ATTENDING YOUR FIRST SEX PARTY
Sex parties or what many call orgies can be exciting or not depending on the safety levels and other factors in play culminating to the event. Let’s explore this subject further.
Some people would be more receptive of the idea if and when they are assured of what to expect in sex parties. Here are some of the tips to guide you through the party.
Do Your Research Before Attending The Party.
We have different people with different minds at the party. Not all the invitees to the party have the similar agendas. Before going to that party, ensure to research the specific party you have been invited to. Check on the details of the party, how many people will attend the party, what kind of food and drinks will be served at that party, and where it will be held. Additionally, get to know the rules of the party. Whether it is organized for a specific activity, celebration, or group of individuals; couples, single parties, or both.
Get everything from the organizer of the party. Check whether there is mention of safety, etiquette, or consent. Inquire if there are rules and regulations in the party. It is not recommended to be apart of a party where rules and regulations are not clearly stipulated, or your safety is not assured.
Communicate To the Organizer of the Party
If you cannot get full information from your research, make sure to talk to the party's organizer before attendance. Ask them questions including whether they have ever organized such a party before. How often they do the party. Ask of the Intentions for the party. Inquire the rules and regulations, ask about your safety, and if you feel uncomfortable, what will happen. Ask about boundary violations. You do not have to attend the party if you do not get satisfactory feedback.
Insist on Boundaries While in the Party
Maintain your respect and dignity when at a sex party. Create boundaries and think of what you want to gain from the party. Look at what will make the party memorable and a good experience. You can also think of the gender identity of the people you will be comfortable with. If you want to dance single or with couples if the age of your partner suits you or not.
Learn to Say No
Being at a sex party does not imply that you accepted everything that may happen there. You have the right to say no to some of the activities that do not suit you, and you are told to participate in. try to say something like ' am really delighted to be part of this activity but am not interested.'
Stay Back and Watch
If you do not know what is happening at the party or you are uncomfortable participating, just sit back and watch. Avoid following people into their private rooms without their consent. If you get interested in practicing, you can start with masturbation while watching. Be sure to get a good partner to play with later.
Get Talking
It's important to communicate to people you are familiar with how you feel. You can also strike a conversation with strangers, choose someone you have been watching for a while, and are sure of their character. You can chat and mingle to break the ice at that party.
Relax and Calm Down
When you are at the party, learn to relax and calm down. Do not engage in activities that are not suitable for you. Do not do anything due to peer pressure, whether you get yourself anxious or not.
Consider a Friend Company
Come along with your buddy to the party. It's good to have someone that you fully trust close to you. Friends protect each other from bad behaviors or from risky activities. And if you don't have one, let the event organizer contact anyone who feels like a newbie at the party.
Be Sober All the Time
Many people get intoxicating before or during parties. Some will drug your drink if you are not very keen. You can just have a glass of wine to stimulate your nerves. You need your brain to help you make the right decision to stay sober until morning.
Maintain Others’ Boundaries
Make sure to stay by the rules and regulations of the party. Do not cross others' boundaries when you are a bit drunk. Request consent for each activity you engage in at the party. Do not take it as yes if you don’t receive a response. Stay and wait for feedback from the respondent. Make yourself comfortable while asking for something. This is a good idea before doing anything stupid in the party.
Permit Yourself to Feel Nervous
Acknowledge your nerves for the first time while in a new environment. You can withdraw all nervousness by making new friends at the party. You can as well make a few jokes to make people happy. Get the opportunity to tell them that it's your first time to be at a sexy party. At least they can give direction on how it is done.
Have Break
Mostly the party reaches a climax and may become overwhelming. Give yourself a break. Ask yourself a question such as 'what am I doing? What am I lacking? Is there something that I need? If you did come along with a buddy, check on them and see how they are coping with the situation.
The bottom line
Most parties have no rules and regulations; for your safety, you have to check on that before deciding to attend. Some of the parties might be dangerous because of the place is being held. When going to a party, it's advised your best friend you trust. Before attending the party, you can go through the above tips to make the right decision.