ARE MALE MULTIPLE ORGASMS POSSIBLE?
First, you are turned on. You are really hard and can't control it. Your skin flashes, your breathing gets hard, and your heart is beating. Your legs and butt stiff up. You get no return as you feel the contractions and spasms coming. That heavenly feeling for like seconds overtakes you as you orgasm, release, and your erection is gone. That is what goes during a male orgasm. Most men tend to ejaculate while they orgasm. An orgasm results from built-up muscle tension being released not only through the genital areas but also other erogenous parts of the body.
According to Sayin (2012), women can have multiple orgasms. However, men can also teach themselves to achieve multiple orgasms without periods of re-arousal. How is this possible in men? Studies have been made on multiple orgasms in men. It is believed that men can achieve multiple orgasms with practice. How can one get to master multiple orgasms? First, let us look at what happens when a man orgasms.
The Biology Behind Orgasms
The result for most men is to ejaculate when they orgasm. But they are two distinct experiences, as stated by Mike Kleist in his book The Secret to Male Multiple Orgasms and Other Sex Skills. This difference is what makes it possible for men to achieve multiple orgasms. Ejaculation is the release of the sperms from the male reproductive organ due to an orgasm.
According to Rowland & Gutierrez (2017). orgasms are the climax of emotional and physical reactions brought about by pelvic muscle contractions. Ejaculation, on the other hand, is a two-part process from the rising testicles followed by the contraction phase or emission stage. The sphincter and prostate contract and the sperms are pressed through and shoot through the urethra in the expulsion stage. Following ejaculation is the refraction phase, where the penis loses erection and testicles sink back to place. Controlling ejaculation reflex is what will lead to men having multiple orgasms.
Delayed Ejaculation
According to Parnham & Serefoglu (2016), delayed ejaculation is also known as dry ejaculation. It is key to multiple orgasms. Timing and choosing when to ejaculate. According to Raveendran & Agarwal (2021), men can avoid the emission stage by strengthening their pelvic muscles, learning ways to relax, and increasing their awareness of orgasm. Spreading the energy throughout the body will help subside the need to ejaculate, and the male will conserve the sexual energy. Delayed ejaculation is voluntary as opposed to premature ejaculation, which is caused by factors such as:
Strong Urge to Ejaculate
When the excitement builds up and the pelvic muscles contract, it becomes hard to stop ejaculation.
Overly Excited
This mostly happens to men when they start experiencing arousal. They get so overwhelmed with excitement that it ends before even starting.
Anxiety and Stress
Anxiety, stress, and guilt can make it hard to stop ejaculation. This can later cause rapid ejaculation.
Programmed to Go Fast
men are programmed by youth to do it quick, fast, and get over with it. This can lead to delayed ejaculation.
Goal to Orgasm
When we see the only purpose of having sex is to achieve the big 'O', premature ejaculation is bound to happen. This is because that is the only thing that will be in mind.
Unresolved Psychological Issues
These issues include relationship or work stress.
General Stress
If your health is not well maintained, the man can have weak stamina to help him hold for longer during sex.
Prostatitis
This is the inflammation and enlargement of the prostate glands. This is one of the causes of premature ejaculation, but it can be improved through natural remedies.
Other Types of Orgasms
Women can have clitoral and vaginal orgasms. Apart from orgasms associated with ejaculation, men can also be able to orgasm by stimulating other erogenous parts of their body when touched right. Men's erogenous parts include the nipples, chest, prostate, and anus. The use of sex toys can help enhance the experience. The prostate is the male G -spot. Even without penetration, one can stimulate the prostate by rubbing on the perineum. The perineum is the skin between the balls and anus. Massage the perineum using your fingers or a vibrating sex toy to get to the G-spot. To increase the intensity of the orgasm, you can try the following things:
Orgasms Control
This can be done by holding off your orgasms. The moment you feel an orgasm coming, change the stimulation until the urge to orgasm goes away.
Kegel Exercises
Kegels or pelvic muscle exercises improve orgasm control in both men and women. Men can do this by holding the muscles that help control the passing of urine.
Breathing Exercises
Most people tend to hold their breath and focus on orgasm. However, breathing exercises help maximize pleasure. Focus on your breathing and slowing down can lead to longer arousal and a powerful orgasm.
Benefits of Multiple Orgasms
One of the benefits of multiple orgasms is a longer period of sex for you. This can lead to prolonged hours spent having pleasure from orgasms while enjoying having sexual intercourse. This makes you connect with your partner deeper. Your partner will, in turn, be sexually satisfied while you get to preserve your energy. Orgasms will make you feel euphoric and increase the well-being of your relationships.
Conclusion
Men can achieve multiple orgasms by practicing delayed ejaculation. This is possible through mastering sexual energy by being present in the moment and conscious of the whole process. Instead of only focusing on achieving an orgasm, they can learn to make love with their heart and spirit and separate physical ejaculation from orgasms. Kegel and breathing exercises can also prolong and intensify the orgasm experience. Though not all men can achieve multiple orgasms, it is possible with the techniques outlined in this article. Professional help can be sort if one is experiencing problems with arousal or ejaculation.
References
Sayin, U. (2012). Doors of female orgasmic consciousness: New theories on the peak experience and mechanisms of female orgasm and expanded sexual response. NeuroQuantology, 10(4).
Rowland, D., & Gutierrez, B. R. (2017). Phases of the Sexual Response Cycle.
Parnham, A., & Serefoglu, E. C. (2016). Retrograde ejaculation, painful ejaculation, and hematospermia. Translational andrology and urology, 5(4), 592.
Raveendran, A. V., & Agarwal, A. (2021). Premature ejaculation-current concepts in the management: a narrative review. International Journal of Reproductive BioMedicine, 19(1), 5.