Why Do Men Watch Porn?
Few want to admit it, but it's extremely common for men to fulfill their sexual needs by watching porn. For a woman, it can be hard to understand why they do so; you're in a relationship with them, yet they still continue to watch it. Many men feel embarrassed about telling their partner that they still watch porn, which can cause a nasty shock when you do find out. You might feel that your man isn't fully satisfied with your appearance or your performance in bed, or that he has sexual needs which you can never hope to meet. However, it's incredibly unlikely that this is the case. Instead, there are a number of reasons which experts have put forward as to why men just can't get enough of porn.
Porn provides instant gratification - there's no need for the right mood or moment to get your kicks from it. While sex undoubtedly gives one more pleasure, sometimes a quick fix is all that a man is after. With porn so readily available nowadays online, it's never been easier for men to get it, and all for free, which can tempt many men to continue to watch it even when in a relationship.
Another possible reason why a man might watch porn is they might have a very specific fetish which they feel like their partner won't accept or be willing to help fulfil. An easy way to overcome this is for both partners to set aside some time where they can openly discuss their sexual preferences without any judgement, so that you can both understand what really turns each other on.
Finally, porn isn't meant to be an accurate depiction of how most people have sex, but rather a fantasy situation specifically designed to get the viewer off. At some time or another, everyone fantasises about living a different life to their own, but that doesn't mean they actually want this- it's just a natural thing that people do. In the same way, porn offers a man a fantasy situation which he can imagine himself in or observing, but that he wouldn't necessarily act on in reality.
If you find out that your man is still watching porn, then don't despair. Hopefully now you have a better understanding of the motives behind it, and can see that it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love you or that you aren't good enough. If you're still unhappy with it, then explain to him why that is, and see if you can come to an agreement about what to do. Alternatively, why not try watching it together- it could lead to a porn scene of your own!
Porn provides instant gratification - there's no need for the right mood or moment to get your kicks from it. While sex undoubtedly gives one more pleasure, sometimes a quick fix is all that a man is after. With porn so readily available nowadays online, it's never been easier for men to get it, and all for free, which can tempt many men to continue to watch it even when in a relationship.
Another possible reason why a man might watch porn is they might have a very specific fetish which they feel like their partner won't accept or be willing to help fulfil. An easy way to overcome this is for both partners to set aside some time where they can openly discuss their sexual preferences without any judgement, so that you can both understand what really turns each other on.
Finally, porn isn't meant to be an accurate depiction of how most people have sex, but rather a fantasy situation specifically designed to get the viewer off. At some time or another, everyone fantasises about living a different life to their own, but that doesn't mean they actually want this- it's just a natural thing that people do. In the same way, porn offers a man a fantasy situation which he can imagine himself in or observing, but that he wouldn't necessarily act on in reality.
If you find out that your man is still watching porn, then don't despair. Hopefully now you have a better understanding of the motives behind it, and can see that it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love you or that you aren't good enough. If you're still unhappy with it, then explain to him why that is, and see if you can come to an agreement about what to do. Alternatively, why not try watching it together- it could lead to a porn scene of your own!