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HOW TO PERFORM THE VENUS BUTTERFLY TECHNIQUE, TIPS, AND GUIDELINES

HOW TO PERFORM THE VENUS BUTTERFLY TECHNIQUE, TIPS, AND GUIDELINES

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HOW TO PERFORM THE VENUS BUTTERFLY TECHNIQUE, TIPS, AND GUIDELINES

  • by Jekaterina Gussarova

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🦋 Venus Butterfly Technique Summary!

🌼 Find your rhythm—gentle and steady movements create the magic!

💖 Communication is key—let your partner know what feels good!

✨ Explore different speeds—mix it up for a sensational experience!

🌀 Use lube for that slippery, dreamy glide—nothing beats it!

💡 Expert Tips for Mastering the Venus Butterfly!

🌙 Set the scene—lighting and mood can elevate the experience!

🌈 Experiment with angles—everyone's body is a unique wonderland!

👀 Keep an eye on your partner’s reactions—those little cues are gold!

💫 Have fun and don’t overthink it—relaxation is the ultimate key!

If you are familiar with the Venus butterfly, a sex toy, you may be wondering, what on earth is the Venus butterfly technique again? Venus butterfly is a popular sex toy that responds appropriately when called on clitoral stimulation duties. What about the Venus butterfly technique? This blog discusses the ins and outs of the technique, including how to perform it. Take a seat. The class is on.

Foreplay is a fundamental aspect of satisfying sex. It gets both of you excited for the main event. Skipping foreplay sets the stage for mental health issues, including sexual performance anxiety. With a sexual performance-dominated mind, you are less likely to satisfy your partner. The common forms of foreplay include kissing, cuddling, dirty-talking, and eating each other’s out. Harris (1995) stated that dirty talking is one of the most distinguishing features of sex. Unfortunately, it can be challenging to warm up for the main, even if you don't know the techniques for giving your woman or vagina-having person the best oral sex. 

What Is the Venus Butterfly Technique?

The Venus butterfly technique is a sex position that focuses on pleasuring the person with female chemistry internally and externally. In other words, it allows simultaneous clitoral and G spot stimulation as Christina (2011) described. Also known as the one-hour orgasm, the Venus Butterfly sees the use of the tongue, penis, or sex toys to achieve internal and external stimulation. Stimulating the clitoris and the G spot or vagina results in blended orgasms. 

As part of the foreplay, eating your partner out should not make them reach an orgasm. This is why experts recommend practicing edging with the Venus Butterfly technique. Edging is a sexual technique that involves pushing your partner close to an orgasm, taking a small break, slowing things down, and continuing to pleasure them again. This technique makes your woman or vagina-having person experience more serious orgasms than usual.

How To Assume the Venus Butterfly Sex Position

The receiving partner should lie on their back with their legs spread and bent comfortably. To make it even better, set pillows underneath the receiving partner's bottom half to make them elevated. This gives the top partner optimal access to the receiving partner's genitalia (the clit and G spot). Once the receiving partner is positioned, the giving partner lies or kneels between their legs and gets into the play with their tongue, fingers, or sex toys. Alternatively, you can have the receiving partner at the edge of your bed with their legs resting on your shoulders. This allows you to simultaneously stimulate their external and internal sweet spots while kneeling on the floor.

Options To Try

Eat your partner out with your tongue and penetrate them with your fingers. Slip your two fingers inside her vagina, curved to ensure you reach and stimulate the G-spot accordingly. If you have a G-spot vibrator, this is also the best time to whip it out. Lick her clitoris and penetrate her vagina with the vibrator. Run the vibrator on her clitoris and simultaneously stroke her G-spot with your fingers. Another option is to run the vibrator on her clitoris and use your tongue on her vulva and vaginal opening. 

Getting Into It

If you are new to the Venus Butterfly technique, here is how to get into it.

Start with Foreplay

According to Kreuter et al. (2011), foreplay makes one relax and enjoy sex. Build up your partner's mood for oral stimulation by caressing, rubbing, or kissing her. While kissing, focus on her inner thighs and around her "girl". Spend 5 to 7 minutes on foreplay and move to the second step.

Introduce Your Tongue into the Play

After building anticipation and bringing her to the peak arousal, introduce your tongue into the play. Again, don't go on her clitoris just yet. Take some time on her labia, vulva, and clitoral hood.

Attack her Clitoris

After working around her vulva, it is time to reveal the prize. Find your way to the clitoris, the most hugely popular part of the female anatomy. Since it is usually under the clitoral hood, you may want to use your fingers to bring it to light. Once found, stimulate it with your tongue and simultaneously stroke her G-spot with your fingers. Chalker (2018) illustrated that the G-spot can also be stimulated by sex toys, such as vibrators. You can also use the G-spot vibrator for internal action as you tease her clitoris with your magical tongue.

Back Off

You don’t want her to get off just yet. For this reason, when she is close to orgasming, back off. Backing off means shifting your attention from her clitoris to other areas of the vagina.

Shift Your Attention to Her Clitoris Again

After leaving her to “cool”, return to the clit. You may want to slow things down this time because she is more likely to be aroused faster than the first trip to her clitoris. Keep an eye on her noises and movements to avoid getting her off rather quickly.

Stroke Her G-Spot

The G-spot is an elusive zone found 2-3 inches in the vagina. It comes second to the clitoris in the female anatomy because it harbors a fewer sensitive nerve ending. Since the G-spot is located on the upper vaginal wall or close to the belly button, you may want to curve your two middle fingers before inserting them in her vagina. The G-spot feels bumpy when touched. While showing her G spot some love, simultaneously lick her clitoris. This brings her to a pretty fast and more intense double orgasm.

Practice Cupping

Cup your partner’s vagina as they “cum” with your hand to hold their sexual energy. Since it is also soothing, you can refer to it as aftercare for your oral sex session

The Bottom Line

The Venus butterfly technique is a surefire way to add flavor to your sexual routine. When correctly done, this technique is a direct ticket to the world of the intense G-spot and clitoral orgasm. This collaboration is usually referred to as blended orgasm, which is a big deal to women who do not experience sexual pleasure during vaginal intercourse alone. Before experimenting with the Venus butterfly technique, you may want to know where your woman is on the pleasure scale. This is where open communication comes in handy. You may not get things right during the first session. However, a few trials can go all the way to make a difference.

References

Kreuter, M., Taft, C., Siösteen, A., & Biering-Sørensen, F. (2011). Women's sexual functioning and sex life after spinal cord injury. Spinal cord49(1), 154-160.

Christina, E. (2011). The book of kink: Sex beyond the missionary. Penguin.

Chalker, R. (2018). The clitoral truth. Seven Stories Press.


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