Going The Distance: How Can Men Last Longer In Bed?

Being a rather subtle topic, men always crave to last in bed and maximize the most of sexual intercourse. But the most undermining factor of this is premature ejaculation, but this is something you can take care of. Slowing down, the squeeze technique, masturbation, and edging are some techniques that can be deployed to ensure lasting long in bed.

Nothing beats embarrassment and frustration in men like premature ejaculation. It is disappointing for you and your partner and can turn what was supposed to be enjoyable coitus into frustrating. However, men should understand that they are not alone, no matter how frustrating it might be. The fact that premature ejaculation is common in men is somehow comforting. Still, most individuals want to please their partners in bed, and premature ejaculation makes it more difficult. It affects not only the sex but also the relationship as a whole. Okay, yes, you are not the only one dealing with premature ejaculation; the question left to answer is, how can one last longer in bed?  

Focus More On Foreplay 

Macey et al. (2015) explained that sexual intercourse doesn't only involve penetration. Focusing mostly on foreplay than penetration can help you last longer in bed. Foreplay is also beneficial as it will keep your partner aroused and help her even reach orgasm. This way, you can please your partner as much as you want pleasure. Foreplay also allows deploying the pause-squeeze technique. Also, delaying penetration, in turn, extends the buildup to orgasm, and thus climax will feel more intense and is similar to the edging technique.

Pelvic Floor Exercises      

Ribeiro et al. (2020) explained that the pelvic floor muscles are located just below your prostate and rectum. Just like any other muscle, the pelvic floor muscles can be strengthened through exercise. Weak pelvic muscles make it hard to delay ejaculation. Kegel exercises are a series of contraction and release exercises that help strengthen your pelvic muscles. Kegels bend the same muscles normally used to stop the flow of urine. You can find these muscles this way by stopping and releasing urine flow. You can also train the pelvic muscles with these steps: 

• Tighten the pelvic floor muscles – you can easily sit or lie down to perform this.
• Hold the muscles tight for about 3 seconds.
• Relax the muscles for 3 seconds.
• Repeat the contractions and release technique consecutively at least ten times each day.

Masturbate In Advance     

Egorov et al. (2018) explained that this is a common technique to prevent premature ejaculation. Men understand that the first ejaculation is easier than the second or third. Jerking off will rid the first ejaculation; this way, during sex, you will last longer before reaching orgasm. However, you must do this way before sex since you may fail to get an erection if you do this some minutes before sex. Masturbation also acts as a therapeutic massage.

Slow Down

Quick thrusts intensify the stimulations during penetrations. Chalker (2018) explained that with premature ejaculations, the last thing you want is intensified stimulations, as this is what leads to ejaculation. You want to please yourself and your partner, but this pleasure will only be short-lived if you ejaculate early. You want to lower the pace of your thrusts, taking short breaks in between. It will not help you delay ejaculation but also help you concede other indistinct sensations in your body.

Switch Up Positions     

Changing positions acts as a brake to slow down movements. You were getting as many stimulations during the transition, so a change in position cools the body off and holds off ejaculation. It means you'll have to start over again before climaxing. Also, when the slow down technique, it is easier for you as a man to get carried away than hasten the pace. Consider changing positions and having her on top. Some positions that make it hard for deep penetrations, such as spooning, offer a big advantage in holding off ejaculation.

The Squeeze Technique

This technique involves withdrawing your penis just as you are about to ejaculate and then applying pressure on the tip of the penis. Either this squeezing the penis around the area where the head of the penis joins the shaft and only resuming the sexual activity when the need to orgasm fades. Doing this will help delay your orgasm, and you can do this severally, but your partner should be aware. Your partner can also be the one to squeeze if you don’t want to do this on your own. Also, consider incorporating other ways for stimulation to keep your partner aroused.

The Edging Technique        

Also known as the start-stop technique involves stopping the sexual activity when you feel the need to ejaculate and then resuming after the need to ejaculate fades away. The trick in edging is getting right up to the edge of an orgasm and then stopping to cool down before starting up again. Doing this can help you last longer in bed, and you can do this as often as possible until you are ready to ejaculate. This way, you will train your body to hold off ejaculation, and with more practice, you can have total control over your ejaculation.  

Using Anesthetic Creams                 

You can also opt to go artificial using creams and sprays containing anesthetics, but this is solemnly for temporary use. These creams and sprays containing anesthetics can be gotten over the counter, but be sure to read the manufacturer's instructions. Anesthetic creams and sprays work by numbing the penis; this way, sensations will decrease as the time to ejaculate increases. Most of these anesthetic creams and sprays should be applied 20-30 minutes on the penis before any sexual activity and then washed off 5-10 minutes before sex. Incorporating the use of condoms is also added advantage as the sensations will be reduced, thus delaying ejaculation further.

Conclusion          

When going the distance, you will need tactics to help you last longer. No one appreciates premature ejaculation. But this should not be a factor to undermines your sex life. You can still have a great sex life considering the tactics above. It would be best to talk to your partner about this since open and honest conversations will help you deal with the stress and frustrations of premature ejaculation. With these and the methods above, you will have a worthy and better sex life.

References

Chalker, R. (2018). The clitoral truth. Seven Stories Press.

Egorov, V., Shobeiri, S. A., Takacs, P., Hoyte, L., Lucente, V., & van Raalte, H. (2018). Biomechanical mapping of the female pelvic floor: prolapse versus normal conditions. Open journal of obstetrics and gynecology, 8(10), 900.

Macey, K., Gregory, A., Nunns, D., & das Nair, R. (2015). Women’s experiences of using vaginal trainers (dilators) to treat vaginal penetration difficulties diagnosed as vaginismus: a qualitative interview study. BMC women's health, 15(1), 1-12.

Ribeiro, A. M., Nammur, L. G., Mateus-Vasconcelos, E. C. L., Ferreira, C. H. J., Muglia, V. F., & Oliveira, H. F. D. (2020). Pelvic floor muscles after prostate radiation therapy: morpho-functional assessment by magnetic resonance imaging, surface electromyography, and digital anal palpation. International Braz j Urol, 47, 120-130.