HOW TO ENJOY SEX AND ACTUALLY ORGASM EVERY TIME
What is sex if you don't find pleasure in it? The main reason why we even indulge in this is to find pleasure. Pleasing yourself or your partner during sex is not such a hard task, that is, if you know all the right spots to hit to achieve clitoral, G-spot, A-spot, and U-spot orgasm. Communication and going slow will also help make your partner cum every time.
It is often said that orgasm is the peak of sex. I bet we have all heard generic tips on having an orgasm: relax, focus on foreplay, grab some lube. Rowland & Gutierrez (2017) suggested that climaxing has four stages. It starts with sexual excitement, then a plateau followed by orgasm and resolution. When it comes to orgasm, it is not always about the G-spot and the clitoris. There are different types of orgasm, a whole world of erogenous zones, and many paths to explore. Orgasms are subjective to experience, and everyone feels different. This article will help you broaden your orgasmic horizons, from clitoral to nipple orgasm and everything in between. Below are ways in which you can enjoy sex.
Go slow
Slow and steady is the way to go to enjoy sex. Start with slow, gentle strokes and build the intensity and pressure as the arousal builds. When playing with the vagina, put just the right amount of pressure in a typically slow tapping or circular movement that gives her a pleasurable sensation. You may experience what many call a full-body orgasm. A circular motion can also help get an orgasm into motion with toys.
Find the Right Toys
If clitoral stimulation is your thing, there are tons of vibrators designed specifically to light up this area. According to Quinn et al. (2006), the cervix is a narrow channel at the apex of the vaginal canal. The expressway to experiencing clitoral orgasm is by pleasure from these toys. You can use an internal toy with a hook, something like an ark, to apply pressure on the internal vaginal wall while using a separate toy for external stimulation to try and achieve a blended orgasm.
Communicate
There is no direct route to orgasm, and we all have different preferences. Therefore, talk to your partner, and tell them what feels good and what is not doing it for you. It is not necessarily verbal communication, but still, communication is key. Pay attention to your partner's breathing movements and reactions so you are always on the same page.
Get Involved
Unless you are role-playing and completely submissive, you need to get involved if you want to have an orgasm. Your partner is not a psychic, no matter how well you think they know you. Be it moaning, talking dirty, whispering, shouting- whatever your thing is, just do that. When you get involved on all fronts, it's much easier to get an orgasm.
Stay Present
It is easier said than done, but staying completely in the moment is the best way to experience the best orgasm. Concentrate on what is happening and focus on the nerve impulses. There is nothing better to do than get your head in the game. You need to forget about all other things and focus on nothing but the sensation you are experiencing. All other things will be there after the orgasm.
Stimulate the Nipples
There is no denying that nipples are a major erogenous zone. To some, they are so sensitive that the right amount of arousal and stimulation can trigger an orgasm. The genital sensory cortex, which is the same region impacted by the vagina and clitoris stimulation, is activated through nipple play. With the same attention you give through stimulating your clitoris, you can also achieve nipple orgasm.
Clitoral Orgasm
The clitoral orgasm, just as the name, comes from the clitoris. The easiest way to make most women orgasm is via clitoral stimulation. During sex, your partner can stimulate your clitoris by rubbing their index and middle finger in a gentle circular motion to make you orgasm.
The G-spot Orgasm
The G-spot is part of the inner clitoris. G-spot stimulation, when done properly, can lead to squirting, otherwise known as female ejaculation. For those who enjoy internal orgasms, "G" marks the spot. The squishy part located about an inch inside the vaginal canal is like the epitome of the internal clitoris.
A-spot Orgasm
The A-spot orgasms are rare for several reasons. Most people don't know that it exists, and there remains confusion about it. While some think A-spot is short for anal, the A-spot refers to the anterior fornix erogenous zone. It is located beyond the G-spot, higher up on the vaginal wall, and away from the anus.
Cervical Orgasm
It is difficult to distinguish between cervical, vaginal, G-spot, and clitoral orgasms. Different nerves are believed to communicate with the brain depending on the stimulated area. It can be rather difficult to isolate one region exclusively during sex. Cervical orgasm occurs when pressure is applied through deep penetration. Cervical penetration is inherently more intense, intimate, and euphoric than other types of orgasms.
U-spot Orgasm
The U-spot probably makes you think about urine, and you are not that far. It is located in the vulval vestibule in an upside-down, U position, surrounding the urethra. It is the tissue surrounding the hole pee comes out of. It is important to realize that the U-spot is far from a golden shower. Some people like playing with this area in conjunction with the G-spot. The U-spot can be stimulated by rubbing your index and middle finger on either side of the urethral opening and the vestibule.
Conclusion
No matter what type of orgasm you want to experience, there are some universal truths to help prime your body and boost your arousal. Getting involved and communicating with your partner will help you enjoy the sex and make it easier to orgasm. At the end of the day, you want pleasure, and you need to find the best way to achieve this.
References
Rowland, D., & Gutierrez, B. R. (2017). Phases Of The Sexual Response Cycle.
Quinn, M. A., Benedet, J. L., Odicino, F., Maisonneuve, P., Beller, U., Creasman, W. T., ... & Pecorelli, S. (2006). Carcinoma Of The Cervix Uteri. International Journal Of Gynecology & Obstetrics, 95, S43-S103.