zero risk of catching infections like STIs and HIV/AIDS. During mutual masturbation, neither you nor your partner comes into contact with each other's fluids unless you touch their genitals. The risk of receiving or transmitting sexual diseases is significantly reduced.

You Learn How To Pleasure Your Partner

Prause et al.(2016) suggested that you arouse the areas of your body that you feel will help you reach orgasm quickly when masturbating. Therefore, during mutual masturbation, you must focus on the areas that your partner is paying the most attention to. Note how they stimulate the clitoris, the motions, and the tempo. Once you have mastered their pleasurable rhythm, you can apply this knowledge in your next sex session.

You Are Guaranteed Of Pleasure

Penetration is not an assurance that you will orgasm, although many people report being able to orgasm from penetration. Traeen et al. (2021) stated that mutual masturbation guarantees an orgasm-filled session for folks who find it hard orgasming with a partner. Most people have better orgasm experiences when they stimulate themselves because they know when and where to direct their energy.

It Is a Better Option for Partners whose Libidos Are Not In Sync

People have different sex drives. Often, couples tend to argue about their varying sex drives, with some opting to part ways. When you are in heat and your partner isn't in the mood, mutual masturbation can be a good option because both parties share the pleasure.

There Are A lot Of Sex Positions You Can Try

You and your partner can try some positions to get the most out of each other.

The "69" position

When practicing the '69' sex position, one partner lies on their back while the other climbs on top, facing the opposite direction. This position will allow both parties to access their genitals for stimulation purposes comfortably.

Straddling

Straddling involves one partner sitting on the pelvic area of the other partner. However, during mutual masturbation, this position may make it hard for both parties to masturbate. You can position yourself a little higher on the chest or stomach to get the most out of this position.

It Is The Best Mode Of Intimacy for Long-Distance Couples

Long distance is the perfect way to cultivate pleasure and excitement in a relationship. Remote-controlled sex toys are the perfect toys for people in long-distance relationships. Despite the distance, you and your partner can still relish the beauty of shared intimacy with your preferred remote-controlled sex toy.

The Bottom Line

There are two types of masturbation; solo and partnered, also known as mutual. For a fruitful masturbation session, you must communicate with your body and mind. Mutual masturbation is the most intimate of the two because it allows you to see your partner in all her glory and vulnerability. Also, it is a great activity, especially for couples in long-distance relationships, because they get to share a little intimacy despite the distance between them. Mutual masturbation has many benefits, and the key to experiencing the juiciness it offers is finding what feels most pleasurable to you.

References

Jain, A., Mishra, A., Shakkarpude, J., & Lakhani, P. (2019). Beta Endorphins: The Natural Opioids. JCS, 7(3), 323-332.

Prause, N., Kuang, L., Lee, P., & Miller, G. (2016). Clitorally Stimulated Orgasms Are Associated With Better Control Of Sexual Desire, And Not Associated With Depression Or Anxiety, Compared With Vaginally Stimulated Orgasms. The Journal Of Sexual Medicine, 13(11), 1676-1685.

Shelton, J. D. (2010). Masturbation: Breaking The Silence. International Perspectives On Sexual And Reproductive Health, 36(3), 157-159.

Traeen, B., Fischer, N., & Kvalem, I. L. (2021). Sexual Intercourse Activity And Activities Associated With Sexual Interaction In Norwegians Of Different Sexual Orientations And Ages. Sexual And Relationship Therapy, 1-17.