8 Things You Don’T See In Porn

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Tatyana Dyachenko
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You know that porn is acted and whatever you see on the screen is not always necessarily true. Just like in any other movie or scene, you are only allowed to see what was scripted, and there are always activities that happen behind the scenes. Being aware of what happens behind the camera will help you understand sex better and many other things.

Watching porn serves different purposes depending on the viewer. Be it entertainment, for arousal, or educational purports, you always have a reason to visit those sites. However w you are aware that what happens in porn is a presentation of a written script. This means that everything you see in porn is just acted like any other movie scene. This is why people are discouraged from learning sexual things from porn since not everything that happens in front of the camera is real. Some of the things in porn are almost impossible in ordinary life. Porn being scripted means that some things happen aside from the camera, behind the scenes. Here are some things that happen behind the scenes that you need to know.

Subsidizing Consent and Boundaries  

This is one very important part of sex that should be rather ordinary. Figuring out what your partner needs or is okay within bed and understanding what crosses the line for them should be the basic component of your foreplay. Understanding what works for them and what doesn't only needs some basic communication skills and some emotional intelligence. The last thing you want is turning them off or pissing them off after doing something they don't like. Establishing consent and boundaries is a must when getting intimate with someone for the first time or in a relationship. Although this is not a negotiation or contract, it is important, and porn stars also do the same behind the scenes. They agree on what acts to perform and disapprove of some, but the act is what is brought on your screen. 

Applying Lube 

You have to be a little keener when watching porn to notice that there is lots of lube used in the scenes. You won't exactly see a porn star with a bottle squeezing out the lube to smear on them unless in rare cases. Lube is essential, especially in anal scenes. According to Wilson et al. (2017), lubricants are used during procreative intercourse to moderate the amount of wetness in the genitals. Keep in mind that these scenes are acts, and the arousal is, in most cases, faked to improve the performance. Lube is used between takes by the actors since they may find it hard to get wet during the scenes or stay wet due to the film crew around or lack of enough arousal.

Birth Control and STI Testing   

Keep in mind that porn stars also keep it safe when acting and are tested every 14 days. They also have a livelihood aside from porn, and it is their responsibility to stay healthy. Testing is very important if you are having sex with different partners over a certain period. Holmes, Levine & Weaver (2004) state that the use of condoms is important for protection against STIs. Consider regular testing at least every few months.

Birth control is also one other thing you don't see in porn. Of course, some scenes don't involve condoms but remember that the last thing these porn stars want is to get pregnant while at work with someone who is not their partner. The actors are often on pills or have an IUD. Though they often seem careless on camera, porn stars are often careful behind the scenes.

Checking Preferences          

Besides just setting boundaries and consent, good sexual chemistry accounts for good sex, as Thompson (2010) described. The only way to know what your partner wants and desires is by asking them. Believe it or not, porn stars talk about what turns them on or off. They talk of how they like getting stroked, their favorite techniques and positions, and how they like their pussies fingered. This kind of talk will make the sex better but not necessarily make the porn better. 

Effort and Awkwardness     

You have to understand that porn involves a lot of professional editing, not unless you watch those amateur, low-quality scenes. Nothing in porn happens magically. Sex doesn't go that smoothly, and like every other movie scene, there are often more than just a few takes on the same scene. Actors also get sore and need to reposition themselves from time to time. They also find themselves in awkward positions that are, in turn, hurting some parts of their body and need readjusting. However, you just get the best parts of the whole scene, thanks to good editing.

Anal Prepping 

On the screen, sex always looks easy and smooth, including anal sex. But you have to understand that a great deal of work goes into making it look perfect on porn. Anal training is how the anus is prepped using toys for the anus to get used to penetration with minimum resistance. The actors might also put on butt plugs before the scenes as a way of anal prepping. Porn stars also eat clean at least a day before and do some anal douching to minimize the messiness that might happen when getting butt stroked on camera. There is also behind-the-scenes lubing, and with all these settings, they make anal sex look effortless.

Cleaning Up

Porn can be messy. Due to good editing, you don't see the porn stars asking for wet wipes or paper towels or even rushing to the washrooms to clean themselves up after the scene. You will never see a porn star clean up after a facial with cum because that nastiness is what makes up for awesome porn. They clean themselves up and clean every toy used during the shoot, like the butt plug, dildos, and vibrators. Porn is simply to give you the fantasies you want, and what happens in between scenes and after is simply not your business as a viewer.

Performance Obstacles

The body doesn't always work as well as you might want, and that's one thing you find in real life but will never see in porn scenes. The scenes don't show how sometimes men struggle to get hard and even at times don't achieve a full erection. It sometimes takes forever for the guy to get hard or even achieve an ejaculation. This also happens in the female actors where it takes time for them to orgasm as they disappointingly try and wonder why their bodies aren't cooperating. Not unless you are curious to go searching specifically for this, you will never see it in any porn scene.

Conclusion

Porn is designed to make you horny, and aid get you off, so there is no way you will see some things on screen; this is because they are not as hot or entertaining. The work of porn is to please your desires, and that is what they will just do. Porn leaves out what happens during real sex. You have to understand that sex is not that easy, and the positions they often try out need constant realigning since they are complicated. Porn is completely different from real sex, so you can't learn about sex from porn.

References

Holmes, K. K., Levine, R., & Weaver, M. (2004). Effectiveness of condoms in preventing sexually transmitted infections. Bulletin of the World health Organization, 82(6), 454-461.

Thompson, M. (2010). Who Should You Have Sex With?: The Secrets to Great Sexual Chemistry. Sourcebooks, Inc.. 

Wilson, S. L., Adam, J. K., & Krishna, S. B. N. (2017). Effects of vaginal lubricants on in-vitro progressive spermatozoa motility. African Journal of Reproductive Health, 21(3), 96-101.