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Orgasmic meditation involves a partner stroking the left quadrant part of the clitoris, which is the most sensitive part. The stroking is done gently for 15 minutes using a lubricated finger. Well, you might be asking yourself how exactly this works as a form of masturbation. You need to understand that the practice isn't for women alone to reach the end goal. During the 15 minutes, the focus is removing any other distractions and prioritizing the process of pleasure.

Orgasmic meditation is done with the mindful aspect. All you need is to focus purely on the orgasm despite other thoughts that may come in. It involves focusing on the body rather than within the mind. It comes about when you are present in the moment. You do not need to focus strongly on how long it will take to get to the climax. 

Instructions for Orgasmic Meditation

• Make sure your environment is relaxing and comfortable by setting up a "nest." You can use a yoga mat, firm cushion, or blanket since they are essential for stroking.
• Have a hand towel within reach.
• Get yourself into a comfortable position.
• You need to set a 13-minute timer and additional 2 minutes, making it to a total of 15 minutes.
• The person doing the stroking should describe color, texture, and location.
• The person stroking needs to apply lube to their finger and inquire if the person being stroked is ready. If ready, then begin stroking the upper left-hand quadrant.
• The stroker should apply down strokes when the timer dings at 13 minutes
• Pressure should only be applied to the partner's genital when the second timer dings until both partners feel back in their bodies.
• Use a towel to wipe the lube from the genitals to the hand, and finally, you can put the nest away.

Health Benefits of Orgasmic Meditation

It Reduces Anxiety

As you go about your daily activities, you may experience anxiety from time to time. There are different levels of anxiety, and they come with different effects on a person. Some women may find it hard to get to climax due to anxiety since it creates a lot of busy thoughts that distract and affect feelings of arousal.

It Helps to Fight Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Post-traumatic stress disorder is a severe anxiety disorder that triggers a fight response to traumatic problems. Such problems may include anything from injury threat to death, whether from an assault, combat sexual abuse, or physical abuse. It may also include trauma. Any trauma can cause problems within the sexual areas. This will affect an individual from arousal and desire to orgasm. If the trauma is unprocessed, it will affect the sex orgasm the same way it may affect the brain.

It Combats Depression and Antidepressants

Low libido and orgasm problems might be caused as a result of depression. Well, this may be less common unless you are taking antidepressants. According to Wellbutrin, almost any antidepressant may cause difficulty in orgasm. Such a problem should be reported back to the prescribing physician. You can also use a vibrator or add more stimulation and longer foreplay if you need to stay on your medication.

It Corrects Body Dysmorphia or Image Issues

This is a psychiatric disorder where people see a flaw in their mind that is not there. Such disorders may make one obsessed with a slight body imperfection. It is more than disliking a particular part of your body for whatever reason. It can get in the way of reaching orgasm as its fixation can interfere with how someone copes daily. Nevertheless, feeling self-conscious generally can lead to losing your orgasm due to destruction.

Watching porn may instill wrong ideas into your mind, and it will end up affecting your sex life as you may not know if you please your partner enough, which may make you self-conscious with your body in certain positions. Most people don't know that porn is a big misconception as most things are fake. If you need maximum pleasure, you need to let go and allow it to happen, which most people find a major problem.

Unrealistic Expectations

An orgasm might be one of the things that the media can change our perception of reality. What we see in porn, movies, and what we read in older magazines has shaped the way most women believe as far as orgasm is concerned. Such feelings can lead them to miss their orgasm when it occurs. The media has made orgasm feel like something to peel you off the ceiling. Well, that is not the case.

Sometimes, when women anticipate such orgasm to happen, and it turns out the opposite, they get disturbed psychologically. Women need to understand that not all of them can achieve multiple orgasms. Not every woman even has an obvious orgasm. If they keep anticipating such, they may end up missing their orgasm.

Orgasm is not the end goal of orgasmic meditation, but it comes with many health benefits associated with regular meditation. Meditation opens your ability to relax and communicate. By doing so, you will experience increased circulation and improved body image. It will further improve your sleep quality and increase your libido. The practice of orgasmic meditation shouldn't be the end of all things. Mindful pleasure is great. But there is nothing wrong with also enjoying more erotic pleasure and orgasm. orgasmic meditation is simply combining mindful and elongated pleasure, and it is fairly harmless.

The Bottom Line

Reaching orgasm can feel elusive for many women. It is worth determining whether something gets in the way of orgasm if you get into trouble when climaxing. Some of the factors that may contribute to difficulty getting to climax include anxiety, depression, and many more. It is advisable to practice a little more patience and more understanding of how women's orgasm is connected to the mind. If a woman is preoccupied with how well she responds to her partner, she will lose her orgasm.